What to do if your spouse hates knives?

Just be patient.
I do not think that my wife ever hated knives, but certainly she was annoyed when I bought a little more than average person have during lifetime. I was carried SAK for years before that and that was OK, useful.
I remember one evening I was sitting behind my desk and playing with few of them. My wife saw this and commented:"I cannot understand this your new hobby". I tried my best to explain, but no success. In a little while I bought us Spyderco Yang 6" kitchen utility knife. My wife liked it and start to have respect for sharp knives. Later I bought Kanetsune 8" Gyuto, she love sit.Than Ladybug for her keychain, she use it all the time.
No problem with my knives anymore, my wife even helps me to arrange my safequeens in display cases and reviewing any new knives. I think she wants Kopa now.:)
Just be patient and work with your wife.
 
My wife has not had a problem with knives as long as I am responsible with them and keep them away from our kids. I have seen alot of guys push knives,guns,etc on their wives even if they dont like or are not into them. If you just be responsible and be a good husband then in time shell come around.
 
dberry said:
My wife has not had a problem with knives as long as I am responsible with them and keep them away from our kids. I have seen alot of guys push knives,guns,etc on their wives even if they dont like or are not into them. If you just be responsible and be a good husband then in time shell come around.
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That is a good point, if they are scared of them etc then don't play with them ect when she is around or push them on her etc. :thumbup:

I had some relationships were they really didn't care for them, but as long as I respected their fears by not flashing them around etc they were fine.
 
my wife is short. i keep them way back on a high shelf. Took the 3 step ladder to the garage for storage.
 
hiwa said:
Marriage is a two-way operation. It's her vow to respect you and the stuff you do and vice versa. If she doesn't,she needs to be clarified on that point politely.
My wife thinks I'm kind of a knife nutcase with the money I spend...but she respects me and what my hobbies/interests are. 16 years and counting :thumbup:
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Yup as long as it's not food or bill $$. Your extra $$ is yours. Go buy alot of booze and drugs instead. Maybe the knives will look better:thumbup:
 
I haven't read through every page of this thread, so forgive me if this has been stated. My advice? Buy her a beautiful knife that she can dedicate to the kitchen (esp. if she likes to cook). I.E., buy her a knife that suits her interests, and thereby incorporate her into your hobby. She may never understand your love of knives, but she may come to appreciate them for their function. Good luck!
 
Davor said:
I only have two fixed knives, and maybe 4 pocket knives and one hatchet. I can't tell you what a s... storm I received when the hatchet came in the mail. And today I received a 4 inch paring knife and that s.... storm became a f.... severe storm.
After our lovely marital fight, if you are not married don't do it, I attempted to explain to her there is nothing wrong with collecting a few knives. Didn't work. Any advice on how to convince someone that knife collecting is not the devil's hobby? You can throw in some wife jokes and/or grow some balls, but at the end give me and some of the other fed up husbands some advice.:mad:
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1. Get a PO Box to deliver your stuff to.

2. Dispose of packaging away from home (at your work, at the post office, at a friend's house, etc).

3. Don't have it all laying around. Have out only what you're using. Sock the rest away in a safe or a case of some sort, and keep it in a discreet location.

4. Buy her one every now and then.

If she doesn't like #4 and is the type to go ballistic over #1-3, well then my approach is simply not going to work for you like it did for me.
 
mdole said:
I haven't read through every page of this thread, so forgive me if this has been stated. My advice? Buy her a beautiful knife that she can dedicate to the kitchen (esp. if she likes to cook). I.E., buy her a knife that suits her interests, and thereby incorporate her into your hobby. She may never understand your love of knives, but she may come to appreciate them for their function. Good luck!
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Yup I bought mine a Pink Izula and my daughter a Purple lady bug. They use them. So all I get now is What another one :D.
 
You should each have a certain amount of discretionary spending money. If you have a combined income of say $100,000 a year and fixed expenses of say $35,000, you should each have say $1,000 to spend without question. If she doesn't spend her $1,000 this year and then next year spends $2,000 on a pair of shoes, you have nothing to say. Similarly if you buy an $800 custom Sebbie this year it's none of her business.
Sit down with an accountant and figure it out.
If that doesn't work, then dump her. You found her, you can find another one.:)
 
godot said:
You should each have a certain amount of discretionary spending money. If you have a combined income of say $100,000 a year and fixed expenses of say $35,000, you should each have say $1,000 to spend without question. If she doesn't spend her $1,000 this year and then next year spends $2,000 on a pair of shoes, you have nothing to say. Similarly if you buy an $800 custom Sebbie this year it's none of her business.
Sit down with an accountant and figure it out.
If that doesn't work, then dump her. You found her, you can find another one.:)
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I can't argue with that logic. I mean, if your freakin accountant says it's cool to blow $1000 on whatever you please then by all means do so. If your wife complains then fine her $1000 for punitive damages and get back in here to buy more stuff.
 
i haven't read all the posts in this thread, but when was the last time you bought your wife something she really enjoyed and thought it was thoughtful enough.

My years of experience have taught me, and it took a while too, that women don't get upset for no reason. While it may appear so that it is for no reason, it is only because we don't see it as a reason. Something that is trivial to us might be something glacial to your wife. There is a reason to everything a woman screams over, you either figure it out (very hard to do, seeing how it can be something from the past/present/future) or you placate it with some sort of truce offering.
 
"women don't get upset for no reason" ??? There is noting like a menopausal female to challenge that idea. But that is not the only time, at least in my experience.
 
If you change knife use habits, ie handling, storage, etc. of the knives [away, knives a bit more put away, to show responsibility] then would that not be a great bargaining chip for the future? Relationships are give and take, what I heard.
 
TheCarbideRat said:
If you change knife use habits, ie handling, storage, etc. of the knives [away, knives a bit more put away, to show responsibility] then would that not be a great bargaining chip for the future? Relationships are give and take, what I heard.
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Bingo!

I had to quit mind altering substances because my wife has an addiction to a few of them. Putting down the bong and booze was not something I wanted to do but now she feels like I really support her.
 
Charlie Mike said:
Bingo!

I had to quit mind altering substances because my wife has an addiction to a few of them. Putting down the bong and booze was not something I wanted to do but now she feels like I really support her.
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And thats probably hard to do. Relationship is compromise. Unless you are spending all the $$ on knives. There's no reason you can't buy them. As long as your responsible with them.
 
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