For pepper spray, check out the Cold Steel Inferno spray.
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What did she end up deciding on for a EDC Blade ?
I hear you on the gun thing.
My wife shot a few, and handled a bunch, in the end she picked out a Sig SP2022 in 9mm,
She carried it for a few months, then lost interest.
(She has her CCW License)
She has a couple blades in her purse (Kershaw Kuro, Gerber Ripstop), but it usually sits on the coat rack and is never carried.
The knives in her purse are my leftovers. I gave her choice of all the knives I have and she didn't care.
I offered to buy her whatever one she wants, but
She's just not interested in knives.
Her response is "You always have one, so why do I need one ?"
She does have an air horn, and a bright flashlight, but also rarely carries them.
I'm thinking of trying a Spyderco Ladybug in purple on her keys, or possibly a Victorinox Classic in purple.
(purple is her favorite color) At this point, I'm just trying to get her to EDC something as a tool, so she can see how valuable they are as tools.
Then maybe we can get her more defensive stuff. She's already got the gun, and the license to carry.