Wow!!! Some pretty heavy stuff coming down right now.
Life is great- it really is, but it can be darned tough as well.
Randy- a warning to take it easy brother- theres been some stress lately- so Im guessing you need to shirk that new friend out of your life ( stress ) and sit back and enjoy.
Carl...I was sick - in fact very sick for three years, I always felt there was some kind of Alien sticking on the back of my neck- my Joints ( now this will sound weird ) actually felt sick..I felt sick and poisoned in my joints, I would have "attacks" that started one day when I was at the movies with my daughter- all my joints started to ache- and got worse and worse- as it worsened my body temp would drop and I felt horrifically cold- shaking like a leaf- couldn't steer my car into the driveway as I was shaking so bad...my breathing would be like you pulled me out of a ice river - then I would heat up after about 3 hours of this....and have a feverish spell for about 12 hours of sweating and not quite with it...
These would be at intervals of a month or so at the beginning- then they worked their way to being nearly every 4 to 5 days...it would take me a couple of days to get over an "attack"... 3 years of going to doctors etc...I was not in a good space- expecially after being so strong and active....
The doctor visit- which I think saved me I told my doc I was bleeding quite bad..... half an hour later the hospital rang me and booked me in 2 days to get scanned, Colonoscopy etc- yep...massive Bowel Cancer Tumour- and about a million scans later and more scares... I went through the course of getting chopped up ...
Today I saw my Surgeon - Dr Lincoln Israel, this man saved my life

, its been 5 years - he stood up and hugged me and said I was now an official survivor!

I was saved because I didnt have an aggresive Cancer- Quite an unique one actually which grew within itself and didnt get to travel outside my bowel walls - it had all the time in the World to do it- 3 years of hell as the poisons from the Cancer was what was making me so so sick....
If it was an aggressive Cancer, I would be little piles of Worm

now... so man I am the luckiest guy out! I guess its how you want to look at it.
I guess what I am trying to say Iis that your lovely wife is lucky- you may not think so, but she is...she has a chance, sounds like a darned good one at that - where others never did, and from the sounds of it her odds are looking good - I pray that they are.
My next mission is to one day have my Heart Aneurysm that is quite big now on my Aorta dealt with- theres no stenting that baby lol.
My Brother died when he was 29 years old...he had only just become a man....I am now twice as old as my older brother when he died.... so with life what I do is put such bad negatives into perspective and Thank God, My Wife and my friends and daughters for helping me get here, I could have died as a young baby, boy or young man where so many millions have before me and I am now have just passed 5 years lease of life when I should have died, so I am so so lucky & 5 years up! Hows That!

...gunning for a hang of a lot more lol
I dont feel sorry for myself at all, and hate people passing pity onto me - although I do still get a bit scared in the quite of night - sometimes wondering if I heard Cancer creeping up on me again.... but if I get hit again, Im just going to hit back as hard as I can - a bit like our mate Randy - geeez - talk about that saying of "You cant kill Weeds"!!!
Ken, I am so sorry to hear of your bad news, I hope more than anything you - with perhaps your wife or mates, children? are working down through that Bucket list and manage to have some good times!