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ONEBIGBOWIE

ONEBIGBOWIE

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I recently met a girl and she's kind of in a bad spot right now. Some of its money issues but the other problem is her ex. Apparently he was abusive (she said he manhandled her) and she left him a while ago but he won't leave her alone. She doesn't have any of her stuff with her, her clothes and other items are at his place and she's scared to go back. She has been doing escorting out of her apartment because she doesn't have a car and it pays the rent. He was on websites saying she's a thief and talking all kinds of shit. He told the apartment manager she was prostituting and now he's suspicious of her, she's not allowed visitors after 10. I've never seen this guy but she told me he's about my size and a little shorter. I could beat the shit out of him but I'd rather get some kind of legal protection if I can. I met her as an escort and she said I was very nice compared to the rest of the people she's seen. We had a long talk last night and this all came out. She doesn't like doing it, she's good at it, but she wants out. She lives about 45 minutes from me and as much as I would like to I can't get there that fast if he decides to pay an unwelcome visit. I was thinking about some kind of restraining order, but I don't know anything about this stuff.
 
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Nothing you can do. Whatever needs to be done this other person has to do it. The court needs to impose a restraining order, but needs a legal reason to do so. This means police reports documenting assaults or other threatening conduct etc. Under the circumstances don't count on much help there...
Not for nothing but it sounds like a hooker walked out on her pimp and he is not a happy camper. This is not a situation you want to put yourself in, run away and don't look back. One way or another this can only end badly for you.
 
Assuming you're not being taken for a ride. Is your name Mark? Because it could very well be to them (her and the "ex"). My advice: Marriage, one man, one woman, accept no substitute. Become the best version of yourself you can, , then patiently and respectfully get to know the right woman before committing to the hormonal bonding process that ties knots of sensual gratification between incompatible people who hardly know each other, and who don't accept, or even militate against, the natural results of such bonding (children), let alone prepare a loving and secure home for them.
 
Well not the response I was expecting. I'm not going to drop it. I see what you all are saying about getting used, but I have no reason to below she's lying, I guess I have no reason to believe she isn't but until I find out either way I'm going to try to help her.
 
How about the fact that there's a classic scam that starts just like this? Worse yet, she could be recruiting you to burglarize this guy's stuff. If it goes south, she can deny any involvement, and you take the whole rap. And even if it's not some kind of scam, what is your end game? To make this damaged woman your girlfriend, like that will somehow lead to happiness for her or you?

Arathol said:
This is not a situation you want to put yourself in, run away and don't look back. One way or another this can only end badly for you.
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Yup. World of hurt awaits. She's not your sister, she's a stranger who should call the police if what she said to you is true.
 
ONEBIGBOWIE said:
Well not the response I was expecting. I'm not going to drop it. I see what you all are saying about getting used, but I have no reason to below she's lying, I guess I have no reason to believe she isn't but until I find out either way I'm going to try to help her.
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You only know what she's telling you, which may be entirely true, entirely false or somewhere in between.


What is she doing to help herself? Has she even tried to get a restraining order? Can she go pick her stuff up with a police escort? Is she in the process of getting a job?

Its noble to want to help others in need but you can't help her if she's not helping herself.

Whether you try and help her or cut ties, proceed with caution. Either way could spell trouble for you.

Also, and all due respect, if beating the shit out of him has legitimately crossed your mind as a potential solution to her problems with him then you seriously need to reevaluate your problem solving skills.
 
If you are really 20, then consider:

the other members are 2–3x+ older and wiser than you, and they are interested in keeping you safe—based on real world knowledge.

School of hard knocks can involve jail time with this set of facts.
 
Pray for her and I’ll pray for you so that you may find clarity and peace.

This is why I’m confused as to why men get such a bad wrap when women are able to literally hypnotize men into destroying themselves.
 
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Pray for her and I’ll pray for you so that you may find clarity and peace.

This is why I’m confused as to why men get such a bad wrap when women are able to literally hypnotize men into destroying themselves.
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Are you kidding about being confused? You don't have to answer if this question confuses you.

For the OP. Hand this over to the local police. If you are the local police recluse yourself from the whole thing and let someone else in the station handle it.

If the local police aren't interested escalate to the Feds. There is a huge groundswell developing over sex trafficking and you'll get results and she'll get help.
 
Men and women are equally capable of bad things despite recent sentiment indicating the opposite. You have a narrow understanding of my statement. But you don’t have to answer to that if it confuses you.
 
This has to be a troll post? Right?


I don't give legal advice over the internet.......




But could you not? Does this 'escort' know where you live? Shoot.....you are in deep enough already, I'd be amazed if you make it out of this without felony charges..... either you cut her off, and she makes an accusation, or she goads you into criminal conduct with her ex.



I lol'd out loud at "she says I'm better then the other Jons!"



You need to block her number, change your number, and probably move to a new city. Grow a mustache, then shave it off....


For real.....the people who could get there fast enough to help her are the local police....the ones who won't end up with a felony charge from becoming involved. She most likely can't own a fire arm (previous felony convictions do that).

She likely has a drug problem which will easily get you charged if ever contacted by police while with you.
 
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While most here are not saying what you want to hear other than some facetious comments there has only be good and well intentioned advice so far.
 
ONEBIGBOWIE said:
Well not the response I was expecting. I'm not going to drop it. I see what you all are saying about getting used, but I have no reason to below she's lying, I guess I have no reason to believe she isn't but until I find out either way I'm going to try to help her.
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What sort of response did you expect? This is not the first time this has happened........
You should have every reason to believe she is lying, and no reason to believe she isn't.
People like her are always on the lookout for gullible people like you. You are a sucker for a sob story and this one has got you hook, line and sinker. She will take you for everything you have. Prostitution, violence and drugs go hand in hand. You'll take her in, and the next thing you know she'll be selling your belongings to buy a dime bag, using your identity to buy stuff with your credit, this guy will be pushing her to give him money, your house will be robbed, etc. If you think you can just "give him a beating" and make everything ok, you'll get another painful lesson when he shows up with a gun and two or three friends and puts you in the hospital or kills you. As for a restraining order, thats a joke, a feel good measure instituted by the legal system. Its just a piece of paper. It can't stop this guy from doing anything he really wants to do. Run away from this, let the next idiot take the fall.
 
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