The forum lifts my spirits , at times, until the various egos on the forum become irritating and I tune out for a while.>>>>> Ics37
Working on that.
"bring up 'wantitus' periodically, but having spent about 11K on khuks over the past 3 years or so, I had to severely restrict my desires. I read somewhere that irrestible spending was a form of depression? " Ics37
Here's the thing: If you do it too much- go through the high/down cycle of a purchase, it is depressing. The prebuy is a 'arroused' state of anticipation and heightened sensitivity. (no, I'm not making this up) This builds and culminates in the threshold of the actual purchase, the event. Then the product arrives in the mail- another and closing peak of 'altered' awareness and focus. Then the post-buy let down, then return to baseline. All that is good stuff; you broke routine in your life and jazzed it up a little. But if you repeat this cycle over and over, and have the events too close together in frequency, you can get depressed.
Forums are certainly capable of defying definition . I think we have seen this forum mature even since my time here . Believe it or not I think the creation of the Cantina had a lot to do with it . It did expose our darker selves at times as well as a few rough spots . These were honed away over time and the judicious useage of cool heads or at least a cooling down period . Its spring/summer and a few of us are already out and about a bit more . I think anyone leaving for over a couple of weeks could just drop us a line so that we can share in their good fortune . That and a few pics .
My personal style is similar to the mystery individual whose action of quietly slipping off motivated this thread. However, I see that understanding of others desire to be alone is desired by some, so Ill announce my little vacation from the forum here. I thought of starting a thread for this, but thats too gaudy and ostentatious for my taste. Since the people for whom announcements are important are probably still reading this thread Ill mention it here.
Im going to take a month off from posting on the HI forum, to contemplate. I have a number of things to think about. Ive raised some issues here on the forum that seemed important to me at the time, during the past few weeks. Were they really important? Were they worth the squabbles that resulted? Was the net effect beneficial or detrimental? What was the effect on the HI business? Does it make sense to comment on similar principles again in the future, in different instances, or did those for whom the message had value get it the first time, and will those for whom it was noise just be further irritated? How much of my enthusiasm for these issues was just my own ego at play, and how much of what I said had value? Was I unskillful in terms of tone or being unnecessarily confrontational when trying to get a message across?
The answers to these questions may seem simple to some, but Im simple myself and the issues and ramifications, and the byways to explore look complex to me. My discipline is to give myself a month, because on many issues I may be sure one day and then the next day have a different perspective. The passage of time gives me a chance to attain some equilibrium.
Im not seeking comments on my questions, or answers from others. Just looking for a little in sight. Dont worry about me being PC, or even nice, when I come back. That probably wont happen. But even curmudgeons take a little time to contemplate occasionally. Ill take that time now.
I’m not seeking comments on my questions, or answers from others. Just looking for a little “in” sight. Don’t worry about me being PC, or even nice, when I come back. That probably won’t happen. But even curmudgeons take a little time to contemplate occasionally. I’ll take that time now.>>>>>>>>>>> Howard
A month is too long. Does it have to be a month? (Though let's not 'squabble' over that! I honestly believe if Bill Martino were here he would give you about three sentences over this, and one of them would be: "A month is too long; take the rest of the afternoon off.)
Whatever you arrive at Howard, whatever is right for you, remember this:
You speak your mind. You give a damn. You try. You are not inaccessable. You're honest.
As far as I'm concerned, I don't care what's right or wrong, to the extent my ego is not relevant to either, or being 'right'. I care about the individual.
So, you're in there all the way. This is your house, and I still think a month is too long.
PS; for all that 'squabbles' are seen as unseemly and look poor in the public eye, and the behavior in them may not reflect the best side of an individual, that things are said we definately would not like recorded in Stone, all of us better remember this:
The alternative to no squabbles at all may be too terrible to contemplate