I Can't Collect Anymore

I hear you Anthony. I've been doing the same. When I see a knife I want I really have to resist. I have enough knives to last several lifetimes. I'm putting more money in savings and spending more on my family.:thumbup:
 
anthony cheeseboro said:
Obviously simply owning more or bigger things will not make anyone happy. For what it is worth, I am already quite happy with my life right this minute. My health is OK, I do a decent job of living by my values, and I am fortunate to have the career I always wanted. Saving money and changing my habits will enhance what I already enjoy, and will certainly allow me to live better in the future. At best a new knife or a knife collection gives me a bit of pleasure, but putting more effort into making life better for my family makes happy in a much deeper and meaningful way than a knife or any other personal possession can ever match.
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Then why change it..? ;)

If it ain't broke don't fix it. ;)

Obviously I am not talking about buying everything in site that you want like mad, nobody with a family does that unless they are a real jerk.

In the end you do have to think about yourself also because if you don't then that will be a very deep hole to try and dig out off in the future.

You probably don't understand what I am getting at here, but you will one day if you go down that road.

A family is everyone as in the whole family... All the members of the family.

What I am trying to say is if there is something that you want here and there you should be able to get it, if not then there are some real serious issues going on that if it was me involved they would be getting addressed quickly...

I ended both of my marriages because they got too lopsided, all about them if you know what I mean...

Something to think about...... ;)
 
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Ankerson said:
Then why change it..? ;)

If it ain't broke don't fix it. ;)

Obviously I am not talking about buying everything in site that you want like mad, nobody with a family does that unless they are a real jerk.

In the end you do have to think about yourself also because if you don't then that will be a very deep hole to try and dig out off in the future.

You probably don't understand what I am getting at here, but you will one day if you go down that road.

A family is everyone as in the whole family... All the members of the family.

What I am trying to say is if there is something that you want here and there you should be able to get it, if not then there are some real serious issues going on that if it was me involved they would be getting addressed quickly...

I ended both of my marriages because they got too lopsided, all about them if you know what I mean...

Something to think about...... ;)
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I think you are reading way too much of yourself into my posts.
 
Ankerson said:
Not really. ;)

I am reading a lot of what I have also seen over the years when I was involved in the Church and did some counseling in certian areas.
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This is starting to look like trolling, but I will just say that you just don't know me. You only have read a few posts. You don't know my relationship with my wife or what goals I have. It seems that you were unhappy in your marriages, and that you are determined to see the same in others.
 
Knives are no biggie. Just keep the ones you need and get rid of the rest. To much going own in life to fret about knives.

As for me, I'll keep buying some even if I have to sell most of my guns, and keep driving a truck with over 200,000 miles. But thats just me, and my choice.
 
This argument is becoming way too heated, for no reason. Just settle it at the OP is done frivolously spending for knives, because his wife and kids are far more important. Good to see that he has his priorities straight (not saying he didn't before, I assume he still had family first).
 
anthony cheeseboro said:
All material possessions are not equal. A bigger house will be a nicer home for my family, and it will allow all of us to live more comfortably, and enjoy life more. My knives are simply fun for me, and frankly, that fun is diminished if I feel that resources used on knives could have made the whole family more happy. As I have said before, I have changed over time, and the sort of purchases that made me happy ten or twelve years ago seem empty to me now. I will always love knife collecting, but for now, I don't have the passion for it I had a decade ago.
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:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup:

This happens over time as one raises a family, or should happen. Your attention is going someplace else for a change, and your passion for collecting all those little metal trinkets called knives takes a back seat for raising you kids right. If this means one has less money to indulge self centered passions, so be it. When we become parents we take on something called responsibility for these little people who look to us for everything. It's up to us to get them off to as good a start as we can. If this means spending that 150 dollars on a toutor for the kid to get a better education so's to get a better SAT score and gain admittance to a better school or a new 150 dollar knife, then we forgo the knife. Or if we have some extra money to spend, instead of indulging ourselves, we take the better half to a nice bread and breakfast Inn for a night away.

I've been married for 40 years this month, and that woman has helped me raise three children. I don't mind spending money on her now and then. She's been an invaluble and priceless partner to me, in addition to putting up with me. So when I sold off my small collections of Randall's I had accumulated in my younger and single day's, I used the money to taker her on a around the country trip to most all the National forests. Spent a month on the road, and she was worth every penny of it. Now we have the photo's and memeories that will last us a lifetime. I could not have pulled of this life without her.

Getting to the point where your passion cools a little, and you start thinking of your family, is called growing up. You face up to what your duties are, instead of keeping on buying more knives that you don't need. I salute Anthony for doing the right thing. Providing a bigger house for your family is more than just materialism, it's called leaving a financial legacy to your loved ones that can be used for setting up a trust fund for your grand children, security in your own old age so you don't become a burden to your kids, or whatever. When you have those little people called kids, that are looking up to you, you invest in their future, not buying knives for your own pleasure.

As human beings, we evolve into different stages along our trip. Anthony is evolving. To not evolve would be shame. There's more to life than knives.

Carl.
 
Cold Kill said:
This argument is becoming way too heated, for no reason. Just settle it at the OP is done frivolously spending for knives, because his wife and kids are far more important. Good to see that he has his priorities straight (not saying he didn't before, I assume he still had family first).
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Actually, it isn't. This is a normal discussion by a lot of people's standards and definitions. With all due respect, please do not try and curtail the discussion because of your observations. Allow the people making replies to moderate themselves, if it does get "heated" the Supermods will come in chill everything out. ;)
 
anthony cheeseboro said:
This is starting to look like trolling, but I will just say that you just don't know me. You only have read a few posts. You don't know my relationship with my wife or what goals I have. It seems that you were unhappy in your marriages, and that you are determined to see the same in others.
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Just looking at things with a blind eye with no bias from what I have read. ;)

That's all that I am going to say on the matter as it seems I have struck a cord or two so I will leave it at that.. ;)
 
Ankerson said:
Just looking at things with a blind eye with no bias from what I have read. ;)

That's all that I am going to say on the matter as it seems I have struck a cord or two so I will leave it at that.. ;)
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No man is above bias. If you think you are you are just fooling yourself. I'm not mad at what you say, I just think that a man who judges another on the basis of half a dozen internet posts is probably reading too much out of too little.
 
anthony cheeseboro said:
No man is above bias. If you think you are you are just fooling yourself. I'm not mad at what you say, I just think that a man who judges another on the basis of half a dozen internet posts is probably reading too much out of too little.
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I can be very objective and completely neutral, one of the things I have always been good at.

The reason why I posted this:

Ankerson said:
It's about moderation really, living modestly.

The point that I was trying to get across when the OP quoted what he did was they aren't telling us to completely STOP getting things we need or want. ;)

What that really means is that material objects are what they are, just things, no more than that.

But, they also tell us to pay ourselves and to do something for ourselves also.

So that would be 10% for ourselves, 10% for the Church and the other 80% would be for other responsibilities such as family, bills ect.

So it's everything in moderation, we can still have our things that we want as long as it's in our 10% of what we pay ourselves, and we can save up to get the things we want.

That isn't and doesn't mean cutting ourselves completely off giving away 100% of what we make to someone else, that's not living, that's just existing and barely at that.

Priorities are what they are, so are responsibilities, we all have them, but if we cut ourselves out of the equation completely then we are just existing and working for everyone else other than ourselves.

Nothing good ever comes out of that situation for the one who has been cut out.

A bigger house is a material object also, so that's why I pointed out what I did before about more going on that was posted here, a lot more going on....
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RevDevil said:
Actually, it isn't. This is a normal discussion by a lot of people's standards and definitions. With all due respect, please do not try and curtail the discussion because of your observations. Allow the people making replies to moderate themselves, if it does get "heated" the Supermods will come in chill everything out. ;)
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I won't get heated because I will not let it get that way, just won't happen, from my end anyway. :)
 
Ankerson said:
I can be very objective and completely neutral, one of the things I have always been good at.

The reason why I posted this:
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If you think you have no bias, you are just fooling yourself. The mere fact that you cite your own experience means that you are leaning on a particular point of view and values. Your experiences are not universal and neither are your values.
 
Hey Tony! If you can't collect knives anymore, maybe it's time to pick up a few hobbies that allow you to use 'em! For example, I've recently rediscovered my kitchen and have been enjoying making some tasty meals that involve a lot of chopping and slicing. I'm a single fella with no kids (that I know of... ha!) so if I don't cook, I don't eat. I've discovered that I really don't mind cooking, kind of enjoy the 'zen' of it actually, and it gives me a good excuse to use some of my knives from the collection. Sadly, I now want a kick-@ss kitchen knife set and they are expensive... :/ Sometimes you can't win for losing... :D

Best regards, brother!
 
anthony cheeseboro said:
If you think you have no bias, you are just fooling yourself. The mere fact that you cite your own experience means that you are leaning on a particular point of view and values. Your experiences are not universal and neither are your values.
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My experiences have nothing to do with this really, I was able to see the issues, or pick up on them fast and address them quickly.

It's wasn't that I wasn't happy because I was, but I addressed the issues at hand and it ended up that I ended the marriages as a result. ;)

I am a happy person in general. :thumbup:

Really though things can swing either way from what I have seen so no I am not bias.

I am careful about relationships ect though because it directly affects me and my life so when things start going in a direction that I don't care for I address it quickly and end it if that's what is needed.

And I can leave it and never look back.

And I don't miss anything, I see everything because I pay attention to EVERYTHING so NOTHING gets by me.

Has more to do with the training and less to do with my past marriages, picking up on the issues quickly was due to the training.

But this isn't the topic... ;)

My point still is that if you can't get something for yourself every once in awhile then there is a problem.
 
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I trade alot of knives. Sometimes I pick up dirt cheap ones at estate sales\flea markets. I may not like the pattern for myself but know that it has value. Take it to the gun show and sometimes trade for something I really like. I just traded a NIB remington w\green handles (yuk) for a big used Queen folding hunter. I'm carrying the Queen daily, but I don't think much was gained or lost on the deal.
 
Well this certainly explains some recents goings on. Like my ability to FINALLY pick up a makers piece that I can't seem to get on the waiting list for. Also, there shall be less competion overall. (trying to lighten up the thread)

On a serious note, and speaking as someone who had spent thirty-some years a poster child of excess in everything I did...as has been noted here moderation in everything is key. These days my knife buying has ebbs and flows, somettimes I step away for awhile...its all good.
 
Jim, honestly, I think you have wandered off the reservation. You really don't know the first thing about Anthony. Come on, bro! :thumbup:
 
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