Jewlery or a knife

[dfhoward]

If your girlfriend found a Sebenza, what would she do with it? Should she give it to you, or should she sell it and buy some jewelry?

Danny

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[Paul Davidson]

RJ
Everyone (most everyone

) has given you good advice and it sounds like you have a plan. I spent the better part of a day as a young boy with my Mom looking for the diamond from her engagement ring which she lost while we were in town. It was not a great diamond but she had had it for almost 30 years at the time (I was a late life baby). She was totally beside herself and crying and what not and it made a huge impression on my 5-6 year old mind. You'll feel better if you try to see who lost it. The nice thing about giving it to your GF (if she is worthy of it in your eyes) is that it would make it hard for her to say anything about knife expenditures, at least for a couple of years. I too am recently engaged and it makes me wonder how many forumites are getting hitched.

DC, I'd like to see you tell my Mom to stop meddling or anything else like that. She'd "meddle" you right upside your head!

Danny,
Sebenzas are forever!

 

[Gollnick]

Two facts:

1) Russia is a big source of diamonds and they are in serious need of hard money right now, so they're selling diamonds by the truckload to buy food and fuel.

2) Sri Lanka is a big source of diamonds and, while our media haven't given it much coverage, that poor country is in the middle of a terrible civil war. The rebels control most of the diamond mines, and they're selling diamonds by the truckload to buy guns and ammo.

The result is that now is a poor time to sell a diamond.

IMHO, a 1/2C diamond is to much for the average guy to give to a woman he's not at least engaged to. My advice is to set your windfall aside and save it for an engagement ring when you're ready.

You're mother will find that a mature decision, I'm sure. I'd suggest explaining it openly and honestly to your girl friend. Just say, "I've decided to save it for use in an engagement ring. I hope to give that ring to you someday, but I'm not ready to do that right now."

Chuck

 

[DC]

Paul...

Not a problem, I'm good at it, ask my New York uncles and cousins. After all, whats a girl to do when they won't let her join "The Family business"...capishe?

 

[Krumbs]

Well, you are in a bit of a spot. Two questions?
1. How serious are you with the girlfriend?
2. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and your girlfriend had something of equal "value" to give you and she turned around and sold it to go on a shopping spree?

This is one of theose "do or die" "make or break" questions. Take your time, think it over. The knives aren't goin' anywhere, but your honor may be at stake. -Krumbs

 

[RJ]

I have been reading the posts and the one question that keeps coming back to me is:

Is it my diamond to sell?

Well I have decided to hold on to it for at least a month or two. I think that I owe it to the owner to try and find her/him.

As far as my girlfriend, I still am not going to give it to her. I think that she deserves something that is hers and not just something that someone else lost. The more and more I think about it, the lower the price goes for a knife. By the time it comes around to selling it, if it is not claimed, I will probably either save the money for a ring or just spend it all on her and hope she gets me a knife for Christmas or something.

thanks,
Rich

 

[Ralf]

What about this, exchange the diamond for a smaller one, take money and diamond and send it to Chris Reeve. He can put it in the handle of a Sebenza and you give it to your girlfriend. If she really loves you, she will let you use it whenever you like.

Am I romantic or what?

 

[Christian]

RJ- major points for trying to find the owner. Look at it this way- if the owner turns up, and gets her diamond (almost always a her, diamonds for men, IMHO, went out with leisure suits. Unless you are related to DC

) you just scored some free, good karma. If not, you still score points for trying to do the Right Thing.
If no one claims it after a certain period of time, sell it and sock the cash away in a high yield savings acct. or buy a certificate of deposit (CD) or something. Hey, it ain't much, but it's something.
Or, for major karmic value, sell it and donate the cash to your favorite charity.(Unfortunately, knifedealers do not count.

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[Paul Davidson]

Good for you RJ! You've got a good head and good heart, which are worth more than a good knife (I can't believe I just wrote that

). If you are like most knife people the "must have" knife will be replaced by another in a few weeks or months. An engagement ring will (should) be a lifetime thing. I also think you are right about not giving your GF a ring with a diamond you found on the floor. While it is still a diamond, and worth a hunk of $, she will like one that you picked out or that you both picked out better IMO. I just got engaged and I'm glad that I took my then GF with me because she picked a different stone and mounting everywhere we went! She ended up with a Marquis cut and some small accent diamonds. The first store we went to she told me she hated Marquis cut diamonds! Who knows, if you find the owner, maybe they will buy you a nice knife as a reward! You could put up a VERY vague flyer in the store saying that you found something of value that you would like to see returned to it's rightful owner.

DC,
That might work on those city girls, but KY women are not quite civilized!