I just had "the talk"...

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JMAN86

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For the last few years my girlfriend has been watching me spend a lot of time and money pursuing knife related interests. Like most knife guys with wives/gfs, I've tried to get her interested. I even bought her something to take hiking and camping but she just doesn't get into carrying it that much.

I had some knife porn on the computer after dinner, comparing and contrasting specs & photos of possible future purchases (typical Monday night, right?). She sat down next to me and very sincerely asked, "So tell me, what do you like about that one?" and pointed to the BCNW-01 on my screen. Now I could have just played it cool and gave her a simple "knon-knifer" answer like, "The handle is really comfortable" or "I like the way it looks" then tried to slowly spark her interest some more.

Here comes the bad part...

I got so excited she was interested that I way... way.... waaayyy jumped the gun and actually explained the differences and various advantages/disadvantages of convex, full flat and scandi grinds. I pulled out physical examples of my knives to show her. I talked about g*d damn stainless vs. carbon steel and even went so far as to cite specifics of O1 vs. VG-10 vs. 1095 and so on. I even told her about handle ergonomics, the rockwell scale and tang construction followed by a demonstration of some common knife grips like the chest lever... :confused:

Well guys, I had a shot and I think I blew it. By the end of the conversation she looked like I had just tried to explain quantum mechanics or Einstein's Theory of Relativity. I'll be surprised if she ever uses a butter knife to make a sandwich after this tragedy.

She was a good sport about it though and paid attention the whole time. Anyone else have something like this happen? I can't be the only one...

Next time, I'm saying I like it because it has a "cool handle" or something easy like that!
 
It sounds like she is more interested in simple answers that describe a more emotional reason. Such as it just looks really nice, it feels good in my hand, etc.
 
Yeah, you should have reeled it in a little. You gave her two cups full of knifedom when she was looking for a shot. I try to only answer questions that she asks. I'm just happy she actually carries and uses a knife. I once went off on a tangent about scale materials. She just unpaused her show and turned up the volume. I knew it was time to stop talking.

You can still get through to her though. Just dip your toe in next time.
 
ha.. that's great...:D my wife loves knives and has quite a few... she carries/uses them everyday for work too.. heck, we even have damascus steel/platinum wedding rings..:D
 
Next time just tell her that knives are cool 'cause they're sharp and cut things.:D.:D.
 
mtnfolk mike said:
ha.. that's great...:D my wife loves knives and has quite a few... she carries/uses them everyday for work too.. heck, we even have damascus steel/platinum wedding rings..:D
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Not to get off topic, but I'd like to see pics of your ring and who made them. I was looking into Mokume wedding bands, but they are crazy expensive!
 
I'm really sorry about your dilemma :(

On the other hand, it was pretty darn amusing! :D
 
She's showing interest . Don't blow her away with blade techno-talk. Trust me , they haven't a clue what your talking about. She's paying attention to you and what you like.A good sign. Just buy her a nice one sometime and see how she likes it. Mine only carries a knife in the bush. Best woman I ever seen with an axe too. Couldn't care less about one knife from another.
She is starting to clamp down a bit though. I've been spending an awful lot :rolleyes:


But I like it :D
 
You are doomed to go shoe shopping with her now man. And pretend to be interested like she did. What goes around comes around.
 
I think you played it straight. Got to keep somethings for yourself. Every-time my wife gets a wild hair to go camping, hunting, fishing I make sure that we go Bear Grylls style!

I know that sounds bad but just remember women thought up the "couples" baby shower! I shutter to think of what that awful creativity could come up with for my great out doors!
 
Good thing you didn't use the simple answers.

The outcome of the conversation if you had :

You : "I like the way it looks."

Her : "Oh so now I ain't pretty enough?"

Women. :rolleyes:
 
It's good to have these talks with them while theyre still just a girlfriend and actually give a shit abou what you say.
 
She's a keeper. You may have gone over the top, but she wanted to hang in there because she cares about you. She knows how much you care about knives. That's a good thing. She knows you have a true passion. She'll never mistake knife time for an excuse to avoid spending time with her (never is strong word, but you get the point).

I used to date a girl that did the same for me. She's my wife now. She is very understanding of my knives and guns.

But quid pro quo bro. You might want to think about her patience with your knives the next time you’re sitting in a department store telling her how nice looks in the 28th article of clothing she has tried on.
 
When I get too technical or geeky I get this handed to me.....

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JMAN86 said:
For the last few years my girlfriend has been watching me spend a lot of time and money pursuing knife related interests. Like most knife guys with wives/gfs, I've tried to get her interested. I even bought her something to take hiking and camping but she just doesn't get into carrying it that much.

I had some knife porn on the computer after dinner, comparing and contrasting specs & photos of possible future purchases (typical Monday night, right?). She sat down next to me and very sincerely asked, "So tell me, what do you like about that one?" and pointed to the BCNW-01 on my screen. Now I could have just played it cool and gave her a simple "knon-knifer" answer like, "The handle is really comfortable" or "I like the way it looks" then tried to slowly spark her interest some more.

Here comes the bad part...

I got so excited she was interested that I way... way.... waaayyy jumped the gun and actually explained the differences and various advantages/disadvantages of convex, full flat and scandi grinds. I pulled out physical examples of my knives to show her. I talked about g*d damn stainless vs. carbon steel and even went so far as to cite specifics of O1 vs. VG-10 vs. 1095 and so on. I even told her about handle ergonomics, the rockwell scale and tang construction followed by a demonstration of some common knife grips like the chest lever... :confused:

Well guys, I had a shot and I think I blew it. By the end of the conversation she looked like I had just tried to explain quantum mechanics or Einstein's Theory of Relativity. I'll be surprised if she ever uses a butter knife to make a sandwich after this tragedy.

She was a good sport about it though and paid attention the whole time. Anyone else have something like this happen? I can't be the only one...

Next time, I'm saying I like it because it has a "cool handle" or something easy like that!
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You are ultra lucky. My wife shows signs of distraction within 20-25 seconds and within 40-45 she flat out tells me she can't really concentrate on it.
At least she doesn't bust my chops every time another knife comes in the mail...:)
 
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