I usually just go do some work....build something, tear something down, get to some of those projects I put off. No offense, but life is too short to waste time on some broad that wants nothing to do with you sexually or romantically. And I know what it's like to watch them date losers. The hottest ones always like to be treated like crap. There are always more fish in the sea though. Don't believe me??? Spend a weekend in NYC or South Beach, Miami.....you will be cured.
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How Do You All Deal With Heartache ?
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Move on, and get on with your life. Take it one day at a time, stay busy with things that make you happy. Over time (it will take time) you'l feel better. Just like any injury, it'll take time to heal. Might leave a scar, might not, only time will tell. Oh, and don't dwell on "would of", "could of", "should of", that'll just make things worse.
Go on now, suck it up, start living again.
Go on now, suck it up, start living again.
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Well to quote Paul Simon, There must be 50 ways to leave your lover:
The Chorus
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You dont need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
Go do things that excite and/or interest you. At first you may find that doing things by yourself may be theraputic (like making knives, for instance). It doesn't always feel right to just try to find another relationship right off the bat.
Finding a measure of self respect and reliance will allow you to have less dependent relationships in the future. Learn to recognize non-desirable traits in women (and in your own behavoir) before getting in over your head. There are many different types out there and you don't have to repeat past mistakes if you can understand what was wrong with your failed affairs.
The Chorus
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You dont need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
Go do things that excite and/or interest you. At first you may find that doing things by yourself may be theraputic (like making knives, for instance). It doesn't always feel right to just try to find another relationship right off the bat.
Finding a measure of self respect and reliance will allow you to have less dependent relationships in the future. Learn to recognize non-desirable traits in women (and in your own behavoir) before getting in over your head. There are many different types out there and you don't have to repeat past mistakes if you can understand what was wrong with your failed affairs.
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Smooth Operator said:
Andrew,
In a way you should count yourself fortunate because at least you had something with her once. Try being completely in love with a woman who is closer to you than she is with anyone else, shares everything, cuddles up with you, let's you be affectionate to her, talks to you for hours, runs to you whenever she's hurt, upset, worried, anxious, etc. but won't give you even a ghost of a chance to be anything more. She gives you the emotional intimacy but then sleeps with and chases after losers who only want a quick piece of ass and consequently phuck and chuck her. Your gut twists up in knots thinking of her with someone else and worse still, she whines to you about not being able to find anyone decent when you're right under her phucking nose. That, my friend, is pure hell on earth.
Regrettably, there's no way to ease that pain. All you can do is suck it up and let your heart bleed out until the feelings eventually atrophy and die. Meanwhile you'll kick the cat, punch the wall, slam doors, grit your teeth, lose sleep, shed some tears, and suffer.
The pain can be temporarily masked with a decent call girl or phuck buddy, though.
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As hard as it is to hear the advice (over and over); you are better off moving on. As with many others in this thread, been there and done that, still have the scars to show it.
It is no good to drag yourself through perpetual misery of a situation that is out of your control. You are obviously available and interested, but she isn't playing along. There is nothing you will ever be able to do to make her see otherwise. It just isn't worth abasing yourself.
There is no way to say the pain will ever go away - because it may not. When you find "the one", you won't have to do ANYTHING to prove your worth to her. She'll be totally into you! It will be effortless and simple.
I still suffer from relationship wounding that happened over 5 years ago. I waited a few years before looking for a relationship because I didn't want to drag emotional baggage into a future relationship. My wife is understanding about my past hurt, and knows that I can be sensitive about it as it's part of my past - part of me. However, compared to my past hurt, my relationship with my wife makes up for it in so many ways that it's not even worth comparing!
Somewhere out there, there is someone who will love you AS YOU ARE.
OK, enough of the mushy stuff; how about those Green Bay Packers?!?!?!!
It is no good to drag yourself through perpetual misery of a situation that is out of your control. You are obviously available and interested, but she isn't playing along. There is nothing you will ever be able to do to make her see otherwise. It just isn't worth abasing yourself.
There is no way to say the pain will ever go away - because it may not. When you find "the one", you won't have to do ANYTHING to prove your worth to her. She'll be totally into you! It will be effortless and simple.
I still suffer from relationship wounding that happened over 5 years ago. I waited a few years before looking for a relationship because I didn't want to drag emotional baggage into a future relationship. My wife is understanding about my past hurt, and knows that I can be sensitive about it as it's part of my past - part of me. However, compared to my past hurt, my relationship with my wife makes up for it in so many ways that it's not even worth comparing!
Somewhere out there, there is someone who will love you AS YOU ARE.
OK, enough of the mushy stuff; how about those Green Bay Packers?!?!?!!
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Smooth Operator, know this young man. She will grow into a new relationship. She will have a family of her own and you will be in her thoughts every now and again. She will grow old. She will feel the pain of her younger years when she knew you and the 'what ever happened to you thought' will enter her mind. You will be in a satisfied relationship with a woman who loves you because you are so deep in thought and high regard. She knows she is messing with your head and guess what? Just let her go. You will be ok.
You will be ok.
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Come on Cindy, that's not good enough. We want to know that the worthless beatch will be utterly despondent and miserable in her old age, spending her last few years drooling in a nursing home (into which her thoughtless and uncaring children will have deposited her) mumbling his name and going through Depends like they're being sold wholesale - all the while attended to by young, svelte nurses who are too busy painting their nails to remember that feeding time was three hours ago. Gum that soggy tapioca, you heartbreaking piece of shyte!! :grumpy:
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Lots of good advice here, Smooth. Time will heal the heartache, it just takes time. one45auto was probably just kidding around but you don't need that that kind of bitter and negative baggage to carry around. That attitude would do you more harm than good and make the healing process drag on and on. Just continue to march.
As Thomason said, just continue to march.
They lady has made her choices, even if she has not verbalized them. She has made her choice about whom to date. Even if you did get back with her, she would still do as she chooses (probably more infidelity with jerks). From what you said, the lady has problems that would suck you in and erode your life, too, if you stayed with her. Let her go, move on.
Do all the things you put off when you were with her. Get another job, read, learn another language, whatever it takes to not focus on the ache and dreams of being with her.
Do that for six months or a year, time will take away the yearnings for her. After a time, you'll have improved yourself or gotten a nice savings account. Either one being more beneficial than a relationship with a person who uses and abuses. Plus, you'll be well beyond the rebound stage.
I'm sorry if this seems rather brutish and insensitive, but I've seem other guys in similar straits, and they've regretted going back to old relationships.
They lady has made her choices, even if she has not verbalized them. She has made her choice about whom to date. Even if you did get back with her, she would still do as she chooses (probably more infidelity with jerks). From what you said, the lady has problems that would suck you in and erode your life, too, if you stayed with her. Let her go, move on.
Do all the things you put off when you were with her. Get another job, read, learn another language, whatever it takes to not focus on the ache and dreams of being with her.
Do that for six months or a year, time will take away the yearnings for her. After a time, you'll have improved yourself or gotten a nice savings account. Either one being more beneficial than a relationship with a person who uses and abuses. Plus, you'll be well beyond the rebound stage.
I'm sorry if this seems rather brutish and insensitive, but I've seem other guys in similar straits, and they've regretted going back to old relationships.
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Smooth Operator said:
Take a dump in a box and mail it to her.
Get drunk and call her and tell her what a beeaatch she is and then go to her house and throw a brick through her window.
Sleep with her sister.
Sleep with her mom.
Sleep with her dad.
Hide a dead fish in her car.
Photoshop her face on a porn photo, make hundreds of copies and sell them on ebay.
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To cure heartache:
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Right now she sets her own destiny what ever that may be. Be it for the worse or for the better. You have a way with words that are profoundly profound......you need Nanny 911 to put you in time out.one45auto said:
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First stop seeing her. Tell her that you just can't do that anymore and MEAN IT. Then engage in your favorite activity, read, go hiking, fishing or anything else to keep your mind off of her. Then enjoy the rest of your life.
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Yeah hike a lot.But don't drink and hike,bad for the senses.Do sleep with her sister though.It doesn't help the heartache but a piece is a piece.I did it and it feels pretty good. :thumbup: 
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But seriously though...Time heals all wounds it may take a lot of time,tears,and what ifs but there's a lot of chicks out there.
Chin up and press forward.
Matt
:thumbup: :thumbup: But seriously though...Time heals all wounds it may take a lot of time,tears,and what ifs but there's a lot of chicks out there.
Chin up and press forward.
Matt
She is not treating you well. She wants you as a fall-back while she goes ahead and has put you into second place.
If she really likes you, she would not treat you like that. You have no chance at all with her, so don't even bother.
It's nothing to do with you, you could be a great guy, but she can't see it, or has chosen not to.
You can remain as her friend, but tell her you are not interested in talking about her love-life. If she wants to talk about knives, guns, work or politics, it's OK. You can tell her the reasons for your decision and behaviour. But realistically, better not to talk to her at all, at least for sometime.
Until you have washed her completely out of your mind. You can still have her as a friend, but never see her as a romantic interest again. Whatever she says, tell her you're not interested.
And look for others, somewhere out there is the one for you, I promise it.
If she really likes you, she would not treat you like that. You have no chance at all with her, so don't even bother.
It's nothing to do with you, you could be a great guy, but she can't see it, or has chosen not to.
You can remain as her friend, but tell her you are not interested in talking about her love-life. If she wants to talk about knives, guns, work or politics, it's OK. You can tell her the reasons for your decision and behaviour. But realistically, better not to talk to her at all, at least for sometime.
Until you have washed her completely out of your mind. You can still have her as a friend, but never see her as a romantic interest again. Whatever she says, tell her you're not interested.
And look for others, somewhere out there is the one for you, I promise it.