How does one non-awkwardly approach a knife-bro in the wild?

RevDevil said:
Minding one's own business is always a good idea too.
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Think I may give that a try. My old way isn't doing so well. I been just walking right up and saying, "I'll show you mine if you'll show me yours!"
 
If it looks like something decent, I ask. Usually it's a Kershaw or maybe Spyderco/Benchmade, and 99% of the time they don't really know what it is and I get looked at strangely.
 
highestpoint said:
Woah Mr. Grumpy pants. So what if he was making any kind of evaluations on you. You came here and said you're anti-social and somebody responded.. Seems to me that if you we're truly anti-social you would've ignored what he had to say and you would've been on your way.. but you responded. If you're going to be able to talk over the internet and forums then I would have to agree with THR-Thumper in that you are just non-confrontational.
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Whoa there Dr. Freud. This thread isn't about me, never was. And nowhere in this thread did I ask anyone for a psych evaluation or for their opinions about my personality. If I were going to ask anyone for such things, I certainly wouldn't ask total strangers who have never met me.

The moderators often say "Discuss the topic, not each other", and that's generally a policy I like to follow, but I guess some people are more interested in providing their amateur and unsolicited opinions of my psyche.

You want to make this personal, Ok, I'll play.

Here's my advice to you-

If you see a man you find attractive, don't pretend to be interested in their knife just to strike up a conversation with them. Just go up to them and tell them how hot you think they are. Who knows, they might be your soul mate.

And if some guy catches you staring at his crotch, don't lie and say that you were just looking at his knife. Be honest with him, and be honest with yourself. Tell him you really like his physique and that you want to hook up. Who knows, you might find true love.

But if you see me in public, don't waste your time. Although I am one handsome man, and although I have nothing against homosexuals, I'm not gay, and I would not be receptive to your romantic advances.

How's that for "non-confrontational". Were my evaluations of you anymore accurate than your evaluations of me. Hell, if there's ONE thing that people who actually know me would never say, it's that I am afraid of confrontation, quite the opposite.

You wanted to make this personal, there, now we've made this personal.
 
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Boy did that escalate quickly..

I don't generally approach people about knives unless I know them.
 
On occasion I notice knives clipped in some guys' pockets, but I never ask them about them. I can often identify the company, if not the knife, by a quick glance at the clip. I've noticed a number of Spydercos, especially stainless handled Police and Enduras/Delicas. Rarely a Benchmade or an Emersn. Most seem to be inexpensive stuff like Gerber, S&W, etc.

I'm not shy at all, but I'm not nearly as talkative as most people are. I tend not to strike up conversations with random strangers.

Jim
 
I just grab the stranger's crotch, compare the length to the length of his knife, and if they are close, he's worth talking to about it.
 
NJBillK said:
So... what your saying is, you don't ask about other people's knives?
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In my 45 years on this earth I have never asked a total stranger about their knife. I've seen countless people carrying knives, but I've never felt compelled, or had any reason to ask them about it.

Friends, family, and coworkers are a different matter. It's only natural to engage friends, family, and coworkers in conversation and talk about our stuff.

Of course, if I saw a stranger with a knife that I found very interesting but couldn't identify, like something I would consider buying, I wouldn't hesitate to ask about it. In such a situation, I would put my own interests above their right to be left alone.

As I said in my first post, I don't see anything wrong with asking a total stranger about their knife. I'm just not inclined to do it.

I know you don't like being asked about yours, but...


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It depends on the circumstances. If I'm on a knife forum, then I have no problem answering questions about my knives, which is something I have often done, even taking pictures to go along with my answers. Participating on this forum is something I CHOOSE to do, and since the subject of this forum is knives, it's only natural that I would be willing to answer questions about my knives.

But if I'm at the store, or eating in a restaurant, or playing with my kids at the park, etc, etc, I'm not there to talk knives, and I don't want total strangers coming up to me to ask me about my knives.

But this is not exclusive to knives. Under the circumstances I just listed, I don't want total strangers coming up to me and asking me about any of my stuff.

I have enough friends in my life, and I keep that list limited to only the best of people. I'm not looking to make any friends out of total strangers at this time. :)
 
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Sometimes it IS best to keep ones mouth shut. Risk vs Reward.
I definitely enjoy more organic discussions face to face with fellow knife nuts but Its always a gamble and takes a sense of social intelligence to read the appropriate situations.

I've definitely had a few slices of humbleberry pie to learn that some people just want to be left alone.

Being a very friendly, outgoing person I've learned that lesson early enough to pick up on the subtle cues to avoid certain people even though I know under other circumstances a great conversation could be had.
 
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I understand what it's like when nobody else you know shares your interest in something. But from experience I can tell you if you feel the need to cold approach strangers in public exclusively to talk about stuff you have an interest in, it's a very unusual way to manage an interest. You shouldn't be that desperate to talk about something. Your interest can wait for the appropriate time and setting, such as a club or online forum where conversation and interaction on the topic is invited. Even contacting the manufacturer of the knife to tell them how much you like their knife would be more appropriate and welcome. It's fine if you naturally find yourself in conversation with a stranger where they mention something about the weather to you or maybe the slow check out line you're both in and you happen to notice their knife. But out of the blue, just because you saw them, is always awkward. Some may respond better than others but, if you think about it, it's kind of a desperate way to satisfy an interest.
 
killgar said:
Whoa there Dr. Freud. This thread isn't about me, never was. And nowhere in this thread did I ask anyone for a psych evaluation or for their opinions about my personality. If I were going to ask anyone for such things, I certainly wouldn't ask total strangers who have never met me.





If you see a man you find attractive, don't pretend to be interested in their knife just to strike up a conversation with them. Just go up to them and tell them how hot you think they are. Who knows, they might be your soul mate.

But if you see me in public, don't waste your time. Although I am one handsome man, and although I have nothing against homosexuals, I'm not gay, and I would not be receptive to your romantic advances.
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It's not your fault. No. Really. It's not your fault. No. It's not your fault. Listen to me. It's not your fault.

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killgar said:
Whoa there Dr. Freud. This thread isn't about me, never was. And nowhere in this thread did I ask anyone for a psych evaluation or for their opinions about my personality. If I were going to ask anyone for such things, I certainly wouldn't ask total strangers who have never met me.

The moderators often say "Discuss the topic, not each other", and that's generally a policy I like to follow, but I guess some people are more interested in providing their amateur and unsolicited opinions of my psyche.

You want to make this personal, Ok, I'll play.

Here's my advice to you-

If you see a man you find attractive, don't pretend to be interested in their knife just to strike up a conversation with them. Just go up to them and tell them how hot you think they are. Who knows, they might be your soul mate.

And if some guy catches you staring at his crotch, don't lie and say that you were just looking at his knife. Be honest with him, and be honest with yourself. Tell him you really like his physique and that you want to hook up. Who knows, you might find true love.

But if you see me in public, don't waste your time. Although I am one handsome man, and although I have nothing against homosexuals, I'm not gay, and I would not be receptive to your romantic advances.

How's that for "non-confrontational". Were my evaluations of you anymore accurate than your evaluations of me. Hell, if there's ONE thing that people who actually know me would never say, it's that I am afraid of confrontation, quite the opposite.

You wanted to make this personal, there, now we've made this personal.
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fsir said:
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That was funny, I'll give you that. And perhaps even appropriate :D.

But perhaps a little clarification is in order-

The OP posted a thread topic. I replied to that topic. My reply was in no way an invitation for people to give their opinions of me as a person, and nor did I ask for such opinions.

Perhaps you are unfamiliar with the "forum etiquette" here, it goes like this- unless a member specifically asks for opinions of themselves as a person, then such opinions have no place here. The policy is "Discuss the topic, not each other". And this is a policy I like to follow.

Mr. Thumper, in his ONLY post in this thread at the time, chose not to discuss the topic in any way, but instead chose to single me out and give his unsolicited opinion of me as a person. He chose to get personal and cross THAT line. Naturally I objected, and made every effort to remain civil in my response.

Mr. Thumper apologized, and I let the matter drop, because that's the kind of guy I am. I'm not inclined to fixate on petty nonsense or start a forum war over nothing.

But then Highestpoint comes along and chooses to stick his nose into the matter, and throw gasoline on a dead fire by offering his unsolicited opinions of me as a person. Again, HE chose to make it personal, HE chose to cross THAT line.

People can say what they want, but when others on this forum choose to get personal, and publicly offer their unsolicited opinions of me as a person, I am inclined to respond, and not with my usual friendliness. I don't make a point of commenting on the personalities of other members, and I don't appreciate it when they make such personal comments about me.

I don't know how long you've been around this forum Fsir, I don't like to make presumptions based on posted join dates, but perhaps you should become more familiar with basic forum etiquette before you make your own judgements.
 
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NJBillK said:
It's the same as approaching a chic, but less likely that dinner will follow.


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Tldr, just be honest, straightforward, and talk to the person like you would want to be approached.
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Yes, just like that. You whip yours out, and say, "Now show me yours!" :D

We are talking about knives here, right?
 
killgar said:
That was funny, I'll give you that. And perhaps even appropriate :D.

But perhaps a little clarification is in order-

The OP posted a thread topic. I replied to that topic. My reply was in no way an invitation for people to give their opinions of me as a person, and nor did I ask for such opinions.

Perhaps you are unfamiliar with the "forum etiquette" here, it goes like this- unless a member specifically asks for opinions of themselves as a person, then such opinions have no place here. The policy is "Discuss the topic, not each other". And this is a policy I like to follow.

Mr. Thumper, in his ONLY post in this thread at the time, chose not to discuss the topic in any way, but instead chose to single me out and give his unsolicited opinion of me as a person. He chose to get personal and cross THAT line. Naturally I objected, and made every effort to remain civil in my response.

Mr. Thumper apologized, and I let the matter drop, because that's the kind of guy I am. I'm not inclined to fixate on petty nonsense or start a forum war over nothing.

But then Highestpoint comes along and chooses to stick his nose into the matter, and throw gasoline on a dead fire by offering his unsolicited opinions of me as a person. Again, HE chose to make it personal, HE chose to cross THAT line.

People can say what they want, but when others on this forum choose to get personal, and publicly offer their unsolicited opinions of me as a person, I am inclined to respond, and not with my usual friendliness. I don't make a point of commenting on the personalities of other members, and I don't appreciate it when they make such personal comments about me.

I don't know how long you've been around this forum Fsir, I don't like to make presumptions based on posted join dates, but perhaps you should become more familiar with basic forum etiquette before you make your own judgements.
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Despite my joking around, I still understood your point. I'm exceedingly handsome too and can't help attracting my share of the same gender even though I like women. I tend to handle it more with humor and patience than social withdrawal. I can't blame them, I'm a good looking guy. :D
 
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