Bad Experience With Hdk1

[Keith Montgomery]

Here goes, my post count is nil and has no bearing on the weight of my logic. Legally, nothing probably wrong with what hdk1 did. Ethically, makes him look like what I see the majority of our society slowly devolving into, an excuse making, mamby pamby, wishy washy, opportunistic person whose word means absolutely not a thing. Credibility and steadfast honesty and decency means occasionally taking the hit for your mistakes in an effort to save face in the long run, the decision to pull the knives w/out contacting the potential buyer was wrong and, in the long run, detrimental, and that's my two cents, not that it's worth that.

Your opinion is valued no matter what your post count is, and for what it's worth I agree with you that it was wrong for hdk1 not to contact sleyer immediately.

 

[silenthunterstudios]

Your opinion is valued no matter what your post count is, and for what it's worth I agree with you that it was wrong for hdk1 not to contact sleyer immediately.

It was wrong for him to not reply to Sleyers post, he obviously saw it when he pulled his auction. Who knows about the emails.

 

[Fastlane]

There was no deal here. There was an offer for sale, apparently at a bargain price (I did not see the unedited thread.). There was a post from a potential buyer over a month and a half after the last post on the thread. There was no meeting of the minds establishing a deal posted in the thread or referred to that took place in private, according to the complaint.

Another example of the unrealistic "The first 'I'll take it!', gets it" notion. It took the seller only two days from when the buyer sent the email to change the thread. He must have a life outside BF and the internet. The seller could have forgotten about the ad entirely during that month and a half. The seller did respond to the email by changing the thread. Would it have been better to also email the buyer? Probably, but that doesn't warrant getting raked over the coals in the G,B,&U.

All this talk about ethics and doing the right thing. If someone makes a mistake in posting by pricing an item too low, whether it's because of a typo or misjudgement of the actual value, should we expect them to bend over and take it after they realize the mistake? That, for me, would be unethical.

 

[Ruzster]

clearly this is a spurious complaint

regardless of whether you consider hdk1 wishy washy (or not) for withdrawing the sale, i commend him for his restraint in not replying to this lame thread and turning it into the typical "flame fest" these sort of threads usually degenerate into

Personally, I think it's possible to defend/explain your actions w/o getting defensive or resorting to name-calling. His choice of course but where I'm from, actions always speak louder than words.

Some of you may dismiss this as a non-issue but I for one think it has been a worthwhile discussion. As a forum member who's only been on the "buyer" end of his transactions, I have found the opinions expressed in regards to this issue by sellers that I respect to be very enlightening.

I have read numerous posts in the past on GB&U from sellers grousing about buyers who say "I'll take it" and then decide to back out. I commend those of you who feel no ill will when this occurs but that never seemed to be the overriding sentiment. Most replies to such posts expressed sympathetic disgust. Hence my surprise at the support (or, rather, lack of censure) HDK1's actions have garnered in this thread.

As far as I'm concerned, what's good for the goose is good for the gander and I'll take such grousing with a grain of salt in the future.

Most, it seems, are willing to concede that a little courtesy communication on the part of HDK1 could have prevented or ameliorated any subsequent hard feelings.

Thankfully, common sense and the judicious application of the "golden rule" are the predominant MO’s for the majority of the members found here. I'll always be very grateful for that.

‘nuf said.