Any advice for a young gent getting married in 9 days?

Heavy said:
Marry her and never look back.

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I thought the same but it should be run and never look back.

Bring her tea/coffee 1st thing each morning works wonders. I just calculated that since being married I have made her more than 1.1m3 of tea!
 
If you can out run her than just do it. If not just remember to give her your credit cards, savings account, checks, cars, house, and anything that she thinks of. That way you will be fine for the first few years. After wards just nood your head and agree with everything that she says.
Seriously, good luck. It can be great. Just remember that it takes years and hard work to make things work out no matter what you go through. It will all pay off in the long run.
 
Love her, cherish her, and always be honest with her. I try to continually remind myself how much better my life is with my wife than it was before (and it was pretty good before), so I don't revert to being such a crummy husband.

Congratulations and best wishes! :thumbup:
 
Don't treat arguments like a logically like a chess game. Women typically don't
argue logically when they are mad and the pieces never come off the board :)
Accept each others apologies when offered. Never ever go to bed angry.

Share money management/personal finance duties equally.

When she tells you that you don't clean enough, she is ***always*** right. Get up immediately and start cleaning. Men are much lazier then they think in this regard....

If you don't kids already, take a year or two to travel and enjoy each others company before you take the plunge.

Give each other alone time when needed.

Congratulations. Getting married and having children has far exceeded any other joys in my life.
 
The key to a happy marriage is......separate vacations!!!

Good luck on the pending nuptials. :D
 
January will be 16 years for us...

I learned a long time ago that the key to a happy marriage is to not feel like you have to be right all the time and to not always want to have it your way.

Don't let stupid little crap get in the way of a happy life. My dad always says "In a hundred years....whose gonna give a shit!" I practice that every day.

Steve
 
Steve in Minnesota said:
January will be 16 years for us...

I learned a long time ago that the key to a happy marriage is to not feel like you have to be right all the time and to not always want to have it your way.

Don't let stupid little crap get in the way of a happy life. My dad always says "In a hundred years....whose gonna give a shit!" I practice that every day.

Steve
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NICE:D I think like that most of the time.

Thanks again everyone!!:cool:
 
I in my third marriage, so don't count too much on this.

I agree with others already posted.

But have one thing to add:

Do as your told.
 
Think about how nice you are to each other now.
Act the same way after you're married.
 
We just celebrated our 18th. We are not married, just committed. She is not just my partner, she is also my best friend. The rule of thumb we always use is "you don't always have to like each other, you just have to love each other". It has worked for us through a very rough ride (severe medical problems and natural disasters) over the years.

Good luck and good fortune!!
 
Guess I am the old man here, can't give a lot of advice, but you can remember this. "If Momma ain't happy, Nobody is happy" I can say with conviction that is a truth that will never, ever change. Love her, tell her, and then tell her again. Never leave the house without telling her you love her and give her a big kiss. When you come back repeat procedure. I have been married to same girl now, going on 43 years. 3 children, 5 Grands and 2 more coming. Wife and I agree on one thing for sure, we should have had them first.:D
James

PS: Don't forget the part about telling her you love her and mean it.:)
 
Have a seperate checking account for rent, utility bills, and car repairs . . . and don't let her have unrestricted access to said checkbook. My ex-wife would write checks with the bill money to buy new clothes or treat her friends to dinner.

Have strict rules about credit cards and use of checks. If she likes to spend more than SHE earns (after deductions towards savings for bills), you are going to have serious trouble and need to bail before you have kids (i.e., 50% of your net income for the next 21 years).
 
Congrats, Doc.

Never ever go to bed mad at each other. Even if you gotta suck it up and apologize the flip side is alot worse. Love, is Grand. Worship her.
 
nah! avoid 'Men are from Mars...' or at least keep it out of her hands. Each woman is different and if she tries to fit herself into a mould then you are in for a 'life from hell'.

James Todd has it to a tee.

I would say that Shadowblade's rules are nigh unenforcable. Roles need to be defined but not absolute.We keep separate accounts because that is what is easiest to monitor. I pay the bills. If she can't control her spending then the marraige is in trouble from day one.
 
Yep , read the books. John Gray has great books about coexisting happily with the female species.
always give respect
never go to sleep angry
ALWAYS fix arguments/quarrels as soon as possible, don't let them linger for days.
Learn to be patient.
Swallow your pride, and they will probably cool down after a while, and then explain your vieuw.
Don't try to "win" because they can make your life hell if they really want to.
Realise that they communicate on a different level.
Learn to speak "women"!
Don't try to understand them completely because you won't.
Do not try to change them.
Adapt to their vieuws but keep your pride.
Help her in the house, and with the children.
Be her best mate.

Do male stuff with mates once in a while.

(16 years experience with the same wife)
 
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