OP: been exactly in your predicament a couple of times. Got frustrated each time, sold my Large 21 and 25 and then I missed them! Not to sound sacrilegious and blasphemous to my CRK friends on here, I will have to side with the OP that every Spidie which I had received out of the box was a pure cutting demon as compared to my Sebies. Doing a lot of shipping, packaging, unpackaging, cutting off tape, straps and then cutting boxes to shreds, I have had to maintain my CRKs more than my Military 204P (gone since too). However, whenever I was without a CRK, I was also a sad folding knife enthusiast.
I really think that different metal alloys respond differently to different sharpening stones and strops. The Sharpmaker also turned out to be very frustrating and quite useless to me. It wasn't the so much the Sharpmaker as it was me. Being right handed, I could get the left side of the blade done reasonably well but I sucked at positioning my body for the right side of the blade. Really awkward for me. I have spend lots of time reading the tinkering subforum and I also got very frustrated with trying to be precise with the freehand sharpening angles, etc. I don't use guided system as I want to get as good as I can with freehand.
What I have found which works the best for me is just marking edge with a black marker and then I just use the Fallkniven DC4 and CC4 pocket stones like an eraser to erase the ink! The erasing motion is back and forth across the secondary bevel and edge, not up and down unless I hit an area near the heel which proves to be troublesome. I am also very, very careful around the tip. What I do and the way I do it is certainly not pretty but it works for me. I don't use the diamond side of the DC4 just for maintenance but I do use the sapphire side (about 1200 grit I believe) and also the ceramic side of the CC4 which I think is about 2000 grit (?). I use the marker trick for both grits. I also have a Spyderco 306UF plate which I will use with the conventional freehand technique if I want a more polished edge, but toothy seems to work fine for my application and use. I don't put a microbevel on the edge but I could if I wanted to with that 306UF plate. I have not found a strop that works for me. I do have the Knifeplus block with the green which many people seem to like, but again perhaps it is all on me as I have never felt that strop does very much for anything that I use it for. I may go with an emulsion based liquid and the kangaroo leather from KME instead.
In closing, as much as the grief I give myself about the same issues which bother you, I can not be without a CRK. They just need a little bit more attention from me.