Sellers remorse

If you paid more than what you were initially willing to then you must really desire this knife. Personally, in this case I would wait until I had the knife in hand to make my decision. But then unless you must really have the knife, and its in the shape you want it and the guy is as nice as you implied then I would gravitate towards shipping it back. Yes, you are in your right to keep the knife but a little karma goes a long way.
 
Keep it. First, even though he appears to be a good guy there's really no way of knowing if someone just made him a better offer and he will flip it immediately when he gets it back. Second, your keeping it may be a lesson for the seller to think twice before making deals in the future.
 
I personally think you should do what you want with the knife. That being said, the fact that the seller is responsible for the knife until it is delivered is a often heard statement on here...
 
Do what you want to do. You put time into this deal and got your hopes up, and the rule here is not to list a knife you don't wish to sale.
I would like to think I would send it back to them, but if it was a knife I was really excited to find I just may keep it.
No one will blame you if you keep it.

I've sold a couple of knives here that I regreted selling before I shipped, and I would have loved to undo the deal.
No way I would ask someone to do that though. I know how great a feeling it is to think you have a knife on the way that you've been searching for. I couldn't disappoint someone like that after I had already gave them my word that I would sell them the knife.
 
Do what you want with the knife but remember to treat people as you'd like to be treated. It's not like you bought it at Walmart, you bought it from an individual. He'll live if you keep it and you'll live if you sell it back.

I would ask which was more important, having that knife or being a decent person. Knives come and go, but your character is with you forever. If you have a really good reason to keep it, then do it. If not, sell it back.

If I was the seller, I couldn't or wouldn't be overly disappointed if you refused to sell it back. And if I was you, I wouldn't be overly disappointed if I sold it back.
 
The thing I don't get is the phrase "Do the right thing!" that some have posted up. What? The right thing was, the seller wanted to sell an item, and the buyer paid what the seller was asking. The knife is on its way, or is in the buyer's hands. The deal is done. There's absolutely zero obligation to "sell"* the knife back to the seller. All of this worrying about the seller's feelings, and "Come on, man, you gotta do the right thing!" let me ask, where is the regard for the buyer's feelings in all this? If anything, common sense suggests that we should be telling this guy to keep this knife that he's really wanted for a long time, because he did everything right. Prompt payment was "the right thing to do", nothing else.



*Meaning "return for a refund"
 
Two things come to mind.

First, you have to make up your mind. You probably already have. How many of us will validate your feelings how many will?

Secondly, you have to sleep at night. In my experience, I can't enjoy anything I feel I don't deserve.

Follow your heart. Is a friend worth more than a knife?
 
Quiet said:
The thing I don't get is the phrase "Do the right thing!" that some have posted up. What? The right thing was, the seller wanted to sell an item, and the buyer paid what the seller was asking. The knife is on its way, or is in the buyer's hands. The deal is done. There's absolutely zero obligation to "sell"* the knife back to the seller. All of this worrying about the seller's feelings, and "Come on, man, you gotta do the right thing!" let me ask, where is the regard for the buyer's feelings in all this? If anything, common sense suggests that we should be telling this guy to keep this knife that he's really wanted for a long time, because he did everything right. Prompt payment was "the right thing to do", nothing else.



*Meaning "return for a refund"
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We should be telling him to do what he/she thinks is "the right thing" to do.
 
Quiet said:
The thing I don't get is the phrase "Do the right thing!" that some have posted up. What? The right thing was, the seller wanted to sell an item, and the buyer paid what the seller was asking. The knife is on its way, or is in the buyer's hands. The deal is done. There's absolutely zero obligation to "sell"* the knife back to the seller. All of this worrying about the seller's feelings, and "Come on, man, you gotta do the right thing!" let me ask, where is the regard for the buyer's feelings in all this? If anything, common sense suggests that we should be telling this guy to keep this knife that he's really wanted for a long time, because he did everything right. Prompt payment was "the right thing to do", nothing else.[/B]



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Mikey's Deli said:
We should be telling him to do what he/she thinks is "the right thing" to do.
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Mikey nailed it with such few words, but all well said with no conflicting thoughts.
Seems so simple......'cuz it is.
 
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If anything, the seller has a moral obligation to NOT guilt you into selling the knife back to him and personally, I would be a bit offended if that happened to me.

Sometimes I wait months before I put a knife up for sale just so I know that I am 100% positive about selling, and seriously, the guy spent the time taking pictures and creating the sales thread and responding to your emails and giving you his payment info and packing the knife up and driving to the post office......during any of that time he could have backed out and refunded your money.

I call shenanigans, it is not your character that should be called into question as some have suggested.
You keep that knife and use it in good health with no regrets and let the other guy learn from his own poor judgement.
 
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Quiet said:
The thing I don't get is the phrase "Do the right thing!" that some have posted up. What? The right thing was, the seller wanted to sell an item, and the buyer paid what the seller was asking. The knife is on its way, or is in the buyer's hands. The deal is done. There's absolutely zero obligation to "sell"* the knife back to the seller. All of this worrying about the seller's feelings, and "Come on, man, you gotta do the right thing!" let me ask, where is the regard for the buyer's feelings in all this? If anything, common sense suggests that we should be telling this guy to keep this knife that he's really wanted for a long time, because he did everything right. Prompt payment was "the right thing to do", nothing else.



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I do not understand your objection. The OP asked for advice. That is what forum members have been giving him. Some have taken a strict view of the rules and have told the OP that the "right thing" is to keep the knife if he wants to. Others have counseled the OP to look beyond the rules and do the "right thing" by returning the knife if he wants to. There is obviously a division of opinion about what people feel the OP should do. There is no division of opinion that the OP is the one who has to make the decision that he is comfortable with.
 
jbass said:
I do not understand your objection. The OP asked for advice. That is what forum members have been giving him. Some have taken a strict view of the rules and have told the OP that the "right thing" is to keep the knife if he wants to. Others have counseled the OP to look beyond the rules and do the "right thing" by returning the knife if he wants to. There is obviously a division of opinion about what people feel the OP should do. There is no division of opinion that the OP is the one who has to make the decision that he is comfortable with.
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I merely take issue with the expressed idea that it's "the right thing to do" to give a seller his item back after a buyer has already paid for it. And understand, I have nothing against the seller, I'm sure he's a stand-up guy. That said, it honestly struck me as a selfish thing to do to request that the knife be given back because he's had a change of heart. I could argue that it's the stand-up thing to do have never asked the buyer that, especially given that the buyer expressed how much he wanted this knife. Like, why ruin the guy's day like that? Personally, I hope OP keeps it. :thumbup:
 
Do you have a moral obligation? No one can tell you that, it really depends on your values. The fact that you have to ask tells me you already have your answer, whatever that answer is, and you want someone to tell you differently. In this case it really is up to you to use your own judgement.

If your asking would it violate the rules to keep it, well:

Rule #1 for sellers
Be 100% sure that you want to sell the item, have it in your possession and clearly list the selling price. There is no "testing the waters" or "gauge buyer interest".
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The rules are pretty self explanatory. You're safe whatever your decision.

Consider that it might be a good way to make a friend though.
 
Hedonism is the belief that basically, "If it makes you feel good, do it." If keeping the knife makes you feel good, do it. If it makes you feel better to sell it back to him, do it. Can't nobody make that decision for you. You're the asshole in charge of your own destiny.
 
Wait til you receive the knife, if you like it keep it, then make a deal with the seller to sell it to him when the time comes to let it go. I'll bet you dollars to donuts if you decide to sell it back to him (after awhile) he'll pass. This thing we got going on here is all about impulse, both on the buying and selling. Good Luck.
 
I am sorry that I was not clearer as to what I considered to be the "right thing".
Personally, and this is for me only, I try to live today by the old Golden Rule: " Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you."

But ultimately, Do as thou will.
:)
 
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