Ok I have this 'friend'

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Ritt said:
Everything I know about you Steve, both firsthand and through various forums, leads me to conclude you're a stand-up guy. Sounds like the two of you had a miscommunication, at most. If he chooses to make more of it than that, well then maybe he's not your friend.
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Yep, sounds about right. If no names were named, and no details were given, then who cares? Internet paranoia seems to be strange phenomenon in the knife world....
 
One word: Maturity.
If he's a good friend of yours, maybe you should just suck it up and apologize because you didn't know.
There is at least one other forum that sees us as "the bad guys" because we're just so dang nice and (gasp!) forgiving, so maybe he didn't want his name associated with this forum on the other forum. BF allows disagreement and friendly arguments and confrontations, which is not tolerated in other militant forums, which, in their opinions makes us losers. I prefer to think of BF as intellectuals discussing ideas, not being preached to about which "bad ass, hard core" knife company is the best.
 
Keith Montgomery said:
It is my firm belief that if I don't want something to be passed on by someone else, I will keep it to myself.

When somebody says to me that they are going to tell me something, but it is for me only, and please don't tell anyone else, I won't tell anyone else, period.
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In the professional community where I've worked most of my life, this is practically 'revealed truth.' So I suppose my opinion is not very useful -- this is the way I've lived for so long now that I never really think about it.

I must guard the secrets I hold. It's a personal responsibility.

Samhain73 -- I would say 'internet paranoia' is a strange phenomenon...period.
 
As far as I am concerned, unless the other person asked you to keep the information to yourself, you did nothing wrong.
 
Walking Man said:
One word: Maturity.
If he's a good friend of yours, maybe you should just suck it up and apologize because you didn't know.
There is at least one other forum that sees us as "the bad guys" because we're just so dang nice and (gasp!) forgiving, so maybe he didn't want his name associated with this forum on the other forum. BF allows disagreement and friendly arguments and confrontations, which is not tolerated in other militant forums, which, in their opinions makes us losers. I prefer to think of BF as intellectuals discussing ideas, not being preached to about which "bad ass, hard core" knife company is the best.
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You don't think I tried that? And by the way he is a member here and on several other forums just like I am. For that matter if there was concern about it then its all the more reason he should have made mention to keep it secret or not tell anyone where it came from in my mind.

For the record that quote in post #5 by me that shows the reply I got from my friend was made public by my friend's suggestion in case anyone wants to know.

Here is the scenario again as I understand it.

How bout the one where a friend forwards a guy a link to a new post in an old thread on a public forum knowing full well it would be shared, because afterall thats why it was mailed to him in the first place to get the word out about it. Then that friend and sender of said link decides the guy he sent it to should be attacked, called an ass and let go as a friend because that friend forwarded it to others where those people then heard about it and could also see where it originally came from and then the friend and recipient of the same link mentioned who he learned it from on the forum after forwarding it to others because he didn't realize it was any big secret.

What about that one? I bring it up again because afterall we all know everyone should know when you mail a link to someone about a thread to a public forum where there is some "good news" waiting to be shared that if the recipient of that link then shares it with friends by forwarding it or mentioning where it came from, even though he was never asked to keep anything private or informed that there were any concerns with it at all, that its a known violation of privacy which is not supposed to be done. Do I have it right now Mr. X friend of mine?

Frankly with friends like these I don't need enemies. And if any of you guys feel that I did something wrong by sharing this link to a public forum that was shared with me please inform me now to save me time and energy from 'high maintainance friends' in the future or at least have the decency to tell me when you mail me any links to public discussions or anything else that you want to remain anonymous. I will certainly keep to myself anything shared with me in confidence but I think its reasonable to expect to be informed of it in cases like this.


STR
 
I'm having trouble understanding this.

You are saying the following occured:
  • You got an email from a friend
  • The email contained a link to a post on a public forum
  • The friend thought that link was something worth bragging about
  • The friend made no mention about keeping that link secret

Then, in a seperate incident
  • You are asked about the thread by someone else
  • You mention you heard about it from your "friend"
  • As a result, your "friend" is pissed at you
  • Your "friend" no longer wants to be your "friend" because of this
  • You don't discuss any commentary your "friend" offered with the email, regardless

Your "friend" sounds like a drama queen. What's the point of sending the email if he didn't want attention drawn to that thread? What's so secret about saying "Joe Bob told me about that thread?"
 
I think you got it. I can't answer your questions as to what was so secret about it or so precious about his ID being involved with it. Simply don't have a clue there but I do wish he had just simply said keep me anonymous or something to that effect, because I would have certainly done that for him.

STR
 
You should email him and say that if there are blacked out helicopters hovering over his house not to worry, it's just the secret internet police. :eek:

yah, gutless drama queen.
 
While I understand your not wanting to piss someone off, I don't really think this is worth getting upset about. I think you're friend has to spend some more time in the real world.
 
Good point. I was upset, then pisssed, and now I'm over it. As I said though I rarely have relationship problems so its not something I deal with like a pro when it happens. Still, I'm glad it occured early in our friendship rather than later; as that surely would have been more upsetting than it was initially.

Its a done deal really and the bridge apparently is effectively burned down between us now. Well, at least one lane of it anyway.

Thanks for the replies. Lets close this thing down now if you will do me that favor. I just needed some perspective although I'm sure that didn't go over well with the other party concerned. I figured all other avenues were no use so went to outside sources. I've learned from it.

STR
 
As a platinum member you can close this thread yourself. Click on the Thread Tools box that is just above the top post on any page of the thread. Make sure the little circle to the left of Close Thread has the little green dot in it, then click on Perform Action. The thread will then be locked.
 
Wow. Thanks Keith. Had no idea. Learn something everyday.

Once again I appreciate the feedback.

STR
 
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