Any advice for a young gent getting married in 9 days?

1. Never go to bed angry at each other.
2. Never talk nasty about her to your buddies. Always call her in affectionate tones.
3. Make big decisions together.
4. learn to accept the fact that women are usually right and our egos do not want to admit it.
5. commit to stay married no matter what disillusionment lies in the future and trust me there will be disillusionment.
6. Learn to apologize
7. Never make her cry for things you have done and said..and if you did something that made her do this...undo it asap. One time when money was short I bought a gun. She was so upset with me she burst in to tears. I felt like an ass and drove it back to the store...never even took it out of the trunk.
8. touch her...not sexually but hold hands..give her a pat on the leg. run you hands through her hair....
9. stop ogling other women. Let her know that you only have eyes for her.

Live well, Laugh often , and Love much.
 
yam said:
Repeat after me:
"A happy wife, is a happy life."

Seriously though:

Love her.

Respect her.

If you have an argument and get angry with each other, do not let your ego or pride get the better of you. Calm down, do not say stupid things, apologize and talk it out like grownups. Because she is your wife and deserves to be treated well.

Remember, you married this woman to be your wife, your partner ..... not your mother. Always help with cooking, doing the laundry (includes folding and putting it away), washing the dishes, and general house keeping because it's your stuff too.

If you make her a promise, keep it.

Hold hands.

Laugh.

Dance.

Don't forget to have fun together.

Be humble.

Listen.

Get her a nice warm pair of slippers, women like their feet to be warm.

Be a good, decent, honest man.


This should get you started, you will learn more as time goes on. The best of luck to you.
Mike
Married for 17 years and going strong.
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Well said; that plan has been working for me for 14 years.
One other thing, You both have to know that, "you have each other's back" no matter what happens. "For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, till death us do part" sounds easier than it is. Ask anybody whose spouse suffered a major illness and you're broke.
 
Great advice here, do what works best for BOTH of you! Trish and I are going on 14 years and this last year has been the best year for us! (The third through fifth were the worst!)

Money is almost always the underlying stress in any relationship, be open and unassuming about money!

Read any of the "love languages" books, they really opened my eyes to how to show my wife that I love her! I kept buying her gifts, but all she wanted was to be held and talked to (things that I don't do well). Once I figured that out, we started getting along much better!

We have two pre-nups, never threaten divorce, even if we think we're joking and if we ever do separate, we have to take each other...

J-
 
When she is furious, don't mention makeup sex on the basis it is a cure all.

Avoid pranks with superglue.
 
Remember that when having a disagreement with your wife you can either be "right" or you can be "happy" but you can't be both at the same time under those circumstances.

However, definitely keep in mind that women, no matter how others protest and wail differently thinking that environment and socialization determine all behaviors, do not think like men do generally speaking. They are emotionally based, on the whole, often making decisions based upon emotional appeal then intellectually rationalizing that decision as the basis for the conclusion. Many people do this for something they like (often a new knife :D), but women do this as a matter of course and believe it is an entitlement and way of life. That will be the real source of all arguments. It may show itself through too much money being spent, or not enough sex occurring, or problems with friends, jobs and family; however, the real reason is an entirely emotional construct in her mind. That is, some irrational belief and conclusion is really creating the emotional construct and shaping the behavior.

But remember, you married her also based upon an emotional attachment (i.e., love), so there is some basis for that irrational worldview which you are facilitating and participating in voluntarily. It's working well enough now that you're getting married. Congratulations!

I'm aware how this may appear, but all thoughts about interactions with your wife should be considered with the above premise in mind. It will either help you tremendously in your relations as it will guide your actions successfully for both of you creating much happiness and joy, or it will cause you no end of suffering. Just like marriage can be. Find out what her emotional framework is for viewing the world and shaping her behavior. Then be sure that your actions are just. Don't be bullied and don't be harsh. Love her truly.

The ups and downs are inevitable.
 
CorpsmanUP, I could not PM you and sorry to jump your Thread but I know time this counting down so.....

From my Redneck wedding Thread.:D

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Originally Posted by CorpsmanUP!
Words can not even begin to describe...:0

Sure there are.

Tips, Hints, and Ideas.

And you better hurry because the 11th will be here before know it.

BTW my wife and I were married on a month date of the 11th too.

So you better show this to her ASAP.

Because you don't want her to find out about these great wedding ideas after the wedding do you. She may want a redo with Camo.

The really great thing about getting all your wedding supplies at the sporting goods store is that my Father in law was happy with the one stop shopping to find the perfect shotgun for the wedding to keep me from running to far.
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BTW The Best To You Both. 555:)
 
D-DAY men. Thank you all again. I am sitting here enjoying a cup of coffee in my quiet home reading SIXGUNS by Keith enjoying the beautiful weather contemplating the events of this afternoon and then the honeymoon in the blue ridge mountains. I will be taking my Ruger Super Black Hawk in .44 and my Marbles Trailmaker- oh and my new bride too;) I will post photos from the wedding ASAP. I have this feeling that while I am sitting here typing this i am going to turn around and the day will be over before I know it.
On the down side- My future mother in law was admitted to the hospital yesterday. She had a blood clott in left leg distal from knee. She is like my fiance's right arm in planning this wedding and now she won't be able to be there. I promised her lots of video but did not know what else to say. The only thing I could do was let my fiance cry last night while I held her. I had not intended to stay here last night with her but decided she needed me more than some stupid superstition.
The day will be bittersweet without her there but I guess it's better to take care that she listens to the Doc and doesn't complicate current condition (fatal if clott travels to heart). So... If any of you forumites are praying men i ask for yours today. Thank you.
Doc
 
First the love, then the wedding bells, and after that the fighting begins.
Just remember, when she complains about all the money you spend on knives, remind her about all the money she spent on cosmetics and clothing.
 
Yesterday went off with out a hitch. We stayed at a resort on the beach overlooking the ocean and spot we got married. I will post the nonincriminating pics a little later. My SOG twitch 2 came in handy all day yesterday and last night from the occaional thread hanging on tux to opening cards late into the night.
 
That is something people forget, the 'orrible paperwork, the party the guests. Only then is it your time, Goodly for you guys. Many happy years and a good few rug rats!

11/11 not easy to forget. Mine is the 16th of Nov for 16 years. My wife only remembers when there are chocolates.
 
Congradulations! This post has helped me as well as I am contemplating a good time to propose. I'm glad everything went well and I hope your mother in law is ok. Best of luck to the two of you, J.
 
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.

Keep her happy and i'm sure you will do fine

take care & enjoy life

aj
 
Bufford said:
... when she complains about all the money you spend on knives, remind her about all the money she spent on cosmetics and clothing.
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Oh, you'll lose THAT argument! :D The clothes & cosmetics were to make her look good for YOU! Just don't buy a knife for yourself without buying her something she wants. That might be a knife, too, of course. :p
 
Update- her mom is ok and getting out of the hospital tomarrow. We will be leaving for my mom's bed and breakfast in the mountains on Fri. This week has been very hard for the both of us (understatement of the year), but I just got an opportunity to put into practice some of the great advicei got here and swallow my pride, and fix things between us asap. I thank you all again. I will try to put up a few pics.
 
Thanks for the update, CorpsmanUP.

Glad to see that things are getting better for both of you.

Have a great time at the mountains and Happy day 3 Anniversary to you both.:)
 
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