Alright, so different question for you guys then: how do most of your friends/easy acquaintances know you? As a slightly threatening, standoffish person you wouldn't want to mess with? A recluse? A normal guy that doesn't let anyone get within a 3' bubble of them?
Thing is, I never really have violent interactions, because when it gets near that point, the person realizes that I'm no pushover. But normally, I try to be an affable, gregarious, and vibrant guy, and I think I do it rather effectively, but when it comes time for something to happen, the wolves lope off to the shadows...
People do sometimes get close to me, as I like to talk at length, but I am always tactically aware, with my radar doing a constant sweep of my surroundings, including behind me, and my focus is always moving but at the ready for anyone I engage in close quarters interactions with. When I'm talking with someone, I find it hard to have conversations at 3 feet, 2 feet makes more sense to me, especially when I'm sitting down in a classroom or in a cafeteria, it sort of is hard to not have people nearby, e.g., you tell a person no, you can't sit there and someone else comes in, the class is full, you're sitting with a large group of friends..?
So question is guys: what is your normal comfort zone- 3,4,10 feet? And how often do you interact with people you don't know for extended periods? Do you ever encounter problems setting the comfort zone? Are any of you guys active on the mating scene, and if so, how do you handle it? I feel that a lot of advice is good, but it is more oriented to established early forties and older with an established social circle where anyone outside doesn't feel obligated to be included. In my case, I don't have an established career, family, and friends (they're always graduating, leaving, etc.), and so I have to leave some fluidity to allow new friends, romances, and career opportunities open. Do you have any advice for seeming normal, open to new experiences, and non-threatening? Or is it all part and parcel? I might get some advice later this month (one of the hottest and coolest women I ever met told me after we went back to her place for the first time that she wouldn't have let me in had she not had a gun there...:thumbup: I'm going to see her for a bit this summer


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