If it helps, many of us have been in your boots. The good news is that many of us also now make MUCH better knives. Heat treating is critical to performance as you just experienced. May have missed it but did you say if you forge or made these by stock removal?
Coarse grain, probably resulting from substantial overheating at quench (or earlier without being normalized), can give you a crumbly edge in carbon steel. Sure you considered decarb, but you probably ground away (cool and carefully) far more than would be needed to remove that soft material. Id bet these blades probably went through a roller coaster of temperatures over a fair amount of time at HT; so coarse grain and decarb are likely conspiring against you.
So for now you are limited to a 2BF, a known quality steel, no money and no thermocouple. Could be a lot worse (O/A torch and A36 from the bigbox store theres always that guy
). To my mind, you can still learn to do a decent job heat treating as long as you dont fight your limitations. No swords and maybe no blades at all >3 or so. Stick with a single eutectoid alloy (1075, 1080, or 1084) that requires little to no soak at critical and use that fact to your advantage. Learn how your steel changes as related to temperature and forget the idea that a loss of ferromagnetism indicates critical temp. It is simply not true for these steels - regardless of who tells you so. You are shooting for ~1475F and coincidentally NaCl melts at that temp.
Suggestions:
Wait till after dark so you can see the important stuff happening in your fire. Close off your 2BF as much as possible and soak empty for several minutes with your MAPP torch wide open. Insulating (soft) firebrick doesnt have the heat capacity of some other common forge liner materials so I dont know how big a difference this will make, but the goal is to put heat into your forge walls so that when you introduce your steel, it will have an energetic head start and a more uniform interior. Then back off the heat and set the blade out of any hot spots (micro-muffle?). Now be patient and watch carefully what happens as the steel comes up in temperature. Take your time. You will notice the thinner edge and point will begin to glow deep red. Try to get this sub-critical temp as uniform as you can across your blade. Bump the heat slowly and the point/edge will eventually flash in a pretty obvious way as they reach critical. This color will spread through the blade quickly with a decent preheat. Avoid distractions and pay attention, or just wait for a better time.
I suggest thermal cycling one of your already-broken junker 108X blades several times first. Just hit critical, yank and let air cool. Learn what the transition to critical looks like as folks have been doing for a very long time. Get your confidence up this way and full quench into a quart+ of warm canola oil. If you go through this successfully with your course-grained knife you mentioned and dull/score/break again, you should notice much finer grain than you got in round one. If you avoid overheating the thin pointy parts on a new blade and you temper at 400 to 425F range for 2h, you will be quite happy with the result I expect. Study, ask questions, be patient and try again if it doesnt work out.