Ode to My son Scott and a Message to parents

Robert,
So very sorry to hear this tragic news and I can't begin to imagine the hell you must be going through.I had a dear friend die and another dear friend's son pass away after being given pills by a girl at a party.His mother found him in the morning,at home in his own bed.
I said my little prayers for Scott and your family this morning and will do so tonight.
Sincerest condolences,I am so sorry.
If there is something,anything I can do.Please ask!

Doug
 
Robert,

I've thought long and hard about how I could respond to your post. This is the best I can do, and it comes from my heart:

I'm very sorry about your loss and I both admire and thank you for your courage in posting the Ode To Scott. I'm a dad too and you have moved me - so I think you are making progress already. Thank you for sharing your hard-earned wisdom and courage. It will make a difference, and that's a promise.

Mike
 
I cannot think of a more Horrible ode to someones son..How terrible.

Yet this ode needs to be heard in every school, church, street corner,

it needs to ring in the ears of every child..and echo though the hearts of every parent.

Goddam the pusherman...there is a special place in hell for those that sell drugs to kids..

Robert, your loss is the worst that someone can experience. I am showing my sons this ode..they need to see it.

Ren
 
Scott was raised in a loving and stable enviroment...This can happen to anyone.
It comes from my experience when I found him. If it stirs to action one parent or friend to intervene and save a life it is worth it!

Right on Ren that is what I hoped for!!!
 
I have had the misfortune of seeing this happen too many times.

I have gotten to them in time to counteract what they have done.

I have gotten to them in time to see their last breath, and been blessed to be able to return them to life.

I have seen them do it again, and I don't get there in time.

I have seen the pain they leave as their epitaph.

I have never been able to understand why they would risk all for a moment.

These children, many times students, with a wonderful future...gone.

We are all struck with anger and sadness, the wish to stop this from happening.
We look to capture and punish the dealer of drugs.
I have taken many of them down, only to find that they are lost and misdirected just as much as the victims themselves.
We cannot believe that it is possible to stop this by retaliation/punishment of the drug dealer, because we do not have the facility to catch them and lock them up fast enough to ever win this battle, even though we are good at it.
The enemy is ignorance.

I have been a warrior all of my life, just as so many of you are as well.
I have fought for my country, while my friends have protested.
I have studied the arts of war and fighting for decades.
I read these forums and, (I just recently found this one), because I see the honor and character that pervades the way that all of you live your lives, and I am encouraged to believe there are still men of character here.

I am encouraged, in these times, by the response of our young men to
rise to the challenge to fight for the rights of all men as our forefathers have done in the past. When so many have no understanding of history, they stand up to the hardest tasks with respect for all that have earned for us the freedoms that we have. They are our hope for the future.

The point.
We cannot stop the evil things that happen by attacking the apparent problem, the problem is in the nature of man, and this is what we must endeavor to improve. We need to offer an alternative to the drive for instant gratification that is so commonplace in modern society. We need to teach the values of self discipline, honor and courage that grants gratification that is greater and last a lifetime.

Nowhere have I ever found any one with stronger values than those of a man with a warriors mentality. Those that are prepared and are willing to fight are the ones that cherish peace and life more than anyone.
Those, with that kind of self discipline, are the ones that will not be drawn into the culture of instant gratification. Those are the ones that are going to be able to fend off the peer pressure that draws them into this culture.

So the enigma is that we must teach our children, as early as possible, to learn the strengths of the warrior to achieve peace and harmony.
This appears to me to offer a better chance of success than the never ending war against those that propagate the evils in our modern society.

I apologize for the long post, but I have seen this so many times that I truly do understand the horror of what you are going through and I wish that I could say something positive to help. I have spent many hours mourning the senseless loss and trying to put this feeling of helplessness into perspective.
The only positive solution I have ever been able to see revolves around the improvement of basic human nature. The best attributes to achieve stability, peace and harmony, by some strange course through the gordian knot, seems to be in the strength of the warrior.

I, too, have a 27 year old son who can't seem to find his direction, and is still motivated by peer pressure and a mindset towards instant gratification.
My greatest fear is that I will get dispatched to a scene involving him much the same as the horror that you have had to face.
God bless you, and may your strength carry through this terrible time.

-Scott
 
Robert, sorry to hear of your loss. May you remember the good times you had with your boy. May you and your family heal from the hurt that lies inside of you, and may your remaining family become stronger from the experience. I don't have kids, but I don't know what I would do if I were to find one of my wife's grandkids in this situation.

my prayers are with you and your family Robert and again, may you be able to remember all the happy times you and he shared.
 
Robert,

I'm so sorry for your loss; I can't imagine your sorrow, your grief, it is every parent’s nightmare.

Godspeed and prayers for you and yours.


Steve
 
I have a son who is going through a wild stage

He has caused himself and family a lot of grief

But as has been said,

stay with them

He has, for the last few months, been putting forth the effort to change,

thanks for taking the time to share

A prayer for the additional strength that you need is being lifted up right

now:(
 
Robert,
I don't have words to describe my sorrow at the loss of your son.
You and your wife will be in my prayers. May you both find the strength to get through this together.
 
God bless you Robert. And God bless Scott. He will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.
 
It took courage to post this, it will end up saving lives.I will show this

to my children, and help spread the message. Call me anytime.

Norman
 
Robert, I am so sorry for your loss.

Yet another reason and impetus for me to try to be an even better daddy to my boys. Maybe I'll get lucky and catch them before something tragic happens to them someday.

My deepest condolences and sorrow.

David
 
Thanks to all for your caring and support. Has been a tough few weeks to say the least. Wife and I are both getting professional help to get thru this and it is working slowly but surely.

We are putting together a Memorial website along with a real life "Warning Signs" Tutorial for parents and teachers alike. What to look for and suggestions on how to handle it.

Remember two things:
Denial (Not my Angel) Can Kill your Child!
Failure to take action Can Kill your Child!
You are the Parent
You are in Charge
 
I'm very sorry that you lost your son. Only after I had a child (a daughter) did I realize how much a you can love someone. It's undescribable.

I hope you can find Peace in The Lord.

God Bless you!
 
Robert,

Please accept my heartfelt condolences regarding the loss of your son. My family and I will pray for you and yours.
 
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