Any advice for a young gent getting married in 9 days?

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I am getting married on the 11th of Nov. I was wondering if some of the older wiser-MARRIED or FORMALLY married- crowd had any GOOD advice before taking the plunge. :D
 
RUN!
:D

Nah, kidding.
I'll give you the advice my mom gave us at our wedding.
"Don't go to bed angry."
That's been working for the last 30 years ;) :D
 
Congrats, CorpsmanUP!.:thumbup:

My wife and I just passed the 27 year mark in marriage, In total we have been together over 30 years.

We're just trying this out. :D

After all Nether one of us has been married before, What do we know.

I'll let you know how this works out.:)


BTW The bar has already been set.

My Grandparents made it to 77 years.


Marriage is a little bit like work.

Remember, If want it bad enough, you will work to keep it.

Just remember she is your best friend.:)


Good Luck and may God Bless you both.
 
From what I've seen, the number one cause of stress or problems in a marriage is money, or the lack thereof. Try to stick to a budget, and minimize debt. If you're going to go out and buy something expensive (like a new knife), talk to her about it first. Don't think of it as asking permission, think of it as you doing what you would want her to do. If she wanted a new $75.00 purse, you might want her to run the idea by you before she just went out and bought one. Communication is the key to a good marriage. Learn to listen, and share your thoughts. Live within your means, and try to save some for a rainy day, or for when you have a child, if you do. As far as kids go, I've got a son who is almost three. I can tell you that a child does add some stress to your life at times, but I would not take anything for him. I advise all married couples to have at least one. You don't want to wait until you're too old and then look back and wish you had a son or daughter. Congratulations! Smart move with that wedding date: 11-11-07 has a bit of a jingle to it that will make it easier for you to remember your anniversary. YOU DON'T EVER WANT TO FORGET THAT!
 
LOL it worked out very well for quite a few reasons =) we met through mutual friends for the first time 2 years ago at a little bar on the water called the square grouper. It's address is 1111 Love St. -no kidding. Thank you to all for your blessings!
 
Repeat after me:
"A happy wife, is a happy life."

Seriously though:

Love her.

Respect her.

If you have an argument and get angry with each other, do not let your ego or pride get the better of you. Calm down, do not say stupid things, apologize and talk it out like grownups. Because she is your wife and deserves to be treated well.

Remember, you married this woman to be your wife, your partner ..... not your mother. Always help with cooking, doing the laundry (includes folding and putting it away), washing the dishes, and general house keeping because it's your stuff too.

If you make her a promise, keep it.

Hold hands.

Laugh.

Dance.

Don't forget to have fun together.

Be humble.

Listen.

Get her a nice warm pair of slippers, women like their feet to be warm.

Be a good, decent, honest man.


This should get you started, you will learn more as time goes on. The best of luck to you.
Mike
Married for 17 years and going strong.
 
Tell everyone you see that your married to the prettiest girl in town. She will love you for it and so will everyone else. Married for 39 yrs. and I say it all the time. She just smiles when I do and looks at me kinda cute like
 
"Yes Dear" and "I was wrong"

That's all you need to know.

kidding, congrats and enjoy life together!
 
First of all, congrats! Treat her with respect, never go to bed mad and tell her you love her - frequently. I will celebrate my 40th this Sunday (in spite of her threats!:D). Lotsa luck!
 
My sainted father gave me one piece of advice on this subject. He advised, "before you mary a woman, meet her mother because that's essentially who you will be married to in twenty years. They all turn into their mothers." Così fan tutte, I guess.
 
Marry her and never look back.


And never forget that marriage...like everything else that is really worth a damn....takes work and sacrifice. If you both surrender yourself to the idea that it is "us" and not "me" you'll do alright.


I've got 13 years in and 5.5 kids behind that advice. :D
 
First off, Congradulations!

Second, lots of great advice already. One bit of my own I'd like to add, Don't waste a wad of cash on a big fancy wedding.
 
Congrats. You're doing a wonderful thing. I was married 35 years and widowed, been married again 2 years, 10 months and one day and love it.

It isn't money, sex or a number of other things that will really destroy a marriage. Communication is really important. You can work through everything as long as you discuss it together. Be in agreement on things. Before making important decisions, changing something or staying the course on something, be in agreement together. That also means not to try to change each other's minds, dicusss and be open. Decisions made unilaterallu come back to bite often and hard. They are a continuing scab that gets picked off regularly.

Marriage is not 50/50, it's 100% giving of yourself, expecting nothing in return. Love your wife and do everything you can for her. She'll love you for it and do everything she can for you.

Marriage is an absolute commitment. It's a life commitment to another person in all things. It's not a test drive and there is no warranty. You wil get out of it exactly what you put into it.

Let your wife know that you love her. Tell her, daily that you do and why. She will love you all the more for it.

My grandfather, who was widowed 4 times, said if you are going to bring her flowers, do so while she is alive and can enjoy them, rather than put them on her casket where she can't.

May your marriage be as happy as mine.

Gene
 
Gollnick said:
My sainted father gave me one piece of advice on this subject. He advised, "before you mary a woman, meet her mother because that's essentially who you will be married to in twenty years. They all turn into their mothers." Così fan tutte, I guess.
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I can't say as I agree with that. although I do think my wife will look like her mom in many years, she will never be her mother. Much nicer, much saner. No two people could be more different in personality, views, the way they treat people.

So if you love your future wife, but hate her mother, don't despair......marry her anyways.

That said, though, you do really need to meet the family, because as my parents told me, you do marry the family. you will likely have to put up with them on holidays etc. so if you can't stand them you will want to take that into consideration.

7 years married. I know not long, but still looking good.
 
First, congrats.

Commit to the idea of being committed. Sounds obvious, but it isn't always easy. Don't run on her, ever. A good buddy of mine and fellow forumite talked about this just yesterday. Would you wrong your best bud? No. So, why would you wrong the one person in life whom you swore never to wrong? Keep it in mind once the honeymoon phase is past. It's important to have some seperate interests, but work at being happy together and find things you both enjoy. Don't get in the way of her family relationships, as they will likely become stronger as she gets older. You'll probably find things that annoy you about her and vice versa. Instead of getting pissed, make light of those things and eventually you'll be able to have private jokes that only you two are in on. It works, trust me.
Good luck.
 
Bob W said:
First off, Congradulations!

Second, lots of great advice already. One bit of my own I'd like to add, Don't waste a wad of cash on a big fancy wedding.
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We are keeping it simple but elegant. We are getting married on the beach with the reception in our civic center which is basically a big shack up on the dunes. Family and closest friends only and we are still at 85:eek:


jahwarrior72 said:
Prenup!!!!!
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We are coming into this equally with the same amount of assets really - not a whole lot. So it wouldn't really be protecting anything.

Thank you all for your blessings and advice - there's been a lot of great wisdom said. Here is a photo of us near where we met.
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We are keeping it simple but elegant. We are getting married on the beach with the reception in our civic center which is basically a big shack up on the dunes. Family and closest friends only and we are still at 85
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That sounds nice. Those unusual weddings are the ones that people remember the most years later.

A friend had his wedding at a state park, a picnic followed by mountain biking. Our's was at an abandoned historic church on the mesa, in a blizzard and thick fog. No one will ever forget that!
 
I've been married 22 years (this time around :D). The best advice I can give you is don't forget who "wears the pants" in the family. (I hope that you'll look good in a dress.:D.). Contrary to what us old married men like to believe, women DO rule the house. Without my wife, I'm pretty sure that I'd be living in a cardboard box under a bridge somewhere.

Also, don't take for granted that she knows that you love her, and that you appreciate her...Tell her often...And MEAN IT.:thumbup:.
 
DO NOT DO IT!!!!! Just kidding, the 1st of this month was our 4th year as a married couple. Glockman right woman are the officers of the house, but we know NCO are the really in command.;) My advice is simple put her ahead of all things live by the commits of honor and love her. My wife hates to treated like a queen, but to hold her and to have real comunication she loves that. At least one a month have a date night, we do and it is nice. Keeps the marriage young. Once and a while do something crazy, take a weekend trip or do something new together. You only live once, and life is way to short so enjoy it with that one you love.

CUTE COUPLE!!! May God bless your household as he has mine!
 
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