Any advice for a young gent getting married in 9 days?

The gal behind your wife (with the dark hair in a "bun")...By any-chance would you have her phone number handy that you could email to me?...She's beautiful.:D.:D.
 
Hey CorpsmanUP,

CONGRATULATIONS! Looked liked a great ceremony.

Have a wonderful life together,
Mike
 
be very sure you know what it is you're doing. you aren't just by yourself anymore...and get ready to not be able to do everything you used to. some days you'll like her...some days you'll be looking for a place to bury the body. Ups, downs, fights, lovin' and hatin'. If ever there was a visible representation of Multiple Personality Disorder...it's marriage.
 
shawn79 said:
be very sure you know what it is you're doing. you aren't just by yourself anymore...and get ready to not be able to do everything you used to. some days you'll like her...some days you'll be looking for a place to bury the body. Ups, downs, fights, lovin' and hatin'. If ever there was a visible representation of Multiple Personality Disorder...it's marriage.
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Boy isn't that the truth. I keep reminding myself of the vow I made to her. -It's just been a rough week.
 
Well the good news is, that married men live longer...no wait...it just seems longer! ;)
Congrats sir!
G2
 
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Originally Posted by glockman99
The gal behind your wife (with the dark hair in a "bun")...By any-chance would you have her phone number handy that you could email to me?...She's beautiful...

CorpsmanUP! said:
:D I'll let her know you think so!
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...And???.:D.:D.
 
Absolutely!

1) DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT mix your money. Once entwined it becomes difficult to untangle without hassle and worse yet evolves from "yours" to "ours" to "hers. " Believe me, when things go south the first thing a woman does is grab the cash and if she doesn't think of it, her friends will and advise her accordingly. Remember that. They go for the balls or the wallet, for they know both will hurt you.

My sister and her husband have been married nearly 20 years. She doesn't know how much money he has nor vice-versa. They have separate accounts for thier money and a joint account for paying the bills, into which they each deposit half the required amounts. They're not on each other's credit cards either. No arguing over money for them.


2) Do not change anything about yourself for her. Oh yeah, she's going to try. It's always "different" after they get the ring on you, maybe because then they feel like they've got you trapped.


3) Maintain friendly relations with ex-girlfriends, as you may need a back-up plan at some point down the road.


4) Remember always that if you're entrusting the birth control to the wife she's in charge of whether or not you have kids - not you. If a woman wants a child she'll find a way to get one, no matter how you feel about it. It's all too easy to "forget" to take pill on time and that "oops" will cost you plenty. And if you download more than one rug rat you can forget about divorce because if you ever do decide to pursue it, your first course of action will be to pick out a nice cardboard box in the alley - because it's all you'll be able to afford with the child support payments.
 
one45auto said:
Absolutely!

1) DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT mix your money. Once entwined it becomes difficult to untangle without hassle and worse yet evolves from "yours" to "ours" to "hers. " Believe me, when things go south the first thing a woman does is grab the cash and if she doesn't think of it, her friends will and advise her accordingly. Remember that. They go for the balls or the wallet, for they know both will hurt you.

My sister and her husband have been married nearly 20 years. She doesn't know how much money he has nor vice-versa. They have separate accounts for thier money and a joint account for paying the bills, into which they each deposit half the required amounts. They're not on each other's credit cards either. No arguing over money for them.
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I would agree with you on this course of action, My soon to be sister and brother in-law do the same thing and they couldn't be happier. It all works out if you both work. If not then that is a different story, especially when she gets pregnant. If everything is great between you two then there is nothing to worry about anyways. Have a great life! J.
 
glockman99 said:
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Originally Posted by glockman99
The gal behind your wife (with the dark hair in a "bun")...By any-chance would you have her phone number handy that you could email to me?...She's beautiful...


...And???.:D.:D.
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She giggled and was thought you were very sweet. :D

one45auto said:
Absolutely!

1) DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT mix your money. Once entwined it becomes difficult to untangle without hassle and worse yet evolves from "yours" to "ours" to "hers. " Believe me, when things go south the first thing a woman does is grab the cash and if she doesn't think of it, her friends will and advise her accordingly. Remember that. They go for the balls or the wallet, for they know both will hurt you.

My sister and her husband have been married nearly 20 years. She doesn't know how much money he has nor vice-versa. They have separate accounts for thier money and a joint account for paying the bills, into which they each deposit half the required amounts. They're not on each other's credit cards either. No arguing over money for them.


2) Do not change anything about yourself for her. Oh yeah, she's going to try. It's always "different" after they get the ring on you, maybe because then they feel like they've got you trapped.


3) Maintain friendly relations with ex-girlfriends, as you may need a back-up plan at some point down the road.


4) Remember always that if you're entrusting the birth control to the wife she's in charge of whether or not you have kids - not you. If a woman wants a child she'll find a way to get one, no matter how you feel about it. It's all too easy to "forget" to take pill on time and that "oops" will cost you plenty. And if you download more than one rug rat you can forget about divorce because if you ever do decide to pursue it, your first course of action will be to pick out a nice cardboard box in the alley - because it's all you'll be able to afford with the child support payments.
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hmmm. I guess I just have complete trust in my wife that she has earned repeatedly over the last 2 years- especially with money.
 
I just got back from the honeymoon. It was great. Time together with no one else around in the mountains does wonders for a person's mental health. I shall post pics soon!
Doc
 
one45auto said:
Absolutely!
4) Remember always that if you're entrusting the birth control to the wife she's in charge of whether or not you have kids - not you. If a woman wants a child she'll find a way to get one, no matter how you feel about it. It's all too easy to "forget" to take pill on time and that "oops" will cost you plenty. And if you download more than one rug rat you can forget about divorce because if you ever do decide to pursue it, your first course of action will be to pick out a nice cardboard box in the alley - because it's all you'll be able to afford with the child support payments.
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Now you tell me!

Nah have two great rug rats. Unplanned but had I had my way I would be still putting off children.
 
Every once in a while.....not often.....send her flowers for no reason...Not on a holiday, birthday or anniversary. Just on say....a Tuesday, because you were thinking of her and how her beauty makes these flowers seem dull by comparison. If she works....send them to work. Everybody likes to feel special and a bride is no exception...good luck.
 
hmmm. I guess I just have complete trust in my wife that she has earned repeatedly over the last 2 years- especially with money.
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Good for you. Trust is hard because when it's betrayed it sucks more, but to never have that kind of relationship would be worse.

#'s 1 - 4 in one 45 auto's list are if you're planning for a divorce. Usually we hit what we aim for... All or nothing in my book.
 
...never go to sleep mad at each other...it will be three times as bad in the morning...I hope you both live happily ever-after.
 
Deerslayer71 said:
#'s 1 - 4 in one 45 auto's list are if you're planning for a divorce. Usually we hit what we aim for... All or nothing in my book.
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They say that wisdom is the scar tissue of experience, and accordingly my rules were all learned the hard way. Those who've been burned will agree with me, while those who haven't will never understand. To each his own. You have your level of accepted risk and I have mine. Peace.
 
First off, ignore "one45auto". His advice is for someone who has been hurt by a woman & wants to cover his butt & seek revenge. If you want a marriage to last, DON'T think like that, or it's doomed from the start.
Make "her" THE MOST important thing in your life. Be honest, work on the relationship as partners. Buy her flowers, or a stupid toy, or....???, for no good reason. Don't be afraid to be "a kid" with her. Laughter can do more for a marriage than all the sex in the world. DON'T make sex the most important thing in the marriage, it's not by far!
Treat her with respect, always!! You don't (& can't) always agree, but always treat her as a friend.

Just celebrated my 25th anniversary, & headed for "the rest of our lives together".
 
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