Prayers for my dieing father...

Sending up a few prayers of my own in honor of a fellow Vet.

I hope I'm loved this much when my time comes.
 
Men of that caliber are from a generation that can never be duplicated. God bless.

-lim
 
U r def in my prayers, my father had a stroke in April followed by another one in July and has been up and down since. It takes a lot of courage to deal with feelings.

Don't block them out man thats the best advice I can give, it's amazing the lessons learned, the feeling had, and the memories that just magically seem to pop up at the right time.

It takes a lot of courage to grow. People like us have to take times like these and remember where we came from, and be thankful that we had fathers who raised us to care about them this much...many do not have that luxury.

It breaks my heart when I see these young men with 5 kids that they aren't taking care of...be grateful u were graced by a beautiful part of life

Disease is a beast man, trust me I know. It's slow it's hard and its tougher than anything u ever faced before garunteed

Sometimes u wish it would just happen fast. It will bring out your strength it will bring out your weakness

U will have to deal with the ugliest part of yourself and face your demons at a time u may not be ready to.

Its time to shine my friend. Do it for him. Even tho he is right there and doesn't have the ability to express like he probably would have in his day, he would have wanted you to be happy and prosper. His legacy lives on through you and that's a beautiful thing about life.

Make sure when your world gets flipped upside down, no matter what when or where you come out on top. That's all you can do

You find out who your true friends are. You find peace and Harmony among perfect strangers

And when it all seems like its too much to tolerate, u will come to find there is way more good in the world than bad and there always will be.


And I know lately evil is on the rise and things seem worse than ever...but u just remember the great times, the small details, the journey, the photograph, the jokes

Write them down when they pop in your head.....and live by it

And just remember you although hit with misfortune are one of the fortunate...remember that

And u will find a strength inside yourself when everything is at peace again that u wouldnt trade for anything in the world. People will recognize and gravitate towards that strength and positive vibe.

It's just as easy to fall under the pressure...but think about your friends and family, how important is it to you that they have you to show them the way? It's hard to fill those shoes, but soon enough they will be your shoes.

There is the to mourn there is time to appreciate, we aren't an insensitive species, but keeping the pack moving to greener pastures is infinitely more important for waiting for the aged lion who lived a full life and can no longer keep up with the pack and holds them behind


Yea it's some primal shit and I don't mean to be insensitive...but it's the way of the world, and our existence thrives on it. Use that pit in your stomach to honor him in memory, because if you forget those tiny little details.....which is exactly what happens in the brain during stress and depression...who knows how long it's going to take to remember those tiny little details, those trips, those laughs, the good the bad...it's all inside your mind my friend...and I will pray for it to go easy on you, because no one deserves that. And it's a sad reality that that could be the case...but in actuality when you go outside, reality is what you make it and I hope u r able to find beautiful detail in ordinary everyday things like the trees air animals and water, it's time to appreciate those things more than ever, it's time to wake up and celebrate life....you will never be this alive, and to honor him the most important thing you can do is become great and infinitely strong in the face of adversity...feel free to pm me if you every need to talk....I'm about to hit rock bottom myself, but I'm training myself to become elastic so that when I'm on the bottom...all I can see is the top and it makes me hunger for success :) hang in there bud. It's clear that your heart is filled with love and incredible things happen to incredible person...u made it this far right? Isn't that already a miracle in itself? How many miracles can you have in a miracle :) how do you harness the power within the power within. It's time to dominate my friend. Find the spirit and go with it, this is your time to shine remember that, it's what he wants and you know it.

Love and respect bro.
 
Peace be with you during this difficult time. Keep talking to him, even when he doesn't seem to hear. Keep talking to him when you can't see him anymore. Prayers for you and your family. Regards.
 
Esav Benyamin said:
The years go by and leave us dazed that those we love are bound to die.
But love will always still remain when those we love are free of pain.

My sympathy to you and your family. It's hard to watch when the leader of the pack seems to have lost his strength. The rest of you have to provide that now, to see him off on that rising trail. You will see him again, in better times.
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"But love will always still remain...". How poignant. I've been thinking a lot about love... It's "something" that we all know but what is it and what happens to it when a person passes from this existence? My sisters, brother who arrived from VA. yesterday and my mother and I spend evenings now, "expressing" our love to our father, and each other and it's so easy to do. We get together and talk as a group with dad about times when we were young, and about times when he was young. We play guitar and sing all of his old favorite songs from earlier days, tell old stories and we tell him how much he's done for us in his life. We reflect back to him, the love he has given to us over his lifetime.

We all "give" this thing called love to others, all of our lives. We are also "given" love by others throughout our own lives... So where does this "love" go when the person who's given it to us, that we have "given" it to, passes from our lives here?

I have a theory that gives me some comfort; Love is a real "thing"... more than just and internal emotion because we give it, and receive it. I think that when a person leaves us physically, the love we have and do give him, is something that he takes with him when he goes to heaven. I think that all of the love that he has given to us remains and mixes within US and adds to the bounty of love in us that we can now share with others. Frankly, we have an obligation to share his love for him in his stead... We become the stewards of the love that he has "given" us. As stewards, what will we do with HIS portion of love. We will still love him and he will still give love to us... just in a different way. Love to him through our remembrances of him, and we will know his love for us is still present within us to give. I think it's important to him, that we share our own and his "Gifts" of love more liberally while we continue on in this life... be more free to express it.. to TELL those we love that we might not have told, just how much they mean to us while we live and have the opportunity to do so. Don't wait, tell them now, for ourselves and for those who have passed their love on to us.

For me, this is liberating... to realize that "my love" is not really my own, but belongs to others, and that I am to give it to them freely, without hesitation at every opportunity. To me, Love is God and God is Love... he gave us this thing called love to share and "give" to others. I'll not be hesitant ever again to tell those I love... that I do.

Like everything else in this world that "exists", love will always continue to exist in some form or another. Love like water, turns to something else... steam, a vapor, a mist, a cloud... but it continues to exist, and again becomes water in the form of rain to fall onto others.

Thank you all again, for your support and prayers... and the form of "love" that they bring.
 
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More prayers from Missouri -- up in the northwest corner. When my dad passed away, I was comforted when a friend said something to the effect that "those who live on in our hearts never really die." I hope it brings you some measure of comfort and strength in the time to come.

Not my business, brother, but please accept this in the spirit in which it is rendered and please forgive me if I'm overstepping my bounds. I cannot more highly recommend a good Hospice organization.

May God bless
 
Sending smoke up from deep with in the Boreal Forests. Tim fathers are precious, my father passed away in 1996 from cancer, yet there are times when I feel him very close by, he lets me know I am not alone.
 
sweetwater said:
More prayers from Missouri -- up in the northwest corner. When my dad passed away, I was comforted when a friend said something to the effect that "those who live on in our hearts never really die." I hope it brings you some measure of comfort and strength in the time to come.

Not my business, brother, but please accept this in the spirit in which it is rendered and please forgive me if I'm overstepping my bounds. I cannot more highly recommend a good Hospice organization.

May God bless
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Sweetwater... taken in the spirit it was intended, and yes, we do have a great Hospice organization involved and working with us during these last days or weeks... His "time" is in God's hands.

I appreciate all of your kind sentiments and all those from all others who have offeree their good thoughts and prayers.

God bless you also.
 
Somewhat similar background I suppose. . . Grandad on my mom's side also had Parkinson's, retired from the USN and served during WWII. He was "Chief Steward" which I believe at that time was the highest rank a Filipino could reach, but more than that, he got the respect of EVERYONE; captains, officers, down to the guy mopping the galley.

Tim your father is going Home. . .
 
Hey brother... saw your post and just wanted to encourage you. This is in a real sense "the best of times and the worst of times." A loved one leaving us, BUT at the same time knowing that they'll be safe in the arms of God. There is a real peace in knowing this. There's a song by Chris Tomlin that puts it best, – for me at least – the chorus goes like this:

And I will rise when He calls my name
No more sorrow, no more pain
I will rise on eagles' wings
Before my God fall on my knees
And rise, I will rise

Prayers have been sent and received for your father, and you and your family as well.

God Bless

"Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his saints". Psalm 116:15
 
prayers for your father, you, and your family.
 
I'm sorry to hear about your father's health issues. Hopefully, you can focus on the good times and the love shared between family.

Take care of yourself.

Glenn
 
I lost my mother to cancer and in the last weeks we wished her pain to end so I know where you're at...I wish strength to you and yours in this time and that his passing is swift when the time comes. Take care.
 
The Lord took my dad home today, very peacefully, with the family gathered around. Though my heart cries, my spirit rejoices.

Thank you all for your prayers and comforting words.
 
I'm so sorry Tim. On one level. On another, I know the relief felt when a loved one's struggle is over. May God be with you and your family these next days as you deal with what must be done.

Michael
 
Go in peace, rest in peace, blessings on the family that saw him off with such love.
 
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