The sebenza isnt that expensive......rant

My wife and I have a joint account, but we each take out xxx$ every pay day as our "personal" money. I did the bills for the first 13 years, and the last 3, she has done them. We both know what bills we have to pay, but our PERSONAL money is ours...it's not a lot, but enough for me to blow on a decent knife or two every month. Point is, we both work(I happen to make a lot more, but that doesn't matter) and each person shouldn't have to feel like they are having to ask for money for knives, shoes, whatever the heck they want. Seems to work out well for us.
Example: I wanted the new Springfield Armory XDS 9 4.0....I saved my personal money and came home with it a couple weeks ago. She was happy I was able to save to get it for myself...Win and Win :)
 
Lou, I think your story is a rant like you said, there are a few issues going on and little has to do with the cost of the Sebbie. I think The Logical One is going in the right direction, in addition you had a life prior to marriage and it most likely involved knife collecting, why should you need permission now? If I had cut myself, I'd chalk that up to carelessness not blame an inanimate object. Also I keep my wife out of " my hobbies". Pay the mortgage, taxes, food, etc., what I save is my play money.
 
I have officially sorted it all out and i guess it wasnt that big of a deal after all.....i had a very quick discussion and she really doesnt care all that much. ...just making it out to be more than what it was....thanks for all the advice i guess , though most of it was headed in the wrong direction. I think i only have myself to blame for jumping into expensive knife collecting .....its very addicting!
 
I like where your head is at, you took it the way i expected. Sounds like you need to get another knife to celebrate you new bundle! Congrats
 
I think the lesson to learn here is to never sell a knife just because you cut yourself with it.
Your(or at least some peoples) wife may not let you buy another.

And its not the knifes fault you cut yourself anyway.
 
Final Option said:
why should you need permission now?
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Because you are married. You are not two individuals engaged in an adversarial process where you sneak, hide and lie like half the guys in this thread are advocating. No wonder people can't stay married anymore. They seem to care more about their toys than their marriage. If a man is not on the same page with his wife about this stuff little stuff, is not putting his spouse ahead of himself (and she him), and extending to her the same grace that he wants to receive from her, then he doesn't need a Sebenza. He needs marriage counseling, and his rear end on a church pew. If a guy gets his marriage in order, his wife will want him to buy a Sebenza if it makes him happy and if they can afford it.
 
400$ is a lot for me, I don't wipe my butt with 20$ like some can around here. Ill eventually own one someday.
 
I appreciate that info, never thought about that. But she'd not worry about that, thankfully. Probably why we've been together so long.

She does her thing, I do mine, unless we do something together. Trying to get her into shooting right now.

Back to the OP. What is your action plan to get a Sebbie back?
 
powernoodle said:
Because you are married. You are not two individuals engaged in an adversarial process where you sneak, hide and lie like half the guys in this thread are advocating. No wonder people can't stay married anymore. They seem to care more about their toys than their marriage. If a man is not on the same page with his wife about this stuff little stuff, is not putting his spouse ahead of himself (and she him), and extending to her the same grace that he wants to receive from her, then he doesn't need a Sebenza. He needs marriage counseling, and his rear end on a church pew. If a guy gets his marriage in order, his wife will want him to buy a Sebenza if it makes him happy and if they can afford it.
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This, all day long. Seriously, a sebenza is just a knife. If money is an issue, save up for a while. It's not so expensive that you'll never get there. I put aside around $25 a month, from what I can save by eating out less at work. In a year, I'll have enough for a used sebenza, if I really want one. And my wife would be cool with that. We both have reasonable amounts of fun money, but we respect each other and tell each other what we're buying, not because we need permission but because we're a team and we work together
 
powernoodle said:
Because you are married. You are not two individuals engaged in an adversarial process where you sneak, hide and lie like half the guys in this thread are advocating. No wonder people can't stay married anymore. They seem to care more about their toys than their marriage. If a man is not on the same page with his wife about this stuff little stuff, is not putting his spouse ahead of himself (and she him), and extending to her the same grace that he wants to receive from her, then he doesn't need a Sebenza. He needs marriage counseling, and his rear end on a church pew. If a guy gets his marriage in order, his wife will want him to buy a Sebenza if it makes him happy and if they can afford it.
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Handing down life lessons to all the sinners, yet again. To funny :D:p





People, just don't sell your knife if you cut yourself !
 
Dude, you need to put your wife in check. YOU are the man of the house, YOU make the decisions. And your wife needs to understand that, if she doesn't you need to let her go immediately. You don't need a manipulative and controlling woman in your life.

Lastly, you need to start listening to Tom Leykis.
 
Metal Made Fox said:
YOU are the man of the house, YOU make the decisions. And your wife needs to understand that, if she doesn't you need to let her go immediately. You don't need a manipulative and controlling woman in your life.
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Right, but she needs a manipulative and controlling man in her life...:rolleyes:

I'm glad this is a knife forum and not a relationship one!
 
Still cheaper than rearing a child. Apparently, it's a quarter million easy from birth to moving out - if they ever do.
 
darkangel55555 said:
Still cheaper than rearing a child. Apparently, it's a quarter million easy from birth to moving out - if they ever do.
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And you know what's even cheaper than that? Not getting married in the first place! I'd rather use those quarter million for a car or a watch.
 
Do this: buy yourself the Sebenza, and buy her a $300-400 purse (Coach, Louis Vuitton, or whatever she likes) - she will be so thrilled with the purse that she won't even notice the Sebbie. Works for me every time - hehehe!
 
Odog27 said:
You might want to check the common law marriage changes a few years ago in Ohio. If you and "this one" share the same physical address she can already take half of what you own.

To the OP, my wife thinks much like yours. It's easier to ask forgiveness than permission.
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true but it is an opinion that varies in diffrent people people that are early on in there collecting, i have been in that situation before. but if its your money spend it IMO.
 
powernoodle said:
Because you are married. You are not two individuals engaged in an adversarial process where you sneak, hide and lie like half the guys in this thread are advocating. No wonder people can't stay married anymore. They seem to care more about their toys than their marriage. If a man is not on the same page with his wife about this stuff little stuff, is not putting his spouse ahead of himself (and she him), and extending to her the same grace that he wants to receive from her, then he doesn't need a Sebenza. He needs marriage counseling, and his rear end on a church pew. If a guy gets his marriage in order, his wife will want him to buy a Sebenza if it makes him happy and if they can afford it.
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My marriage is fantastic, thanks. If I ever get to the point where we "need" counseling, I'll break it off immediately. If I ever get to the point where I am seated on a church pew, I'll break it off with myself, permanently. I guess I am spoiled by my effortless relationship, and don't need any mystical justification to stay together.

I'll continue to buy what I want, and my wife will continue to do the same. Bills paid, retirement fund growing, children well fed and happy. I guess I am going about it all wrong...
 
link2derek said:
Do this: buy yourself the Sebenza, and buy her a $300-400 purse (Coach, Louis Vuitton, or whatever she likes) - she will be so thrilled with the purse that she won't even notice the Sebbie. Works for me every time - hehehe!
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I have done this and i agree, it does work!
 
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