I am flabbergasted that as a shipper DHL holds the recipient responsible if they loose the package in transit. What is the incentive for DHL to deliver the package to a private buyer ?At least with DHL, the thing is: If a package gets lost or damaged in transit it's the receiving persons problem and he has to HOPE for cooperation with the person sending the item (If it's a private seller to a private buyer). It's different if the package is send from a commercial business to you THEN it's the businesses problem no matter what. So if he has no insurance and the person has no money in their Paypal account and decided to disappear, you're still out of your money. I am speaking from personal experience. But laws regarding that might be different in the states. Personally I wouldn't haggle over a few dollars for a small extra layer of insurance on an item that's a couple hundred dollars, but that's just me. That being said, I agree that the responsibility should lie with the shipper/seller and he or she should just tell the buyer it will cost XX$ to ship and include insurance just so he's on the safe side it the parcel service screws up.
It's not about haggling it's about the fact that if the buyer pays for insurance he should be the one getting the insurance check not the seller but that's not the way it works.