Spouse management. Or time to fess up.

FlaMtnBkr said:
You can't buy what you want? I buy things. End of story. If she asks I tell her but as long as we aren't starving and in debt, if I have the money in my pocket, I buy what I want as does she. To a point, as I'm not out buying bass boats. But both of us are fairly responsible with finances so its not really an issue.
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Exactly.
 
I used to shoot with a guy that would show up with a new gun about every other match (we shot twice a month). When my girlfriend asked him what his wife had to say about all the guns, his reply was: "Nothing. I buy me a new gun, I buy her a new diamond." They'd been married for thirty years, and this wasn't his first hobby.

I'm not married and never have been. My girlfriend and I have been together for 18 years, but we don't live together. She has her place, I have mine. She has her money, I have mine. She spends hers on what she wants, I spend mine on what I want. It seems to be working.
 
I do not tell her, not because I want to lie but because she hates it when I spend money on knives, she thinks I am crazy (true) and put my hobby in front of family needs (not true)
 
I tell her when I buy a new knife, but she never cares. Never asks what it costs either. Most of my knives now are on a one in, one out basis.
 
NeverMore1701 said:
I don't lie or hide them from her, but I don't always tell her. Not because I don't want her to know, but because she really just doesn't care.
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I fall into this group. She doesn't care what I buy as long as the bills are paid and there is food on the table (thankfully there always is). I also don't tell her what she can and can't buy. These types of hangups are ridiculous and serve no beneficial purpose in any relationship, unless someone is a moron with their finances. I don't think I would be married to a woman for long if she tried controling what I do with my money.
 
Wife is retired so she picks up the mail or brings in the UPS/FEDEX packages. She knows what came before I do. :)
 
Anything over $100 and I let her know, but I haven't been spending too much these days because I've been saving up for a family trip to Atlanta at the end of May.
I can't believe I talked my wife into going. I just hope she doesn't decide to spend my knife allowance on herself, but if she does, hopefully I like what she buys.
 
We are commited to save money in order to grow as a legal firm. We are both lawyers. Buying knives is something my wife can't understand. She hates it when I buy one.
Besides, here in Argentinagood knives are luxury items
Our minimum wage is about usd600 x month
Any USA knife costs in Argentina twice as much as what it costs in USA.

So I bought a Spyderco YOJIMBO 2 recently, and paid usd 200 for it.

muy wife believes it costed about half.

So I don't lie about the purchase, I lie about the price.
 
I bought some knives from another dealer than I usually do, what I did`nt know was that they delivered at the door.
They happened to arrive one day when my wife was home with our daughter with the flu...
She then called me at work and asked what I ordered.... I said: Ordered???? What do you mean....
She said: You got a package delivered and I had to pay customs tax on it.....:eek:

So now I tell my wife, I never comment on new shoes or purses other than: Oh that looks good, very nice baby;)
And therefor she never says anything about my new knives as long as it comes from my "allowence" which is the money I have left after she gets my share for bills...
 
RevDevil said:
I fall into this group. She doesn't care what I buy as long as the bills are paid and there is food on the table (thankfully there always is). I also don't tell her what she can and can't buy. These types of hangups are ridiculous and serve no beneficial purpose in any relationship, unless someone is a moron with their finances. I don't think I would be married to a woman for long if she tried controling what I do with my money.
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:thumbup:

Told my wife about this thread, what she said was almost word for word what you wrote :)
 
NeverMore1701 said:
:thumbup:

Told my wife about this thread, what she said was almost word for word what you wrote :)
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That is awesome. I will say this, you and I are lucky to have supportive families. My wife is more of an enabler than anything else. When I browse the purveyors of cutlery, she'll say,"oh is that an xzy knife? You should order one before they disappear." My jaw usually hits the floor. :D
 
RevDevil said:
That is awesome. I will say this, you and I are lucky to have supportive families. My wife is more of an enabler than anything else. When I browse the purveyors of cutlery, she'll say,"oh is that an xzy knife? You should order one before they disappear." My jaw usually hits the floor. :D
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Yeah, considering what I used to spend money on, my wife is very supportive of my knife collecting.
 
RevDevil said:
That is awesome. I will say this, you and I are lucky to have supportive families. My wife is more of an enabler than anything else. When I browse the purveyors of cutlery, she'll say,"oh is that an xzy knife? You should order one before they disappear." My jaw usually hits the floor. :D
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Oh, you're a lucky man:D
 
I tell my wife "If you don't like it, you can stick it up ---------oh, what's that? Nothing Dear".
 
I don't have this problem. My fiancée also loves knives and actually started collecting before I did. She's always excited to see what I buy next.

She also doesn't have a problem with any of my purchases: clothes, electronics, knives or cars. I'm glad I found a partner for life instead of another mother. That's why I'm marrying her.
 
Tshakur888 said:
I don't have this problem. My fiancée also loves knives and actually started collecting before I did. She's always excited to see what I buy next.

She also doesn't have a problem with any of my purchases: clothes, electronics, knives or cars. I'm glad I found a partner for life instead of another mother. That's why I'm marrying her.
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I can only hope to find someone like that someday...Congratulations on the wedding as well!

Welcome to blade forums to!

-niner
 
If a person has to hide their hobbies from their spouse then they married the wrong one.

People buy stuff that they are interested in and that's both men and women.
 
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