Rude behavior/no response

Cobalt

Cobalt

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In the last year or so of dealing with people on the forums I have encountered a type of personality that is quite annoying.

The type I am talking about is the person who will email or pm you when they see something they like, but when you counter offer or offer something they are not interested in there is no response from them, not even belatedly. It has been happening often to me in the last year with the more current crop of joinees to the forum.

these same individuals will not even respond to your pm's or emails when they are not interested in anything you have to offer.

But lack of response in of itself is a poor way of dealing with people.

There is a self centered and arrogant manner and it is pretty tiring.

I guess the old saying, treat people how you would like to be treated is not part of their way.

I have spoken with other members off line about these people and we all seem to agree on this, but I want to see how many others have encountered this.
 
twice? with fellow hog/piglets I bet.

My deals did not actually go through in a few cases. But this has been happening way to often and these culprits need to be made aware by reading this post. I will be letting them know privately as well what I think of them when and if they do it again.
 
Cobalt said:
twice? with fellow hog/piglets I bet.

My deals did not actually go through in a few cases. But this has been happening way to often and these culprits need to be made aware by reading this post. I will be letting them know privately as well what I think of them when and if they do it again.
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I had a deal go on for months and months and after maybe six months I just gave up on the guy. It was a knife he really wanted and I was trying to do him a favor so I could never understand it. :confused: :confused:

It worked out for me. When we started I would have traded him at a value for maybe $550 now the knife might be worth closer to a grand:D :thumbup:


On the not so good side I had a guy tell me to hold two very expensive knifes for "two weeks" while he came up with cash to balance. I said I would if he was sure he wasn't going to back out. Two months later he backed out. Then I find that the guy traded a 1-300 I was interested in as part of the deal to another guy:grumpy: and traded away two other SHBMs while I was waiting for him.:mad::mad::mad:
 
Tony G said:

On the not so good side I had a guy tell me to hold two very expensive knifes for "two weeks" while he came up with cash to balance. I said I would if he was sure he wasn't going to back out. Two months later he backed out. Then I find that the guy traded a 1-300 I was interested in as part of the deal to another guy:grumpy: and traded away two other SHBMs while I was waiting for him.:mad::mad::mad:
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That IS harsh. I think most Hogs/Piglets would not do this.

Sometimes people forget The Golden Rule. Remember it, from your youth? It's a better world when we remember this old saw...

I'm sure I've disappointed others, but I try hard to avoid it. If you don't have standards ... and try to live up to them ... you'll end up disappointing yourself even more than you do others.

Just saying...;)
 
So far, in my short time here, I have found everyone that I dealt with to be very nice and upfront if they want to back out of a deal.

I have dealt with more senior members thus far so I'm sure that has a lot to do with it.

I hope you guys the best in the future and hope you don't have to deal with too many more knuckleheads.
 
Very well put. I have experienced this in numerous instances and it's quite annoying.
Brett
Cobalt said:
In the last year or so of dealing with people on the forums I have encountered a type of personality that is quite annoying.

The type I am talking about is the person who will email or pm you when they see something they like, but when you counter offer or offer something they are not interested in there is no response from them, not even belatedly. It has been happening often to me in the last year with the more current crop of joinees to the forum.

these same individuals will not even respond to your pm's or emails when they are not interested in anything you have to offer.

But lack of response in of itself is a poor way of dealing with people.

There is a self centered and arrogant manner and it is pretty tiring.

I guess the old saying, treat people how you would like to be treated is not part of their way.

I have spoken with other members off line about these people and we all seem to agree on this, but I want to see how many others have encountered this.
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Cobalt said:
not true. Just about every one of these scenarios has been a hog/piglet for me
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Then ... this is my sad face. :(

Truly, I'm sorry you had to put up with this. It's too much to hope that you've seen the last of it, but hopefully you'll see a little less.

If I treat you like that ... don't forget to let me have one 'upside the head.' :grumpy: Sometimes a little attitude adjustment is in order.
 
Well, I hope I haven't offended anyone through PM's or emails. If I have please let me know. I will admit that through the day I forget somethings but try to respond to everyone. I'd hate for my absent mindedness to be perceived as rudeness. Sorry you have had this experience Cobalt. Hopefully among the negative experiences you have also had some positive ones recently.
 
I have experienced this quite a bit lately. I have even tried contact a second time with no response. If you see nevermind, that is my response to being ignored.
 
I suppose if the deal originated in the exchange and they replied to a sale thread of yours, you could always leave neutral feedback for them saying that they were a no show or a back out with no explanation. I wouldn't go so far as to say give them a negative rating since I think that ought to be reserved for someone who completely rips you off, but the former would at least come up as feedback for them when other people checked them out and I don't think it would be considered abuse of the itrade setup. You are just giving the forum a load of intel on the person's dealings with you and they can make their own decision of whether or not to deal with them. That's what I would do, now that we have the tool, let us not just use it for fluffing our own plumage. :D
 
garyz said:
I have experienced this quite a bit lately. I have even tried contact a second time with no response. If you see nevermind, that is my response to being ignored.
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yup, this is happening all to often in my opinion and and Progunner is right, we need to start handing out neutral feedback to these guys.

And negative feedback reserved for really bad deals.
 
I have been pretty lucky and have not had this happen often.
When it has, folks have been real apologetic when getting back to me.
I was the guilty party at least once when I did not see an email response and was waiting.

I am thankful that most all of the people I have had deals with have had really good communication and patience.

I have had one lost package and sent a replacement knife. The other person was great about it.

I have been waiting for one that is due, but as it sometimes happens, it is late. The other member has been great about keeping in touch and is very concerned about holding up his end.

I guess to summarize, I have been very fortunate and pleased with members.

I wonder if it makes a difference that most of my deals are in the lower dollars ranges?

Ed T
 
LOL,

This has happened to me so many times in the last 7 or 8 years that I thought it was normal, but I have not sold a knife here for the last year or two.
 
I just went to make sure I had replied to all my messages that needed a reply! Way to make me worry for a second... :eek:

I know what you mean though, I hate "hanging" conversations where someone doesn't see fit to reply and conclude a transaction, even if it is a "I'll pass" message. It is in the back of my mind then and I subconsciously try to avoid dealing away a blade that was in question just in case... Maybe I need to be a little more callous in my dealings. :o :(
 
it is one thing to forget about responding to one person, but it is a whole nother thing to be cronic about it to many people.
 
I think I have forgotten about a message - read it, planned to respond when I wasn't at work, etc., and forgotten it. Hopefully, it hasn't happened too often. I'm not sure if it ever has with a trade offer. I have always responded to someone who made an offer to a post I made.

Either way, I've been ignored in PMs before. While using a couple of folks as a sounding board after an odd deal I had, I made the following statement to my sounding board buddies. This has so far only applied only to hogs/iHogs I've dealt with:

I have a couple of lists... I keep adding people to one list or the other. As Amy would say, you're on the good "honorable" list.
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I always reply to every message. Its rude not to IMO........ Communication is key.... And there are many on here who don't like to reply.... I simply stay away from them..
Thanks
Matt B.
 
Paddling_man said:
I think I have forgotten about a message - read it, planned to respond when I wasn't at work, etc., and forgotten it. Hopefully, it hasn't happened too often. I'm not sure if it ever has with a trade offer. I have always responded to someone who made an offer to a post I made.

Either way, I've been ignored in PMs before. While using a couple of folks as a sounding board after an odd deal I had, I made the following statement to my sounding board buddies. This has so far only applied only to hogs/iHogs I've dealt with:
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i have also forgotten, or accidentally zapped pm's then cant remember who sent what message with what offer.

but i try and be very consciencous (sp?) about responding to pm/email.

in fact, i often find conversations going on that last many messages, neither the recipient nor i quite sure when the conversation is supposed to end.


eg:

me: here's my info.

them: thx, here's mine.

me: thx, will ship soon.

them: thx, look forward to receipt.

me: let me know when it arrives.

them: will do.

me: thx.

them: thx.

me: your welcome.

......on and on and on......:)
 
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