This is a tough situation for sure. While it is human nature for dealers of any item to think of their existing customer base first and provide them with perks as a thank you for their previous loyalty, it literally prevents someone else from becoming an existing customer if the entire stock is purchased by those who were given "first dibs". In my opinion, this will eventually limit the dealer's ability to acquire an increased customer base and force people to go elsewhere to spend their money. Think about it, what's the first thing you do if the item you are looking for is out of stock at Home Depot?..... You go to Lowe's to get it. If this happened repeatedly, you would just stop going to Home Depot altogether.
The other factor coming into play here is the fact that these are SFOs - the whole intention of these is for a dealer to have something unique that cannot be gotten anywhere else. People who are wanting to own one have no choice but to go to a specific place to get them which also contriutes to the "mad rush". Think of how busy (and nasty) it would be if there were only one grocery store in your town that had food, and they only had enough to feed 10% of the population. While I agree these SFOs do cause the flippers to come out of the woodwork, I am sure there are others who may only collect items that are unique so that may be why you only see them at SFO time, because they do not wish to collect production knives that are readily available to everyone.
At the end of the day, dealers order a SFO run from GEC, wait for the production and shipping process to complete, then they make those items for sale at a price they determine to be reasonable. They then sell like hot cakes to the point of server failure. Again, in my opinion, this is a good problem to have although it may be difficult to manage. I have done some business with CK in the past, am I one of the top 100 customers over the last 6 months?.....maybe, maybe not there is no way for me to know. I will continue to do business with them regardless if I am able to obtain one of these SFOs or not. Heck I was online within minutes of the latest run of TCs going on sale and I still wasn't fast enough to get one, but I still do business with CK because of the quality of service I have been provided on my other purchases and that won't change.
Good Luck to you Mr. Latham whichever way you decide to go with this one. I know your intent with the early reserve system was to take the stress out of buying knives but it appears that all of that stress has found its way to your door step. You could always do it like other dealers do and not have early reserves and just drop them on your website whenever you feel like it, but it would just be delaying the server issues that are experienced during the early reserve process until they went live on your site once word got out that they were there.