There will always be change, always arrival and departures, short, long and even permanent. Recently Grob told us he was going for awhile, life had called, and he would return. I read that and thought this was good, this was the way to do it.
I remember going to my doctor's office one day and finding him now living in North Dakota. That was wrong. When I trained for counseling, the importance of closure was emphasised, and repeated throughout the program. Too often in our world we just leave. That's the way it is. People get fired. Families are uprooted and shipped off. It is very hard to have a healthy society with so many on the move, and remember it was only a hundred years ago most of us were still on the farm in a place our families had been probably for a long while. It's a disposable society today. Lose a friend, find another. The city is big. Oh well.
These internet communities are a new thing. There aren't any rules handed down from hundreds of years of practise. And most of us were born in a society already on the move. As this is new- borderless communities, partial clans of close friends, I'm going to make a rule up. It was pointed out to me today by a departing forumite that I have no moral authority. (Who among us does?) That's true, and thankfully, this is not about I. When you give of yourself to others, and a time comes to walk into a new chapter, a life change, it is very important to have closure. I do not say this out of the top of my head, but am reliably imparting a known rule of civilized society. Our lives are real and have meaning. One can claim he is only waiting for the clock to hit 5 so he can leave the workplace and begin his 'real life, his real self, but he is talking to himself. Wherever you go, there you are. More than any place I've ever witnessed on the internet, some very special times and friendships have occurred in HI forum.
When one of you regulars leave; say goodbye. Do it for yourself. You have applause and handshakes coming your way. It's not important to recieve them because your hand is cold, or that you don't care about getting praise, it is important for the man, the group, and the larger society to recognize people and the accomplishment of their presence, if nothing else, though almost every one here has a lot more to be thankful and thanked for.
If you want to go out kicking and screaming- do that. If you want a quiet goodbye- do that. You don't have to tell us all the why, that is your business, but as a person important to many others in their worlds, say goodbye and let them know you were here, that this happened, that it was worth something.
munk
I remember going to my doctor's office one day and finding him now living in North Dakota. That was wrong. When I trained for counseling, the importance of closure was emphasised, and repeated throughout the program. Too often in our world we just leave. That's the way it is. People get fired. Families are uprooted and shipped off. It is very hard to have a healthy society with so many on the move, and remember it was only a hundred years ago most of us were still on the farm in a place our families had been probably for a long while. It's a disposable society today. Lose a friend, find another. The city is big. Oh well.
These internet communities are a new thing. There aren't any rules handed down from hundreds of years of practise. And most of us were born in a society already on the move. As this is new- borderless communities, partial clans of close friends, I'm going to make a rule up. It was pointed out to me today by a departing forumite that I have no moral authority. (Who among us does?) That's true, and thankfully, this is not about I. When you give of yourself to others, and a time comes to walk into a new chapter, a life change, it is very important to have closure. I do not say this out of the top of my head, but am reliably imparting a known rule of civilized society. Our lives are real and have meaning. One can claim he is only waiting for the clock to hit 5 so he can leave the workplace and begin his 'real life, his real self, but he is talking to himself. Wherever you go, there you are. More than any place I've ever witnessed on the internet, some very special times and friendships have occurred in HI forum.
When one of you regulars leave; say goodbye. Do it for yourself. You have applause and handshakes coming your way. It's not important to recieve them because your hand is cold, or that you don't care about getting praise, it is important for the man, the group, and the larger society to recognize people and the accomplishment of their presence, if nothing else, though almost every one here has a lot more to be thankful and thanked for.
If you want to go out kicking and screaming- do that. If you want a quiet goodbye- do that. You don't have to tell us all the why, that is your business, but as a person important to many others in their worlds, say goodbye and let them know you were here, that this happened, that it was worth something.
munk
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