I'm getting married....any advice from the Beckerheads?

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BigBert

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While I know this may seem like hardly the place to ask such a question; I have been reading this forum for a long time and have come to realize that many of you Beckerheads seem like old fashioned men of honor so I come to you with this question. My father died when I was a teenager, my grandfather before that- so I am desperate for advice from those who are much older and wiser than myself. My bride-to-be and I have been together for 5 years, and we have lived together for almost 4. We are getting married next month in Vegas (we are classy like that). I want to be a good husband, and hopefully one day a good father; so do any of you have any advice from your experience that you can give me? Something you wish someone had told you? I really appreciate any info, and I apologize if this is deemed to be an inappropriate thread.

Oh and for the Becker content: I want a BK4 for a wedding present, lol.
 
Learn how I hide your knife addiction well. And be sure to take her on the Gondola rides at the Venetian while your in LV, that'll score you some extra brownie points.
 
When you argue, examine yourself for what you did wrong or could have done better. Don't examine her for what she did wrong or could have done better.
Sorry is not a four letter word.
Same advice goes for her.

Blessings to you and your bride.
 
Communication is the key. Encourage her to particapate in your hobbies or learn to appreciate things that are important to you and vise versa. Fun money & toys > if you spend $100, she can spend an equal amount for anything she wants regardless of whether you can actually sell your item and recoup much of the cost if you choose to.
 
If you treat your wife like a thoroughbred, you'll never get a nag.
 
Ok, since they've given you the serious side. Here's my advice. Just like your favorite knives, never sheath your tool without things being well lubed.

Congrats on your marriage and just remember those things that got you together and have kept you together for the past 5 years. The goals may change, but our reasons for being with someone don't have to.

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My advice?...Buy all your Becker knives now. Lol :D
Congrats man!
Always kiss your sweetie goodnight!
 
I'm wondering why this is a relavant discussion. I don't mean that negatively, I simply mean, well, you've been living as a married couple for 4 years. A piece if paper should not change the perceptions of you or her. If it does, well you have way bigger problems than hiding/maintaining/increasing a Becker collection.
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Good luck. Oh, as far as advice: be advised. The freaky stuff will stop and after 15 years, you can, and probably will go to bed angry. It's inevitable.
 
Congrats! Hopefully you are marrying your best friend. Never lie to her. Don't forget to tell her how pretty she is as she ages throughout the years. Make her feel young even when you get older. Don't forget to take her on Dates even when work is crazy and you have kids. Open the door for her always. Walk closest to the street when on a sidewalk with her. And buy her flowers occasionally even if you haven't done anything wrong. One last thing, marriage isn't always easy. Finances, work, kids, family, can complicate things. Just remember how in love you are now and never forget that. OK---- enough seriousness.....carry on folks :D
 
Thanks for all the comments gents. I appreciate it. With regard to the relevancy of this discussion, living together for 4 years is a long way from being happily married for X amount of years. I am pretty proficient with my knives, but I'm always willing to learn from someone with more experience.
 
BigBert said:
Thanks for all the comments gents. I appreciate it. With regard to the relevancy of this discussion, living together for 4 years is a long way from being happily married for X amount of years. I am pretty proficient with my knives, but I'm always willing to learn from someone with more experience.
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It's no different BB. I had no idea I would be married for 18 years at year 4. Happily married? Dude, there is no such thing, it's just married. "Happily married" was created by women to trick men into becoming more like women. Just live your life, experience what you can and if she wants to tag along, well then good for you. You've been warned, LOL
 
centennial said:
Don't lie and never go to sleep angry.
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This is about the best advice i can give as well.

Never lie, no matter how much problems it causes right now, because the lie will cause even more later. Lies have a way of coming to light in the worst of times.

At some point you might go to bed angry im sure. In my 8 years of marriage it has happened several times, but its always best to try and work things out before you go to sleep.

Be open and communicate with your wife, always tell her you love her, never let her leave without a kiss, tell her she is pretty out the blue, but often. Dont let jealousy rule your mind. Slip her little notes in places wear she will find them at odd times, like inside her shoes, hidden in her purse, the seat of her car etc... a note like smile your beautiful, I miss you already, it may sound corny but it will show her your thinking of her and could make her day when she finds them.

The moment you stop caring to express how you feel, the moment you dont care if she goes to bed angry, the very second you let jealousy take over in your head.... Then the roller coaster ride starts. And it is very difficult to get back on track.

Take this from a jealous man. I know what im saying, i almost lost my wonderful wife because of simple things. We separated for a few months because i couldnt do the little things she needed, and i couldnt keep jealousy and anger out my head. I learned the hard way, please take a better road.
 
I agree with not lying. But it's also ok to keep some stuff private (texts/emails, boys night out, etc).

For the most part, if you've been together for 9 years, you've probably got all the hard stuff figured out already.
 
Tdhurl1103 said:
It's no different BB. I had no idea I would be married for 18 years at year 4. Happily married? Dude, there is no such thing, it's just married. "Happily married" was created by women to trick men into becoming more like women. Just live your life, experience what you can and if she wants to tag along, well then good for you. You've been warned, LOL
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Congrats on 18yrs of marriage! And thanks for the warning, lol
 
It's nice to get on a hypermasculine survival knife forum and see just how big of softies you guys really are!
 
I agree with the attempted hiding of the knife addiction, gets me in trouble sometimes haha. Best of luck to you both, and congratulations. :)
 
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