Smoke needed for my Pops

This will probably be my last post on this matter. After the news today I don't want to discuss it further.

Dad saw all the doctors today. He is definitely Stage 4. Said treatments would do more harm than good
and would probably not even give an extra few months.
So they tell him he's got about 6 months left.

My Pops has accepted this and is OK with it. He doesn't want us to worry any more for him
but wants all the quality time we have left with him to be fun and constructive.
Good ole Pops, always thinking about someone else.

I guess I haven't taken it all in yet. It's for certain what I didn't want to hear but I feel
a little relief now that I know what's next. Is that weird?

I thank all of you again for the thoughts and prayers you've sent our way.
Very much appreciated and needed.
 
Deeply sorry to hear this for you. I'll pray for you and your family.

My Grandpa has always told me to turn a negative into a positive. I guess even this can be made a little bit positive. You get a chance to say a long sweet goodbye. Some people die in an instant and you never get a chance to tell them everything you've been keeping inside.

Hang in there and enjoy your Dad, he sounds like a great man.
 
Your feelings are not weird at all. I'd say you've just proved ... you're human. Just like the rest of us.

If you don't mind, I think I'll still say a few prayers for your Pops. We all go, eventually; life is a terminal condition. May his passing be peaceful.
 
:( So sorry to read this.. Enjoy every moment with him. Reminisce. Stay strong.
 
Im very sorry to hear about your pops, and like others have said, he does seem like a great guy. Take and enjoy the time you have left with him on this earth. and after he is gone, do not sorrow for the loss, rather think of all the good times you had together, and think of times you will have again, when you meet in another life far beyond this one.


Here is an old native american proverb for you:

"They are not dead who live in the hearts they leave behind."
 
my family and i will have you, your dad, and your family in our thoughts.
embrace the time you have together and keep your head up.
he will be going to a much more peaceful place.
don
 
I'm so sorry to hear about your sad news. It's really rough.

Maybe I can offer a little perspective...
See my dad is about 5 months ahead of yours.

In February he was a healthy guy, thinking about maybe retiring soon.
Then one day he didn't seem to be getting over the cold that the rest of us had kicked.

Then he started bumping into things and feeling dizzy.

Next thing you know he had emergency brain surgery.
Then they found out that it was cancer.
Then they found cancer in the lungs, then lymph system.

He never smoked. Got melanoma but never had any spots on his skin.

In and out of hospitals for 2 months before starting chemo.

Those first few months were really rough but somehow reality eventually began to set in and I started to accept this or come to grips.

Last wednesday we found out the chemo didn't work and the cancer grew very aggressively and is much more progressed.

Now he's just trying to manage the pain and enjoy whatever time he has left.

He's happy for a full life - it's been pretty good for us all along. Funny how things float along really smooth for years then BAM something comes along and flips the boat.

I'm thankful for the last few months and being able to be there for mom and dad and spend time hanging out sharing stories with my brother, wife, and kids.

Throughout this time we stayed positive and hopeful because nothing else would have made any sense. We knew the odds were grim. We saw many doctors, some good, some not so good. We just ignored the not so good ones, and found optimistic ones instead, and tried the available therapies.

It's hard to live in a split-brained state of having hope and acceptance simultaneously. Now that the end is near we are feeling a strange sense of relief. Must be normal, but feels like a wierd mix of saying farewell and giving up and being relieved and losing a part of yourself and your history. You wonder if it's selfish to feel that way, and you wish you could do more but you can't.

Best of luck to you and your family.

-PB
 
Damn, that's rough. I can't offer much more than my condolences, and that's small potatoes next to what you're facing. I can only hope that you and your father will find the greatest possible peace before he passes.

I'm not religious, but I still prefer to think of it as the beginning, rather than the end. . .
 
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