I lost my wife

JTR357

JTR357

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My wife, the love of my life passed away on July 24th 2024. She was sick for a very long time & she fought hard every step of the way. She was the strongest & most selfless person I have ever known. I am beside myself. For the past 3 years my whole life was taking care of her every need. Now I don't know what to do with myself. I just feel very empty & lost. I know this is a knife forum, but I've been here a long time & just need to vent to my knife brothers & sisters. If anyone else has experienced this, I would appreciate some guidance.
We were together for 27 years. I've lost my mom & dad & most of my family but none of that compares to this.
Here's her obituary. I don't know what else to say, except thank you for your condolences & blessings.
www.lehrergibilisco.com

Obituary for Patty Roderick at Lehrer-Gibilisco Funeral Home

Patty Roderick, a beacon of strength and selflessness, left an indelible mark on the hearts of those she encountered. Her unwavering dedication to putting others before herself was a testament to her generous spirit. Pattys love for her family was boundless, and her actions spoke volumes of her...
www.lehrergibilisco.com www.lehrergibilisco.com
 
I would say that if she fought every step of the way, is as strong and selfless as you say, she was doing so for you and the people in her life she loves. She stuck it out to the bitter end for her loved ones… not because she couldn’t let go, but because the absence of her presence would sadden the people that loved her. She always put others first, in life and in death.
 
I lost my mother a couple months ago and I can tell you from watching my father go through it that you need to heed the advice above and reach out to any friends or family you have for that support. Seek a grief counselor if you start getting too far down. Dad was with mom for 45 years. Ill be praying for ya.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's always hard to lose a loved one, even (especially?) after a long illness. My dad passed after a being sick for years, and it had deep and challenging effects on my mom, who cared for him. Good on ya for being open- it takes a lot of effort and a strong character to rely on other people when you need help.
 
I am sorry for your loss, this is a poem I found a few years ago when my mother passed away

By Henry Scott-Holland

Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.

Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just round the corner.

All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!

G2
 
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