I lost my wife

Sorry to hear about your wife I can’t imagine what you are going through you and your family are in my prayers. What a good looking grand puppy
 
My sincerest condolences. My father went through this a few years ago and its not been easy. Mom was sick for several years and he was her primary caretaker.They were married 66 years.
One day at a time JTR. Stay positive.
 
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Very sorry for your loss. As someone who has been fighting dying for the past few years, this strikes close to home. One of the main reasons we fight is to not leave our loved ones alone and heartbroken. Prayers for peace and healing.
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I'm rooting for you, brother. Thanks so much. <3
 
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The service is tomorrow & I'm feeling this is almost going to be as hard as the 24th; The day she died. How do you deal with this?? There's already a big gaping hole in my chest where she used to be. I can't think straight. I'm a blubbering mess. I guess I'm just not that strong. IDK.
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JTR357 said:
The service is tomorrow & I'm feeling this is almost going to be as hard as the 24th; The day she died. How do you deal with this?? There's already a big gaping hole in my chest where she used to be. I can't think straight. I'm a blubbering mess. I guess I'm just not that strong. IDK.
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The fact that you are a blubbering mess doesn’t make you less strong. It makes you a caring human being struggling with a devastating loss. It makes you the kind of person I would choose to include in my small circle of friends.
 
I agree with the above. Your reaction OP to your wife's passing is a reflection of the depths of your feelings for her. It is not a sign of weakness to love a partner deeply, it is commendable and the time and emotions and experiences shared with your wife are things only a blessed few people enjoy in this life. Cherish her memory and the time you did get to spend together.
 
I just got back from her service. They did a beautiful job of it. It wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. It was great having the support of everyone there. There's a link to a recording of it on her obit in case anyone would like to see it. I'm the fat bald guy with the big goatee in a black polo shirt. Pat knew I hated wearing suits & I know she would want me to be comfortable.
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This is a temporary memorial of her I put in the Livingroom. We're going to spruce it up with frames & more pics. There will always be fresh carnations there too. Her favorite flower.

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norcalAF said:
I agree with the above. Your reaction OP to your wife's passing is a reflection of the depths of your feelings for her. It is not a sign of weakness to love a partner deeply, it is commendable and the time and emotions and experiences shared with your wife are things only a blessed few people enjoy in this life. Cherish her memory and the time you did get to spend together.
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That's truly beautiful, brother. Thank you. I was discussing crying with my oldest grandson. I told him, "It's completely okay to cry, and it's also okay not to." The important thing is not to cry or hold back tears out of embarrassment or concern for what others might think.

I'm not embarrassed to cry. What really affects me is the sensation I feel when I see another grown man cry. It's common to see women cry, and the instinct is to feel sympathy and offer comfort. It's heart-wrenching, but when a friend, brother or best friend cries, it's an entirely different story. You're at a loss for words and actions. It's an unfamiliar and awkward situation. It's deeply upsetting that you can't alleviate his pain.
 
JTR357 said:
That's truly beautiful, brother. Thank you. I was discussing crying with my oldest grandson. I told him, "It's completely okay to cry, and it's also okay not to." The important thing is not to cry or hold back tears out of embarrassment or concern for what others might think.

I'm not embarrassed to cry. What really affects me is the sensation I feel when I see another grown man cry. It's common to see women cry, and the instinct is to feel sympathy and offer comfort. It's heart-wrenching, but when a friend, brother or best friend cries, it's an entirely different story. You're at a loss for words and actions. It's an unfamiliar and awkward situation. It's deeply upsetting that you can't alleviate his pain.
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I've found that in time like these, that the best thing you can do for your brothers is to offer your presence and your ear for whatever they feel needs said. An open ear can sometimes help more than any word said. We are all here for you brother.
 
Over time, God can heal the hole in your heart my friend. I believe that with all my being.
 
I recently bought a Sharpfinger off of @Non.Nisi.Te & he gave me a refund. Said it's a gift after reading this thread. I thanked him & accepted it, but I just want everyone to know I'm not looking for any handouts. I work hard for a living & am very prideful regarding these things. This is why this is primarily the only forum I take part in. It's not just about knives. There are truly goodhearted people all over this forum & I just want to say I appreciate you all.
 
Today was the one month anniversary of losing her & I decided on the 24th of every month, we're going to make something she made for dinner. I took on the easiest lol. SLOPS. It's basically instant potatoes under ground beef with tomato soup & peas mixed in. It was a hit & everyone loved it.
 
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