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First of all steely, i want to say how sorry i am to hear of this, and that you have my deepest sympathy and support.
and much smoke.
Back in 1999 i went thru much the same thing as you are going thru now.
My parents had moved to brooksville florida to spend time there instead of enduring the harsh NY winters and had always come back for summer, until that one year they just didnt come home, my father was a proud man and didnt want to concern us kids with his problems, even though he had already been told that he had mere months to live.
my sister had gone to VA to visit my eldest sister and having gotten into a little arguement with her,she decided to go the rest of the way to florida to see my parents.....what she found there would proceed to turn our world on end and all but tear our family apart.
she found my father, once a hardworking 165 lb man, reduced to a skeleton of what he once was and was told by his doctor that he probably had no more that 2 weeks left with us. she immediatley called myself, my brother and other sister to come be with him in his last days and so we could coordinate things according to his wishes.
as my siblings could not get more than a weeks vacation, i quit my job and drove to florida to be his caretaker until the end, which came almost exactly 2 weeks after my arrival there. i spent that time making him as comfortable as possible and setting up hospice to take him in so that he would be able to recieve pain medication on the spot.
his only requests at this time were that he not die up north in the cold and not be in pain.
during of all this i found out that the doctors had missed a cancerous mass that was hidden in his lungs near his spine, and by the time it was discovered it had wrapped around his spine and progressed to the cervical area and was heading into his brain.
he made the decision to have radiation treatments on the area and they greatly weakened him and made him feel ill, to this day i still wonder if we may have had him a little longer, with a bit more quality, were he NOT to recieve these treatments.
you will probably have to leave it up to him, and just be there for him in the end.
IMHO , all we can do for our parents at a time like this is to make them comfortable and be there for them,as they were always there for us.
and to honor their decisions and wishes as we would want our own to be honored.
for me it was one of the most awful, hardest things i've ever had to endure in my life and i've been thru a little bit of hell at times in my life, beginning with being born with astigmatism (wandering eyeballs) to which i was blessed with undergoing 3 separate experimental eye surguries in the early/mid 1970's to try and correct the problem, which more or less failed.( my eyes dont wander and are not cross eyed, but i can only really use one at a time)
i still miss him and my mother greatly....my only consolation is that i was there for him and did my best for them both when they needed me,which is the best way,i feel, that we can honor them.
Hopefully before the end of next month my family and i will be able to travel the 200 miles we need to to visit my parents in their resting place, but who knows as i just lost my employment and we are now struggling.
if you feel the need to talk send me an email @ dragonbass63@hotmail.com i'll be more than glad to help you sort out feelings and help in any way possible.
and much smoke.
Back in 1999 i went thru much the same thing as you are going thru now.
My parents had moved to brooksville florida to spend time there instead of enduring the harsh NY winters and had always come back for summer, until that one year they just didnt come home, my father was a proud man and didnt want to concern us kids with his problems, even though he had already been told that he had mere months to live.
my sister had gone to VA to visit my eldest sister and having gotten into a little arguement with her,she decided to go the rest of the way to florida to see my parents.....what she found there would proceed to turn our world on end and all but tear our family apart.
she found my father, once a hardworking 165 lb man, reduced to a skeleton of what he once was and was told by his doctor that he probably had no more that 2 weeks left with us. she immediatley called myself, my brother and other sister to come be with him in his last days and so we could coordinate things according to his wishes.
as my siblings could not get more than a weeks vacation, i quit my job and drove to florida to be his caretaker until the end, which came almost exactly 2 weeks after my arrival there. i spent that time making him as comfortable as possible and setting up hospice to take him in so that he would be able to recieve pain medication on the spot.
his only requests at this time were that he not die up north in the cold and not be in pain.
during of all this i found out that the doctors had missed a cancerous mass that was hidden in his lungs near his spine, and by the time it was discovered it had wrapped around his spine and progressed to the cervical area and was heading into his brain.
he made the decision to have radiation treatments on the area and they greatly weakened him and made him feel ill, to this day i still wonder if we may have had him a little longer, with a bit more quality, were he NOT to recieve these treatments.
you will probably have to leave it up to him, and just be there for him in the end.
IMHO , all we can do for our parents at a time like this is to make them comfortable and be there for them,as they were always there for us.
and to honor their decisions and wishes as we would want our own to be honored.
for me it was one of the most awful, hardest things i've ever had to endure in my life and i've been thru a little bit of hell at times in my life, beginning with being born with astigmatism (wandering eyeballs) to which i was blessed with undergoing 3 separate experimental eye surguries in the early/mid 1970's to try and correct the problem, which more or less failed.( my eyes dont wander and are not cross eyed, but i can only really use one at a time)
i still miss him and my mother greatly....my only consolation is that i was there for him and did my best for them both when they needed me,which is the best way,i feel, that we can honor them.
Hopefully before the end of next month my family and i will be able to travel the 200 miles we need to to visit my parents in their resting place, but who knows as i just lost my employment and we are now struggling.
if you feel the need to talk send me an email @ dragonbass63@hotmail.com i'll be more than glad to help you sort out feelings and help in any way possible.
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Found a wifi connection at the hospital
Hey guys, your smoke and prayers mean so very much. Thank you. The wife and I made it down to Nashville. Dad was very out of it and really didn't respond all that much except with confusion. Luckily, he came around a little bit more before we left for the evening. However, he has his lucid moments.
The good news, today he was very much more like himself. He had actually eaten something and even enjoyed a bit of coffee. He was much more himself.
Basically, we're still getting the run around as to what the doctors think is best. It's down between trying to cut out the tumor that is causing the swelling and the loopy behavior, or just radiation, or both...it's very much a pick your poison situation.
At any rate, my wife and her brother and her sister-in-law had a good emotional conversation yesterday evening. We are all staying in the RV with mom staying at dad's side in the hospital room. It looks like that this is not the offical end for dad. That gives me great relief. All I pray is that we can get him home, comfortable, and let him enjoy whatever time he has left on his own terms.
Thank you all again...so very much.
Hey guys, your smoke and prayers mean so very much. Thank you. The wife and I made it down to Nashville. Dad was very out of it and really didn't respond all that much except with confusion. Luckily, he came around a little bit more before we left for the evening. However, he has his lucid moments.
The good news, today he was very much more like himself. He had actually eaten something and even enjoyed a bit of coffee. He was much more himself.
Basically, we're still getting the run around as to what the doctors think is best. It's down between trying to cut out the tumor that is causing the swelling and the loopy behavior, or just radiation, or both...it's very much a pick your poison situation.
At any rate, my wife and her brother and her sister-in-law had a good emotional conversation yesterday evening. We are all staying in the RV with mom staying at dad's side in the hospital room. It looks like that this is not the offical end for dad. That gives me great relief. All I pray is that we can get him home, comfortable, and let him enjoy whatever time he has left on his own terms.
Thank you all again...so very much.
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Smoke and Prayer inbound to you and yours,Jake, from Me and Holly.
Mark
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Thanks so much ladies and gentlemen. My wife, Brenna, and I are back home. Dad is still in the hospital in Nashville awaiting for his doctor to come back in tomorrow morning. It appears that he probably is going to be discharged and will be able to get his radiation treatment in Louisville. At least he won't be in a hospital.
He doesn't have much of an appetite, but that is a symptom of the tumor. It is making him quite nauseous. We hope that the radiation quickly curbs this.
Once again, thank you so very much for your prayers and smoke. I am absolutely convinced that it has worked wonders, even if some of them may be beyond perception. We are hoping that maybe next weekend, Dad will feel good enough to actually enjoy a visit. He wanting to get mom out to the shooing range to get acquainted with her new shotgun
Thank you so much, my friends.
He doesn't have much of an appetite, but that is a symptom of the tumor. It is making him quite nauseous. We hope that the radiation quickly curbs this.
Once again, thank you so very much for your prayers and smoke. I am absolutely convinced that it has worked wonders, even if some of them may be beyond perception. We are hoping that maybe next weekend, Dad will feel good enough to actually enjoy a visit. He wanting to get mom out to the shooing range to get acquainted with her new shotgun
Thank you so much, my friends.
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You got as much smoke and prayers as you need to ask for here Jake. I'm sorry to hear this news.
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Believe me when I say cancer's an emotional (to say nothing of physical) roller coaster from Hell. I have cancer, and each day brings something new for everyone involved. The key is positive outlook and good support. Just let it be known that you're there, and that he's never alone.
Smoke,
Chris
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Chris, it's so good to see you posting. Many of us think of you every day, and there are prayers and smoke going up for you too.
Take care my young friend.
Steve