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I had this general type of scam happen to a wealthy, childless, widower uncle who was generous to a fault. He was extremely high IQ, inventor in biomedicine, etc., with important biochemical research, discoveries and medications to his name. If he ran into someone on the street whom he thought had redeeming qualities, he would pay for them to have their teeth redone, buy them a wardrobe, send them to to college, etc. He did this numerous times. He gave his neighbor's kid a full 4-year Stanford education. Most of the time, his charity paid off; never had trouble with the law.

However, in his declining years, maybe after a stroke or a rare cancer affected his brain, a mother/daughter team targeted and moved in on him. The woman, a shameless predator, married my uncle in the hospital on his death bed when he probably wasn't lucid. She attempted to clean him out, before and after he died. A savvy neighbor reported the mother/daughter's suspicious behavior to the police, and they vanished. I don't know the entire disposition of his estate...but apparently, this was not their first rodeo.

The point is that people make a living doing this kind of thing, and they know how to select their prey.
 
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Run now, and don't look back!!! Thank me later.

If you don't, we don't want to hear the sob story that's sure to follow. O_o
 
marcinek said:
That's also an option. Like Pretty Woman. That worked out nice. Can't see how this could end up any different.
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ONEBIGBOWIE said:
I recently met a girl and she's kind of in a bad spot right now. Some of its money issues but the other problem is her ex. Apparently he was abusive (she said he manhandled her) and she left him a while ago but he won't leave her alone. She doesn't have any of her stuff with her, her clothes and other items are at his place and she's scared to go back. She has been doing escorting out of her apartment because she doesn't have a car and it pays the rent. He was on websites saying she's a thief and talking all kinds of shit. He told the apartment manager she was prostituting and now he's suspicious of her, she's not allowed visitors after 10. I've never seen this guy but she told me he's about my size and a little shorter. I could beat the shit out of him but I'd rather get some kind of legal protection if I can. I met her as an escort and she said I was very nice compared to the rest of the people she's seen. We had a long talk last night and this all came out. She doesn't like doing it, she's good at it, but she wants out. She lives about 45 minutes from me and as much as I would like to I can't get there that fast if he decides to pay an unwelcome visit. I was thinking about some kind of restraining order, but I don't know anything about this stuff.
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Every city in the country has women's shelters with social workers trained in getting women away from dangerous living situations. She can access protection, legal advice, and possibly financial aid there. Why would she seek help from a 20 year old john, rather than seeking professional assistance? That's why everyone is telling you it's probably a scam: she wants to operate outside the law. If you feel you must help her, text her the numbers for battered women's shelters and aid societies in her area before you change your phone number.
 
ONEBIGBOWIE said:
I recently met a girl and she's kind of in a bad spot right now. Some of its money issues but the other problem is her ex. Apparently he was abusive (she said he manhandled her) and she left him a while ago but he won't leave her alone. She doesn't have any of her stuff with her, her clothes and other items are at his place and she's scared to go back. She has been doing escorting out of her apartment because she doesn't have a car and it pays the rent. He was on websites saying she's a thief and talking all kinds of shit. He told the apartment manager she was prostituting and now he's suspicious of her, she's not allowed visitors after 10. I've never seen this guy but she told me he's about my size and a little shorter. I could beat the shit out of him but I'd rather get some kind of legal protection if I can. I met her as an escort and she said I was very nice compared to the rest of the people she's seen. We had a long talk last night and this all came out. She doesn't like doing it, she's good at it, but she wants out. She lives about 45 minutes from me and as much as I would like to I can't get there that fast if he decides to pay an unwelcome visit. I was thinking about some kind of restraining order, but I don't know anything about this stuff.
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What kind of knives do you own? Are they valuable? Only asking cause they're either gonna get stolen or you'll be selling them for cash to live on after your prostitute friend and her friend clean you out of all your cash. Don't forget the marketplace here if you need to raise some money quickly.
 
ONEBIGBOWIE ONEBIGBOWIE when you have 3 pages (on mobile) worth of people telling you that you are headed in the wrong direction, it's time to put on the brakes, get your bearings, and head down a different road. I truly hope that you will heed the advice of all of us, we don't want you to make the same mistake that we have seen other people make.

It feels good to think that you are the hero and that you are "saving" someone, but it's most likely the wrong choice here.

Also, stay away from hookers and escorts, it will just mess with your head and feelings. You are young enough that there is no shortage of available partners out there.
 
unwisefool said:
Also, stay away from hookers and escorts, it will just mess with your head and feelings. You are young enough that there is no shortage of available partners out there.
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I don't know if they still say this anymore, but when I was in high school the English teacher was always saying, "Beware, when you have fire in your pants, smoke gets in your eyes."
 
So what do we have?

someone with no family of friends
Who has an abusive ex
And may be about to get thrown out of their apartment.

It sounds like it is all set up for you to take her in.

If you are really lucky she won’t bother to cut your weenie off after she cleans you out.

Years back I had a co-worker who was getting a divorce from an abusive husband. A good worker and a nice lady with a couple of young kids. Our company (a very large international company) tried to help. We transferred her to a distant and undisclosed location in another part of the country, and none of us heard from her again. For months we had to increase security at our offices concerned that her ex might try to take revenge or seek information on her whereabouts. Believe us when we tell you that this is not a problem that you need to have or can handle. And there is no way that she doesn’t know this; so the only reason to involve you would be to rob you.



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T.L.E. Sharp said:
You're a John, not a savior.
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Sharp & Fiery said:
One word - RUN!
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JupiterPaladin said:
Classic scam dude.
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....these, all of these !!! You may not want to hear it as you think you have some kind of "feelings" for her, at 20 that is your balls talking to you not your brain - I am sure she has a "trick pelvis" (as it was described to me once by a girl who had spent much of her adult life on the game) that has won your balls right over. And of course "you are nice and not like the others" that line is almost as old as hooking, it is the standard segway into "can you help me out", she is playing into a ingrained "saviour gene" we men tend to have and at your age you don't have the mileage on life to recognise the difference between some who needs help and someone looking to use you up. While you may think the room is being harsh and that "we don't know her like you do" it is in fact the case the room is being honest and half of the people here have seen the same tale/situation play out over and over over.... the current ex probably saved her from the previous one.... I too have been there around your age (she wasn't a hooker but did have an "abusive" ex she needed protection from blah blah blah). You my friend are simply a means to an end....nothing more/nothing less.

There are a few ways this can play out, none of them end with you and her settling down to play happy families or you charging in on a white horse. It is an even bet that one or more of the parties involved end up bleeding in a gutter somewhere dead or close to it. I have seen that result and managed the aftermath over and over. At the very best she will borrow a chunk of change from you (after giving your the night of your young life and while you are still on the post conjugal high) to help her start afresh somewhere away from the "bad man" ...you may or may not do so on the understanding that you can catch up with her and start your romantic life together...... you will then find she changed towns, fitted out a new apartment on your $ and is back to turning tricks on the sweet cotton sheets you probably paid for.
 
ONEBIGBOWIE ONEBIGBOWIE , did she take your virginity from you ? If so, it explains why you're thinking like you are. Once your body has an even blood flow and your brain starts functioning again, you'll understand the advice being given here. Hopefully, you won't do anything stupid before then.
 
Andy the Aussie said:
....these, all of these !!! You may not want to hear it as you think you have some kind of "feelings" for her, at 20 that is your balls talking to you not your brain - I am sure she has a "trick pelvis" (as it was described to me once by a girl who had spent much of her adult life on the game) that has won your balls right over. And of course "you are nice and not like the others" that line is almost as old as hooking, it is the standard segway into "can you help me out", she is playing into a ingrained "saviour gene" we men tend to have and at your age you don't have the mileage on life to recognise the difference between some who needs help and someone looking to use you up. While you may think the room is being harsh and that "we don't know her like you do" it is in fact the case the room is being honest and half of the people here have seen the same tale/situation play out over and over over.... the current ex probably saved her from the previous one.... I too have been there around your age (she wasn't a hooker but did have an "abusive" ex she needed protection from blah blah blah). You my friend are simply a means to an end....nothing more/nothing less.

There are a few ways this can play out, none of them end with you and her settling down to play happy families or you charging in on a white horse. It is an even bet that one or more of the parties involved end up bleeding in a gutter somewhere dead or close to it. I have seen that result and managed the aftermath over and over. At the very best she will borrow a chunk of change from you (after giving your the night of your young life and while you are still on the post conjugal high) to help her start afresh somewhere away from the "bad man" ...you may or may not do so on the understanding that you can catch up with her and start your romantic life together...... you will then find she changed towns, fitted out a new apartment on your $ and is back to turning tricks on the sweet cotton sheets you probably paid for.
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Yes. Your little head may be telling you what to do...but your BIG head shouldnt listen.
 
Shadowedhand said:
Men and women are equally capable of bad things despite recent sentiment indicating the opposite. You have a narrow understanding of my statement. But you don’t have to answer to that if it confuses you.
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Oh I get it now it's a joke! You made a joke.

Like the way the women always go to the bathroom in pairs or the way women take a real long time to get ready because of the hair and makeup.

Or the way the predator women "hypnotize" young boys and rape them. Haven't heard that one in years!

Classic.
 
I think Mr. Bowie should buy her some flowers and a box of chocolates. She is a keeper! This only happens once in a lifetime! Since he is better than the other suitors, um johns, she will be his dream girl, he will be her knight in shining armor, and they will live happily ever after. Or Mr. Bowie will end up broke and broken hearted. Either way. One big boob, you better run! Don’t be an idiot.
 
Well apparently I'm an idiot for wanting to help someone. I do know about scams and stuff. She has asked for money for rent. I'm not giving her anything until I figure out where she stands. I don't want to be a sucker but I also don't want to just leave her if she's on the level. She wants me to spend the night with her tomorrow. I'm going to get some answers. The thing that will tip me off is how she reacts to the money situation. I don't have the income for 2 people and car payments. I am alright a little suspicious. Earlier today she texted me saying she needed $145 for rent. I told her I only have $20. She says 20 could do it, she already has $100. She said something about a venmo card, I looked it up, I guess it's connected to PayPal. Regardless of who she is, do you all think a person that poor could have a card? It's funny, she mentioned the police offered her an escort to get her stuff and I guess she didn't take it. I will proceed with caution
 
Cash only, no on-line payments. Venmo has known security issues, don't use it. The Venmo card is most likely a reloadable debit card linked to a Venmo account. You need to open a Venmo account to send money, which makes your bank account vulnerable to being drained as Venmo card accounts are required to be linked to your bank account.
If she is asking you for a card, don't create an account and give her a card with money on it, she can abuse it at your expense. If you put $20 on it, she can go shopping, spend $100 or whatever and Venmo will draw the difference from your bank account.
Run away and don't look back. You are being scammed and refuse to see whats going on.
 
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