Sellers remorse

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I'm looking for community feedback on a knife I bought. I'd like opinions.

A couple days ago I purchased a knife off the forum. We have been communicating via text message since then, very good guy.. He gives me updates on where the knife is etc..
The more we talk the more he discusses regretting selling the knife to me and asked if I would consider selling it back to him. Now I don't buy to flip. This is a knife I've been looking for for a long time and I paid more than I was comfortable with to get it.

It arrives tomorrow.

So my question is, since I don't have the knife in hand yet do I have a moral obligation to send back the knife he sold me (the payment has already been sent to him)?
Or is it a fair trade and I can respectfully decline without guilt?

Like I said I think he's a great guy. I don't want bad blood between us
Any advice is appreciated
 
I'd say your within your right to respectfully decline to sell it back to him. No doubt we all get buyers and sellers remorse from time to time. But nothing gets you over the last one like the next one.
 
Technically, youre under no obligation to sell it back to him. The deal is as good as done... BUT, i suggest doing him a solid and selling it back to him. Did he make an impulsive decision offering it up? Yes. However, i believe you will help your own karma and you'll make a new friend if you sell it back to him. Maybe he'll pay it foward and help out another knife nut in the future.
 
You can certainly keep the knife when it arrives since you have paid the agreed upon price. However, he sounds like a good guy from your description and it is doubtful that he is asking to buy it back so he can sell it to someone else for a higher price. And you mentioned that you paid an amount that was uncomfortable for you. If I was in your position I would probably let him buy it back for the same price you paid plus the cost of shipping it back to him. It is a win-win situation. You get a refund of the money that you were uncomfortable paying and he gets the knife back that he regrets selling.
 
As a person who (arguably ;) ) holds himself accountable as much as I do so to others, I wouldn't send it back. He decided to sell it. You decided to buy it. You are both adults and are responsible for your respective decisions. As such, you aren't morally obligated to do a thing and the fact that he is a nice guy, while absolutely awesome in a world chock full of ______, doesn't change that fact.
 
Sell it back to him. You will garner a good friend out of the bargain. Btw, what type of knife was it?
 
As jbass said, you overpaid for this knife. Sounds like you were impulsive too. Instead of waiting for a good price, you bought this particular knife. Since both you and the seller are showing signs of impulse and remorse, why not just reverse the deal? You'll find the knife at a more comfortable price and he'll keep his knife. It'll be a good day for everyone. Saying that there's no need to be nice is a load of BS. Karma is a very real thing, plus you'll both be getting what you wanted.
 
The thing to think about is how do you want people to think of you. Your decision will be based on who you are. People will forget what you say, what you have done, but they will never forget how you made them feel. You reap what you sow.
It's a knife you were wanting badly, but at what price are you willing to have it. Half of the fun wanting a grail knife is searching for one, and like all good things, it will come back
 
I would send it back if you had misgivings about the price (which it seems you possibly do). But if you're comfortable with the price, and again, you DO really want this knife, you should keep it. I'm sure the seller is a nice guy, but come on. The deal was struck. If the other guy is a real knife guy, he should understand that feeling you have, finally holding in your hand a knife you have been seeking for a long time and should have known better than to ask you for the knife back, in my opinion.

Also, you don't want bad feelings between you and this seller, but you post this thread asking what we think you should do? Is the guy a regular here? He may not enjoy others here judging his motivations or case of seller's remorse. I can't speak for others, but I would probably less inclined to do further business with a seller who suddenly had a change of heart, because as someone else mentioned, the first thing in my mind would be to think that the seller had just gotten an email like "Oh dude, you wanted $130? Save it for me, and I'll send you $200 right this moment, what's your Paypal address?" Guy pays you your money back, and then sells to this other guy. Or who knows, maybe it's not that, maybe he just really loves the knife. Then why place it for sale in the first place?

Good luck with your decision, OP.
 
If you want it, keep it. If you decide that you paid too much, send it back to him.
 
All good points thank you. And yes the price was high.. But as you all know there are different "levels" of collecting and for an original piece the price was only a couple hundred over what I was looking to pay. I have no regrets with my decision and I'm certain I will enjoy it. I'm leaning towards keeping it mostly because the seller wouldn't have posted it on multiple selling sites if he wasn't motivated to sell. I don't want to run into this from other buyers. I think once money changes hands the deal is done. But I may change my mind. We will see later today when I unbox it :).
 
My, my. There are some hard-nosed people on this forum who feel that a deal is a deal so screw the seller if he changes his mind. If you really think he is a nice guy who made a mistake then treat him the way you would want to be treated if you were in his position.
 
Ajack60 said:
Half of the fun wanting a grail knife is searching for one, and like all good things, it will come back
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Uh, did you mean agony, despair, depression, malaise, indignation and a host of other emotions completely opposite of fun? :D

I've only been searching for a couple of weeks and am losing it. I can't even imagine the patience it takes to wait months or even years. Maybe this new endeavor will teach me some patience though. I haven't had any for years now. I blame high speed Internet though. I want it and I want it NOW!


To the OP I would say do whatever your gut tells you to do. I'm sure we've all been in the same position at some point in our lives or will be in the future. Golden rule and all that...

You could always tell him that if you do ever decide to sell it or trade it you'll contact him first to give him a shot at it before anyone else.
 
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IMO, you spent time doing this transaction and waiting. Your time was worth something. If you want the knife, keep it.
 
You are under no obligation what so ever to have the seller buy the knife back.
How ever, if you like the guy, you could do him a favour and let him buy the knife back.
Depends on how you are 'wired.'
 
Where are all the people chanting "A deal is not complete until both parties are happy."? That oft-repeated phrase is glaringly absent so far in this thread... :confused:


Do the right thing because it's the right thing to do. You'll sleep better at night for it.

That's just my personal experience, but I assure you that I learned it the hard way. ;) :thumbup:
 
You have the right to keep it without guilt. Tell the seller its in good hands and if you ever decide to sell you'll sell it back to him/her at the same price. Make sure you keep your word.
 
You have the right to keep it without guilt. Tell the seller its in good hands and if you ever decide to sell you'll sell it back to him/her at the same price. Make sure you keep your word. Buyers remorse is not allowed in a sale. The rules clearly state the seller only list items he/she is willing to sell. The idea that the deal is not done til all parties are satisfied only applies to trades and to the buyer. It does not apply to the seller. Once the seller has decided to sell and is paid, he/she should be satisfied.
 
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