Not be a jerk...

Does this type of selflessness make me a bad person?

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I got one done for me on Dec. 16th. A guy I used to work with stopped by the plant and asked if I could use a deer he just shot? He and his father just shot a 5 pointer and all they wanted to do is hunt together that day. They even dropped it off at my house. Venison goes a long way at the homestead especially when the wife can't work. It will be payed forward cuz I love doing nice things for people. I am not usually on the receiving end. Great thread. Happy Holidays Guys!

Pat
 
We are committed to being self sustaining so we keep a pretty deep larder.
A friend got involved selling Christmas trees and then decided to give some away to folks in need.
One family had lost their primary bread winner and the wife was cut to part time when she told her boss she was expecting.
They have a 10yr old daughter.
We found a nice gold heart and child size chain amongst my wife's old jewelry and a hand blown angel for the baby.
I had planned to team up with another friend to buy some gift cards but these folks don't have a working car.

I intended to give them a small box of food for a Christmas meal but once I got into the basement, I sorta lost it.

3 milk crates of food and hygiene items, a 25lb bag of rice and a flat of canned veggies later, I dropped the stuff off at the tree lady.

I had no desire to meet this family so I was grateful my friend was willing to make the delivery run.

My mom was proud of me...and that's what matters.
 
That is a great post and attitude Fonly.

I've changed my attitude around a lot in the last few years. I've been screwed around a lot by people in the past and it made me kind of jaded , to say the least. But , I realized not everyone is a bad egg and if you give people the benefit of the doubt and show just a little bit of kindness , it comes back to you ten-fold.

Letting people in line , letting them merge in traffic , buying your boss a coffee , helping a senior , etc, etc. If you think about it , it's just common ( er , nowadays un-common ,lol) manners and being polite that most of society seems to be missing. If we all showed a little empathy and compassion for our fellow man , the world would be a better place.

Best Holidays and a prosperous New Year to all from a fellow Albertan. :)
 
A few weeks ago, I walked past a noodle restaurant in the city and there was an employee--a young girl probably not 20 years old--standing outside to pull customers in. It was very cold outside, and she kept pulling at her hands and trying to get them warm. Her hands were small and thin, and she didn't have gloves. I turned right around, went down into the mall, stopped at the first apparel store and bought a pair of women's small 100% wool gloves. I walked right up to her, handed them to her and turned around and walked home. When I handed them to her, she seemed shocked, but then her face lit up and she put them on. Made my day and was a tiny expenditure for a lot of joy.

See? I agree, like I said before. Most folks do. Just don't force them to do it.
 
I asked some people to donate to charities on my behalf rather than buy me christmas presents this year. I have enough stuff already (alot less than most, too) - the money should be used to benefit others more in need.
 
Codger_64 said:
I'm not sure how one would force someone to be kind to others.
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Well, exactly how the OP did it. When there's a line of 100 people with busy lives waiting behind you, if you then go and let someone else cut ahead of you, then voila... you've forced 100 people to be kind to someone. Another way of looking at it is that you've been kind to -99 people (kind to 1, unkind to 100).
 
100 people? Where do you think he was? It was a fast-food drive-through.

My dad always let people cut in. He said, basically, if it was a good guy, of course you want to give him a break. If it was a bad guy, you want to give yourself a break and get him on his way, not angry and pushy and endangering you by forcing his way in.

Fonly let one car in front of him. I don't know how the line was set up, maybe they missed the end of the line and were stuck alongside it. How long did they actually take at the window once they got there, two minutes?

100 people ... sheesh.
 
Esav Benyamin said:
100 people? Where do you think he was? It was a fast-food drive-through.

My dad always let people cut in. He said, basically, if it was a good guy, of course you want to give him a break. If it was a bad guy, you want to give yourself a break and get him on his way, not angry and pushy and endangering you by forcing his way in.

Fonly let one car in front of him. I don't know how the line was set up, maybe they missed the end of the line and were stuck alongside it. How long did they actually take at the window once they got there, two minutes?

100 people ... sheesh.
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He has been unkind in this thread? He waisted my two minutes reading his unkind post.
And when I looked there was 917 views - So he waisted two minutes of 917 peoples time also? :confused::rolleyes::grumpy:
This thread was on how NOT to be a jerk? NOT be one......... :D

TA
 
When I can, I find that its the most fun if you can do something with no one the wiser - the right hand doesn't know what the left hand does. I heard a women talking about how a couple of bad breaks had left her particularly broke for the next two weeks, so I folded up a $20 (it was my allowance) and stuck it in her purse when no one was looking. Another time, managed to plant one in someone's pocket - reverse pickpocketing! I don't recommend that one. I almost got caught.

Felt good about those, but now I told. Its fun thinking about what they think when they find it.
 
Esav Benyamin said:
100 people? Where do you think he was? It was a fast-food drive-through.

My dad always let people cut in. He said, basically, if it was a good guy, of course you want to give him a break. If it was a bad guy, you want to give yourself a break and get him on his way, not angry and pushy and endangering you by forcing his way in.

Fonly let one car in front of him. I don't know how the line was set up, maybe they missed the end of the line and were stuck alongside it. How long did they actually take at the window once they got there, two minutes?

100 people ... sheesh.
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So what if it was 100 people or only one person? If you let someone cut in front of you, then you've been rude to that one person behind you. I don't see how that's not obvious. Now, if you *ask* the people behind you and they agree, then that's a different story.

I'll state it clearly: I also believe 100% we all should be more kindly to one another. And if some poor young couple needed to get through that drive-through line faster than me (and remember, it cuts both ways--if it's no big deal to make a line of people behind you wait... then it's no big deal to make that poor young couple to wait a few minutes longer), I would gladly let them through. But not when people with busy lives are behind me. I don't have the right to force them to participate.
 
Magnaminous_G said:
So what if it was 100 people or only one person? If you let someone cut in front of you, then you've been rude to that one person behind you. I don't see how that's not obvious. Now, if you *ask* the people behind you and they agree, then that's a different story.

I'll state it clearly: I also believe 100% we all should be more kindly to one another. And if some poor young couple needed to get through that drive-through line faster than me (and remember, it cuts both ways--if it's no big deal to make a line of people behind you wait... then it's no big deal to make that poor young couple to wait a few minutes longer), I would gladly let them through. But not when people with busy lives are behind me. I don't have the right to force them to participate.
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You are ruining a great thread. Please let it go already.
 
At the restaurant that we go to occasionally we always leave a good tip but the little older Vietnamese guy that usually busses the tables probably doesnt get any or much of that.When we were in there the other day before Christmas I slipped a $50 bill under the plate after we had payed the waitress.I hope it made his Christmas.--KV
 
Magnaminous_G said:
So what if it was 100 people or only one person? If you let someone cut in front of you, then you've been rude to that one person behind you. I don't see how that's not obvious. Now, if you *ask* the people behind you and they agree, then that's a different story.

I'll state it clearly: I also believe 100% we all should be more kindly to one another. And if some poor young couple needed to get through that drive-through line faster than me (and remember, it cuts both ways--if it's no big deal to make a line of people behind you wait... then it's no big deal to make that poor young couple to wait a few minutes longer), I would gladly let them through. But not when people with busy lives are behind me. I don't have the right to force them to participate.
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So I'll remember to not let you in line in front of me next time. Okay?
 
jimmyd1982 said:
You are ruining a great thread. Please let it go already.
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A great thread? It's a thread that pretends to be about showing consideration and kindness, but really the OP wants to vent at a woman because she was upset that he let someone else cut in line in front of everybody. She had every right to be upset. The OP even hints that she's a "jerk" in the thread title. I'm just calling a spade a spade.

EDIT: I'll repeat --> I'm all about us all being kinder to each other! But the message is wrong: you shouldn't be kind to one person by inconveniencing someone else.
 
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If the supposed 100 people in line behind the person who let 1 person ahead of them get upset about it or feel inconvienienced, perhaps kindness and the meaning of the words "good samaritan" escapes them.
 
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