Its Snark Is Worse Than Its Bite ... CHAT

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clich said:
god whenever im feeling like im having a good day the ex has to call and everything goes to hell. Custody mediation is on thursday. After that i officially file for divorce (since her doing it was a ruse apparently). Im so screwed up anymore i just wanna sit in the corner and sulk.
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you know man, when I went through my divorce it sucked, luckily I did not have any kids involved, but it still sucked, thought I would be married to the same chick for the rest of my life, but alas, it was not in her plans (nor my neighbor that was laying her the pipe)....I was watching the movie Swingers and an awesome piece of advice came out of it...one of the main characters was going through a break up and his best friend told him... "You know, this is going to hurt alot, but everyday it will hurt just a little less until one day you wake up and nothing hurts anymore" It works man, your end day may take longer to get to, but in the long run, you are going to wake up and it won't hurt...

I hated it when people tried to give me advice and crap, but getting it from a hilarious movie was cool....hope it helps...
 
clich said:
god whenever im feeling like im having a good day the ex has to call and everything goes to hell. Custody mediation is on thursday. After that i officially file for divorce (since her doing it was a ruse apparently). Im so screwed up anymore i just wanna sit in the corner and sulk.
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When I got divorced my cousin said that an ex-wife make an exceedingly good argument for being gay since except for the sleeping together part it's just like hanging out with your friends. Probably true but I punched him anyways.
 
I should probably get around to getting divorced one of these days. We been separated right at a year now. LOL



Like Mike said, every day it gets a hair better.....then u relapse and it is bad..then you get better, eventually it kinda goes away.

I think the part about failing at something you never intended to fail at is the worst part. I am old fashioned and perhaps naive. I said my vows with the intent of keeping them until death, so many people nowadays treat marriage like a ''trial run'' to ''see how it goes''.

In the long run, ya just gotta realize that no matter the outcome, if ya put everything ya had into it...then u can look in the mirror and like what ya see. I just hate hate hate losing/failing at ANYthing. But affairs of the heart is one arena where ya can lose nomatter what ya do or how hard you fight.


But, long story short....it gets better. and if ya wanna sulk, then by gawd SULK! It works sometimes.
 
Hang in there clich, it'll get better. Just takes time is all. I remember sulking about quite a bit, then, I woke up one day, and it just didn't bother me anymore. Hell, a few years later, I even went camping with my son, her and her boyfriend, haha. I remember looking at her boyfriend, thinking, poor bastard...:D
 
thanks guys. Its gotten real dirty now. I mean downright mean in some cases. It gonna be a long road. And yes there are days i wake up and miss it, but more of the companionship and being able to see my boy. I moved back in with my rents to get back on my feet and they work nights so the house is either empty or their asleep and the silence is literally deafening sometimes. Im so used to "daddy come play with me" "daddy i need juice" or constant nagging from the other one :D Today was a day where i didnt feel angry anymore, i felt at peace, I felt like I wasnt going to fight anymore since that was the reason for the divorce, but then she calls and yells about this that and the other thing and im right back into angry mode. I told myself that i wasnt going to fight for anything but my son. She could have it all. I just wanted my kid. I dont need stuff, I cant just get new stuff enventually. But days like today make me want to go for half of everything right down to the last piece of silverware just so she can feel like crap too. Marriage is stupid
 
clich said:
thanks guys. Its gotten real dirty now. I mean downright mean in some cases. It gonna be a long road. And yes there are days i wake up and miss it, but more of the companionship and being able to see my boy. I moved back in with my rents to get back on my feet and they work nights so the house is either empty or their asleep and the silence is literally deafening sometimes. Im so used to "daddy come play with me" "daddy i need juice" or constant nagging from the other one :D Today was a day where i didnt feel angry anymore, i felt at peace, I felt like I wasnt going to fight anymore since that was the reason for the divorce, but then she calls and yells about this that and the other thing and im right back into angry mode. I told myself that i wasnt going to fight for anything but my son. She could have it all. I just wanted my kid. I dont need stuff, I cant just get new stuff enventually. But days like today make me want to go for half of everything right down to the last piece of silverware just so she can feel like crap too. Marriage is stupid
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Clich, fight a clean fight, and fight for whats really important to you. Get your boy and dont let her take you to the cleaners, because you need some things to provide a stable environment for your son. If you fight a clean fight and you present your needs as needs to provide for your son, you should come out all right. If you dont, at least your conscience is clear. If she really fights dirty, the judges tend to frown on that kind of thing now, especially if your taking the highground and shes taking the low.
 
shes even threatened to screw with my bladeforum contacts. She said she will say she had no idea about my purchases using our joint checking linked to my paypal and that she is going to call each and every transaction (since paypal put a phone number on credit card statements) and tell them im a thief and i had no right to send them money. MY FREAKING MONEY. sorry im ranting again. Take the couch, the tv, the dining room furniture, but screw with my online home and now its war. perhaps i should nip it in the bud and start a thread in feedback saying dont believe it? what do you guys think? I think she is capable of actualy doing it. my biggest worry about it is that i have a clean track record here and i dont want it tarnished by her contacting some guy i dealt with months ago who doesnt know me, getting him worried about fraud, and then lashing out on here. should i strike first?
 
Oooh. maybe she'll call me. I will pretend Im a bible thumper and try to sell her some religion........ could be fun.
 
What you need is a good attorney and a restraining order, She can wreak a lot of havoc otherwise. Taking the high road is all well and good but only up to a point. I was more proactive in mine, I sold every single thing in the house in one weekend except for her personal belongings. The look on her face when she came home from 'visiting her parents for the weekend' was nothing short of priceless and the only memory I even bother to keep of her.
 
I just ran a hilly trail by my house, I'm way outa shape. Thought I was a goner for sure
 
OK guys, it's time for a new tent. I need a 2 man, preferably 2 doors and mesh construction. I'm looking at the asolo velocity, or the northface tadpole, a kelty caught my eye too but can't remember the model. Any suggestions, I also need a light weight summer bag. Price range on the tent is $250ish
 
edctac said:
OK guys, it's time for a new tent. I need a 2 man, preferably 2 doors and mesh construction. I'm looking at the asolo velocity, or the northface tadpole, a kelty caught my eye too but can't remember the model. Any suggestions, I also need a light weight summer bag. Price range on the tent is $250ish
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I have a Kelty Teton, but it only has 1 door. Mostly mesh construction...great warm weather tent. Only drawback is they claim it to be a 2 person, but if you're above average in build, it's a comfortable 1 person. I'm 6'5" and 210lbs, and I wouldn't want to share it with anyone...
 
I was looking at the kelty salida, me and my roommate are normal people size ;) only 5'11". 2 doors are nice so we don't have to climb over each others gear
 
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