How do you explain

My wife and I have a saying; if it isn't worth getting a divorce over then it isn't worth fighting over. With that being said, we don't fret over what each other spends money on. We pay the bills, put some up for us and our two daughters, and we both take a little bit out for ourselves if there is anything left over. Granted we have only been married for 7 years but it seems to work for us. She buys shoes and clothes with her "play" money, and I buy my "stuff". You could always trade or barter, which I have been doing more of since the economy is crap.
 
Jim malone said:
The problem i have is that she is extremely "low maintenance". She only buys new clothes or shoes when they are realy worn, and she never spends any money on expensive stuff. She has recently bought like 10 pairs of the same cotton underwear ( different colour but with a "snoopy" on it) and i know she will carry those the next two years untill they fall apart . She does spend money, but only on our daughters. Most of her clothes are gifts from her mother or sister! If she sees something nice i always tell her "buy it", but then she tries it on and says "no it's too expensive"....
She is a women that brings her shoes to the shoemaker to get it resoled...
I don't mind , but it does give her some "guilt" power over me.
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Same by me. Although we're not married yet, we stock our earned money in one pile (worked great so far, except for this case). She doesn't need anything special and when I need a knife, she says I spend too much. I keep telling her "OK, you like that phone / watch? Buy it, then!" and she's like "Nah, I don't need it..." Our hobby expenses are really unbalanced, and it's hard to argue then :o
 
The tough part for me is not saying "I got another knife" - it's her telling me "that would make a nice wood carving knife..."
 
LostSoul said:
My wife and I have a saying; if it isn't worth getting a divorce over then it isn't worth fighting over. With that being said, we don't fret over what each other spends money on. We pay the bills, put some up for us and our two daughters, and we both take a little bit out for ourselves if there is anything left over. Granted we have only been married for 7 years but it seems to work for us. She buys shoes and clothes with her "play" money, and I buy my "stuff". You could always trade or barter, which I have been doing more of since the economy is crap.
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That always seems to be the best way to go. Make sure the necessities are taken care, of, a pre-agreed upon amount set aside for the house, and what's left gets divvied up for each to use without accountability.
 
"It's a man thang" nuff said.





:D good luck with that

dont blame the after math on Crowdog.
 
"hunny.....my gut hurt really bad....I thought I had to plop plop, so I pushed really really hard and thats what came out... I dont know how, but can I keep it? oh I lost 100$ the other day while jogging. " end of story, your good to go.
 
dbungard said:
this thread gave me some good laughs.

My wife just smiles and says 'you're cute, but expensive', laughs, and moves on.

Just remember boys -- it never hurts to translate the carbon on our belts to carbon on her finger/ear/neck etc. That goes a LONG way :)
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:thumbup: I tend to agree with this method and add shoes & purses to the mix as well
 
Ok first of all the guys who aren't married, sorry but your ideas don't really count, because your money isn't hers, YET! I am more into guns than knives and being married keeps me in check, I had a lot of debt from buying stuff I didn't need but wanted. She just makes me think about my purchases more, yes I buy less, but that also means I have less stuff just sitting around doing nothing and more money available when I find something I have a good reason to buy. Not only that, but we had a talk before we got married, I carry guns and knives daily and I told her why and my experiences when it would have sucked not to have one. And don't forget to point it out every time you use them when she is around and escpecially when she asked to use it or have you cut something for her.
As for guns I just do the whole defending my family speech and there are a of crazies out there. After being assaulted in front of her one night and just about putting two hot ones in the guys face, she is all for more guns and ammo to train with.
Now, I may personally have less gear, but I did buy her a S&W M&P 9mm compact, a pink izula, a pink mini-grip, and she recently asked for a buck metro for her purse.
I just view these items as more for me, I can always strip a pink izula or spray paint a mini-grip. And I have put more rounds through her gun than she has. This works for me!
 
I have always found that being honest is the best way to go. That way you don't ever get caught in a lie or get your "contest winning stories" crossed. Women love to buy just as much crap as men so as long as the 2 of you work it out in advance things will be much easier. Also it helps to let them know about your "collecting" hobbies ahead of time, get it out in the open so there's no shocker later on. I've also tried to my homework ahead of time and find a woman who has similar likes and dislikes, loves the outdoors, Carhartt, shooting, raised in the country and I've never had any issues with my toys and collecting before. It ALWAYS helps to throw some goodies their way once in a while also, shoes, purses, jewlery, etc. A little goes a long way! This really is one of the funniest threads I've seen on here in a quite a while!!!
 
What we do is every month... Both my wife and I get a predetermined amount of fun money to spend on whatever we want. The other person has no say in what the other uses it for, and if you want a bigger item like a new gun then save up a few months in order to do so. It also makes you more aware of purchasing stupid things and wasting money since you only want to use it for items you really need or want. Just budget all your family needs , emergency savings ect., then the leftover can be used as your fun money.

This eliminates arguments over her purses and shoes and my gear!
 
These threads make me happy to be single.

Hey Mods, can we move this to General Discussion? It's such a good thread...
 
Having a good marriage is more Being the right person than finding the right person. My wife does not spend anything on herself that is not a absolute necessity, I spend way to much on hobby stuff. I have known her since I was nine and she was six, there were not many surprises. It has been 42 years now so I guess it is working well.
 
I have the usual endless list of excuses the same as the rest of you. But I listen carfully the her point of view and eventually agree that i am getting a little caried away with it all and will try to rein it in so I'm not so hopless and irisponsible. I guess it boils down to being willing to be "wrong". This actually works, however I only get to this last bit when she has really cornered me. So far so good.
 
I'm my own man and i do not need to explain myself or my actions to my GF. Ditto for her.
 
I think the best way to explain is using an analogy. I would just tell her that I spend so much money on guns and knives for the same reason(s) she spends so much money on shoes and clothes.
 
I wear the pants in me and my girl's relationship so I don't have to say anything other than it's something I want and I'm spending some of our(we pool our money) money on it. It works both ways so if she wants something (within reason) she can get it too.
 
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