Are any of you like me? Classified as a Loner

True friends are rare, the ones who will stand by you in bad times.

It's hard to connect (stay connected) in our society. Most of us have our plate full just dealing w/ our own family, work, money, ect. We'll send a card/flowers to a friend/coworker who is down, but most people simply don't have drive to go beyond that.

It's ironic that in a country of over 300mil and the abilty to travel anywhere in it in less than a day, we can be so isolated from the people around us.


as for being a "loner". sometimes turning your back on the world seems like the best thing to do, but i feel that people with good hearts need to be even stronger in battling against the feelings social apathy. You *CAN* help make a positive change in society. We need more good stones being tossed in the pond.
 
To the OP - what you've described are the classic symptoms of depression and an associated anxiety disorder. There are many people, myself included, who prefer their own company much of the time to that of others, but experiencing anxiety when interacting with others is definitely not "normal". Its important to recognize that depression and anxiety are medical conditions that can be treated very successfully with a combination of anti-depressants and therapy, but that like any other condition they can get worse if just ignore them. The best course of action is to go to your doctor and explain exactly whats going on, and they'll be able to recommend the best course of treatment.

One more thing - depression and anxiety are not "normal" but they are extremely common, and the vast majority of people suffering from them make full and complete recoveries.

All the best,

Josh.
 
I think that you have simply realized your own mortality. Why don't you go to the dog pound and get yourself a Labrador mutt. In saving that dog's life, you'll be saving your own.

You may never have a better hunting and fishing buddy, than a Lab mutt. Their crazed enthusiasm (along with the chaos they tend to inject into upland bird and fishing situations) is D@MNED INFECTIOUS.

CHEERS and God Bless you.
 
Hear! Hear! on what Erasmus said.
A dog is a friend that won't leave you.

I have two, a mastiff/german shepherd mutt and a beagle/lab mutt.

The mastiff/shepherd is a very serious hunter and a very good companion, but the beagle/lab is the court jester. She's always doing something really nuts. Beagles think they're big dogs and fear nothing, wrap that up with a lab's energy and you're in for a ride. Plus, she's hell on rabbits. And get this: she's SIXTEEN years old!
 
Oh I have a good dog that goes with me everywere. He belong to my Uncle that died last year. He is a border Collie, that dog was so lonesom when my uncle died. Now he stays with me. I love that dog, he is the best i ever had. Anyway I think that what Erasmus said is true. I have faced my own Mortality and that is heart of my problem and also losing my Uncle and my Niece ( 17yrs) in a car accident was a big factor. So im gonna get some therapy. Thanks guys for your advice and caring for me. Its amazing that the best freinds in the world is people you dont even know in life. You guys are true freinds.
 
I feel happiest when I'm with my wife and daughter, who is five. Kids are just the best therapy there is. You can keep the rest of 'em, bar one or two.

I personally wish I had a line of work that took me into the outdoors more often, but I guess that's a dream for a lot of people.

If I get the opportunity just to watch some birds in the sky for a few minutes, or even a spider doing its work, I take it and it has a real calming effect on me.

I find it amazing that people go to such extreme lengths to remove themselves from nature. I think this is the human race's biggest mistake.

Hope you find the help you need brother.
 
Posted by willis ..

For me the lonliest place in the world is a room full of people.


So true
 
jh205 said:
To the OP - what you've described are the classic symptoms of depression and an associated anxiety disorder. There are many people, myself included, who prefer their own company much of the time to that of others, but experiencing anxiety when interacting with others is definitely not "normal". Its important to recognize that depression and anxiety are medical conditions that can be treated very successfully with a combination of anti-depressants and therapy, but that like any other condition they can get worse if just ignore them. The best course of action is to go to your doctor and explain exactly whats going on, and they'll be able to recommend the best course of treatment.

One more thing - depression and anxiety are not "normal" but they are extremely common, and the vast majority of people suffering from them make full and complete recoveries.

All the best,

Josh.
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JOSH,
Thats the Textbook answer...IMO, Whats NORMAL anyway...I don't like crouds..never did, I much prefer my own company to that of say...going to the mall, concerts....I still do that sort of stuff when I have to (warden..I mean woman) I am a friendly person (I think), but in todays world..I think that the thinking man can easily become disconnected for good reason. I don't see to many reasons to talk to most people...I don't like American Idol, or REality shows (other than the UFC) ..I don't own a microwave, or have credit cards, I don't eat diet food (or believe in them! Aspertame is poison) I don't believe ANYTHING my government tells me..unless they announce a TAX hike! ...If I start to feel like I want to "join" in the croud...I just surf to YUtube..and watch the idiots for about 10 minutes...and then feel vindicated in my belief that most people have thier heads up there rears. Or if I want to get "depressed" I just turn on my local news...that always makes for a goood end to a hard days work and commute!
I am NOT AFRAID to admit that I am kinda unhappy with the way things are going in general...being a DAD..I worry for my kids.
I don't think I need meds...in fact I think that people take far to many pills....I could go on and on. I am not an elitest, I am actually pretty humble..its hard not to be when I build houses for millionares all day and I cant afford Diesel for my truck....I guess what that I am bearing my soul a bit ...but Being a LONER isn't always a bad thing...

EDIT: JOSH, I wanted to tell you that I am not making light of depression, I know that it is a real thing that effects millions...I just wonder why it seems to be on the rise.....maybe as a group..we are screwing up somehow?? I don't know. Gene
 
BoxANT said:
True friends are rare, the ones who will stand by you in bad times.

It's hard to connect (stay connected) in our society. Most of us have our plate full just dealing w/ our own family, work, money, ect. We'll send a card/flowers to a friend/coworker who is down, but most people simply don't have drive to go beyond that.

It's ironic that in a country of over 300mil and the abilty to travel anywhere in it in less than a day, we can be so isolated from the people around us.


as for being a "loner". sometimes turning your back on the world seems like the best thing to do, but i feel that people with good hearts need to be even stronger in battling against the feelings social apathy. You *CAN* help make a positive change in society. We need more good stones being tossed in the pond.
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I like what you said here..good stuff.
 
No, I don't even have that much class.:eek:

Why don't you take a kid fishing? Doesn't have to be a big deal, just some pleasant little outing with a couple of poles and sandwiches.

Good luck with your situation.
 
gunknifenut said:
we are screwing up somehow?? I don't know. Gene
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yes and thus everybody will go to hell
and when hell is full

the dead will rise!

and hell shall cometh with them!

and the fine line between life and death shall be made by machete!

the glory days when the steel will rule

shall return!
 
nephildevil said:
yes and thus everybody will go to hell
and when hell is full

the dead will rise!

and hell shall cometh with them!

and the fine line between life and death shall be made by machete!

the glory days when the steel will rule

shall return!
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uuuuuugh......cool, but dont you mean KUKRI instead of MACHETE?
 
hehe i'm still waiting on my kukri

but in 28days later was the coolest machete scene ever, comparable to the chainsaw scene in scarface
 
Not liking to be around people is one thing, but having physical symptoms of distress when you go into social situations can definitely fall into quite a few psychiatric categories under anxiety disorders. If it's bothering you or you are feeling depressed I would definitely get it checked out. This is not an irregular thing to happen after having episodes of serious illness.
 
raythebigfoot said:
Not liking to be around people is one thing, but having physical symptoms of distress when you go into social situations can definitely fall into quite a few psychiatric categories under anxiety disorders. If it's bothering you or you are feeling depressed I would definitely get it checked out. This is not an irregular thing to happen after having episodes of serious illness.
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I agree..sorry if I came accross like I was insensitive. :o
 
I am a loner, if thats what we are calling it. Very few friends, and hate social events. I will take a day in the woods by myself over a day with people anytime. However I have been like that my whole life.

Where you have had a sudden change of mood/personality after a traumatic event could very well be depression and the stomach aches in social events could be anxiety. Im no doctor but I am studying psychology in college right now, and those are classic symptoms. It might be worth seeing a doctor.
 
I work in public service, and I find my opinion of the human race is dwindiling. When I am off work I just dont want to deal w/people. I have some buddies,but am more or less just happy w/ family. I spend time alone in the woods to heal my sence of self, and reboot from a stress filled life. That is how I cope w/ the loads of human suffering I am subjected to on a daily basis. I give 200% of myself when on duty, which takes alot out of you, and the bad far outweighs the good. However, when you make a differance, it keeps you driving on. Like a junkie lookin for his next fix......
I guess I could be classified as a loner, but it is by choice, I prefer to live quitely, and carry a big stick.
 
I thought I had a lot of friends as well, but when I spent 10 days in hospital with serious illness, I had one visitor that stayed for a short while and he never came back. Told me a lot about myself and others. So, I been taken care of the grand kids, rockin on the porch, walkin in the woods and trying to stay healthy on my own. Seems I prefer it that way now a days.
 
Wildone39 said:
No im not crazy, im a normal guy just like most of you. I have a wife and 2 daughters and I love them more than anything in this world. I grew up a normal child and lived in the country all of my life. I have 2 brothers and a large family that has lived on the same land since the Civil War. My great great Grandfather Fought for the South in the Civil War and is buried not far from my house. So my roots go deep here. I used to sing in a band and I served in the Military during the Gulf War. Most of my life I have been a very outgoing person but a few years ago I had a Heart Attack and almost died and then last year I lossed my kidney cause of a Kidney stone and had surgury and got Staph Infection and almost died again before they finally found it. Since then I have become a loner. Other than my wife and kids, I dont care about anyone coming to my house nor do I ever go visit anyone. I dont like being around people anymore. The only thing I love is to go to the woods. I think that makes me think back to my childhood and better days of my life. If I am around people I get really nervous and actually sick to my stomach. So the more I am to myself the better off I am. Is that normal? My wife says Ive become a hermitt. Like i said Im not putting my wife and kids in this cause I love them and I do spend time with them, just not anyone else. I never go to town unless I have to and as you can see I cant sleep at night. So am I by myself on this or does anyone else here feel threatend by the world? Just wondering. Sorry for the long babbel. Theres just to much drama in this World now for me.
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Wildone, I went from being outgoing to being an extreme loner for awhile while recovering for a few years from traumatic brain injury from a car accident. I had the same...phobias of being around other people. It was very strange and I wondered if it was permanent.

However, as I came through it in the past couple years, and my brain started working again, I found I missed my friends and colleagues. There was a time when I didn't even want to pick up the phone and call information. It was that scary to me and I got the shakes, etc.

Don't underestimate that this could be a temporary thing, and it sounds like a sort of Post Traumatic Stress reaction, which is sort of what I had.

Talking helps immensely.

Peace,

Brian.
 
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