I lost my wife

John, please accept my sincerest condolences, I'm sending you all the best I can from where I am.

Reach out to family, friends and community, speak with them and share your feelings with whomever you feel comfortable.

Give yourself time and do things you enjoy with people you enjoy being with.

Take care 🙏🏼
 
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also just saw this. my very late condolences.

I watched the tribute video. nicely done. nice to see folks in pictures through their lives. I'm sorry for your loss.
 
I just saw this thread. I did poke my head in here often.

I am so sorry for your loss. You have my most heartfelt condolences.

As someone who has lost many. This is what I can say:

Keep her in your heart and your mind and she will never by truly gone from you. Carry her with you everyday and she will remain with you

Time is the only thing that helps. As you said above, day by day it gets easier. Try to remember the smiles, laughs and hugs and you will find the memories get easier, and better.

We all meet our end. So few of us really live. Sounds like she did. Bless you and your family, John.

JS.
 
JTR357 said:
My wife, the love of my life passed away on July 24th 2024. She was sick for a very long time & she fought hard every step of the way. She was the strongest & most selfless person I have ever known. I am beside myself. For the past 3 years my whole life was taking care of her every need. Now I don't know what to do with myself. I just feel very empty & lost. I know this is a knife forum, but I've been here a long time & just need to vent to my knife brothers & sisters. If anyone else has experienced this, I would appreciate some guidance.
We were together for 27 years. I've lost my mom & dad & most of my family but none of that compares to this.
Here's her obituary. I don't know what else to say, except thank you for your condolences & blessings.
www.lehrergibilisco.com

Obituary for Patty Roderick at Lehrer-Gibilisco Funeral Home

Patty Roderick, a beacon of strength and selflessness, left an indelible mark on the hearts of those she encountered. Her unwavering dedication to putting others before herself was a testament to her generous spirit. Pattys love for her family was boundless, and her actions spoke volumes of her...
www.lehrergibilisco.com www.lehrergibilisco.com
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Sorry to hear about your loss.
We have more in common than you know being a 5 plus year stage 4 caretaker myself.
The road won't be easy, and the path traveled won't be forgotten, it's a path few travel leaving you alone to work through it because few can relate to the loss, time, and pain being by their side watching the one you truly Love slowly dying before your eyes for Years, fighting to keep her alive whatever it took without sleeping because you were always on call alone to deal with issues as they happened.
We are the few who seem to run into the fire instead of running from it, to try and save someone.
My hope is that you can find Peace to live out your life and enjoy some happiness once again.
 
555 said:
Sorry to hear about your loss.
We have more in common than you know being a 5 plus year stage 4 caretaker myself.
The road won't be easy, and the path traveled won't be forgotten, it's a path few travel leaving you alone to work through it because few can relate to the loss, time, and pain being by their side watching the one you truly Love slowly dying before your eyes for Years, fighting to keep her alive whatever it took without sleeping because you were always on call alone to deal with issues as they happened.
We are the few who seem to run into the fire instead of running from it, to try and save someone.
My hope is that you can find Peace to live out your life and enjoy some happiness once again.
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Thanks 555, I appreciate the kind words of encouragement. Also, it's nice to see you posting again.
 
Here's an update on how things are going for me & my family. My stepson & DIL bought a sub shop/chicken place, so they're almost never home. They both work their full-time jobs then open up the sub shop. Pat would have been so proud. We almost never have dinner together anymore, but I insisted we have dinner together at least one time per week on Sunday. I usually do the cooking or the DIL does & we try & make a "Pat favorite".
I feel like I've done well honoring her memory. I keep her memorial dusted & change the flowers for each season. I keep the batteries in the lights fresh that lights it up. Jamie(stepson) makes her homemade iced tea & sells it in the sandwich shop. It's called "Nana's Sweet Tea" & it's a big hit & sells out quick.
I started talking to a really nice lady last January. Things slowly progressed & we went exclusive last month. I was nervous at first telling my family but they're glad I'm happy & have someone. Sandy is really cool & laid back. For the first time in what seems like a very long time, I feel happy & content. I still look at Pat's picture every day & talk to her. I still miss her but I'm not dwelling on the loss. I'm moving on. I know that's what she would have wanted. The last month or so that she was with us, she stated many times that she doesn't want me to be alone. She even tried setting me up with her nurses (embarrassing the heck out of me in the process). LOL they were in their 20's & could be my daughters. I was like "Pat, knock it off. They're babies!"(facepalm).
Anyway, just wanted to give y'all an update. Thanks for the support, blade family! <3
 
My condolences to you brother, we all hear temporary and everyone has its own time. I know the feeling to lose someone dear to you, stay strong and I pray to God to give you peace and strength 100% ❤️🙏
 
JTR357 said:
Here's an update on how things are going for me & my family. My stepson & DIL bought a sub shop/chicken place, so they're almost never home. They both work their full-time jobs then open up the sub shop. Pat would have been so proud. We almost never have dinner together anymore, but I insisted we have dinner together at least one time per week on Sunday. I usually do the cooking or the DIL does & we try & make a "Pat favorite".
I feel like I've done well honoring her memory. I keep her memorial dusted & change the flowers for each season. I keep the batteries in the lights fresh that lights it up. Jamie(stepson) makes her homemade iced tea & sells it in the sandwich shop. It's called "Nana's Sweet Tea" & it's a big hit & sells out quick.
I started talking to a really nice lady last January. Things slowly progressed & we went exclusive last month. I was nervous at first telling my family but they're glad I'm happy & have someone. Sandy is really cool & laid back. For the first time in what seems like a very long time, I feel happy & content. I still look at Pat's picture every day & talk to her. I still miss her but I'm not dwelling on the loss. I'm moving on. I know that's what she would have wanted. The last month or so that she was with us, she stated many times that she doesn't want me to be alone. She even tried setting me up with her nurses (embarrassing the heck out of me in the process). LOL they were in their 20's & could be my daughters. I was like "Pat, knock it off. They're babies!"(facepalm).
Anyway, just wanted to give y'all an update. Thanks for the support, blade family! <3
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Outstanding. Sounds like your dearly departed may have given this new gal a nudge from above- and probably gave you one too. My condolences and congratulations.
 
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