I decided I'm just not going to tell my GF when I get a new knife

Until you are married none of it should matter, what you spend your money on is your business and nobody elses.

GF's aren't wives so they really don't need to know everything.
 
On a more serious note, a lot of it depends on the relationship. Would you be upset if she had a hobby that she spent as much on as you do on knives and didn't tell you? If yes, you should probably tell her, if no then it's not really her business. As long as bills are payed and you're not sacrificing quality time or activities with her to feed your addiction I don't see it being necessary to give her a complete rundown of what you spend where.
 
It's not glamorous but at 25 me and my 5 year old son live with my family and I help float the bills so I ask "permission" to buy knives by making sure there's nothing that needs to be paid.


My dad got bit by a brown recluse, turned to MRSA, spent a month in intensive care(infectious disease ward) MRSA moved to his bone marrow in his spine and started to literally melt his spine. He had to have surgery to save his life and was fired when he was on the table. 500,000$ hospital cost was covered by a charity and now me and my sister keep money in the house.
 
Beglitched said:
I don't think I need to break up with her just because I don't want to tell her about all the crap I buy.
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Nah, but you have no money nor inclination to be honest with her, so what is her future benefit.

Just cause some guy likes to post here about knives, I see no reason to give him the benefit of the doubt or instantly brand the female an emotionally overcharged harpy. Some guy spending enough on knives to catch the attention of the SO can definitely have a nosy, bossy, cranky ball 'n chain... or he may be a short-sighted, compulsive, and flippant individual who has no ability to budget for others or his own future.

I don't know exactly what Beglitched's issue is. I find a couple sentences on a knife forum from only one party insufficient to do anything other than say end it and move on if you've reached the point that the advice of faceless screen names is going to carry weight in relationship decisions.

I personally have Insipid Moniker's problem, looks like I'm going to lose my Crowell/Barker and Chinook 3 next. Buying for two is always a better excuse, I find.
 
The only time I take notice what a female buys (That's not a wife) is when they try to get into my wallet, then the red flags start going off like crazy and that relationship will usually end shortly after that happens, other than that I really don't care what they spend their money on as long as I am not paying the bills for it.
 
My X gf used to climb up my A$$ about my knives...i said,every time you pi$$ me off im gonna buy another one....i have quite a collection !!..(and a new gf that is cool with my addiction and even buys me knives)...all good in this hood.............FES
 
I had a girlfriend that didn't like my knife collecting....
 
I remember some guy on Bladeforums many years ago who had a habit of buying knives and hiding them around the house - in the box with receipt! When he and his wife were preparing to move, she started finding the boxes with the knives and receipts. Once she hit a total of over $5000, he was DEAD!!!
I guess the lesson here is: If you are going to buy knives and hide them, for God's sake DON'T INCLUDE THE RECEIPTS!!!!
 
I dont collect. I buy some and sell some. I like 2nd hand toys whenever possible.'
Right now I'm content with my delica, esee 4, wave and grohmann.
 
I feel bad for people who have money and don't know how to enjoy it. I also don't date those people.

Nor do I date people who have no inclination to save a dime in their life, and just hope everything goes hunky-dory.

If you feel your SO is too far to one or the other extreme, you may have made a bad dating decision. And it'll bite you in the ass later. I'm not sure who's what in this situation, but ultimately if you two have such different views on how money ought to be handled you may be screwed in the long run. (Money trumps love when the bills need paying, and nothing will make you less happy than no fun or no hot water)
 
Hardheart
Do you explode like that IRL too? Give the guy a break. It's an honest question and I'm sure most of the people on here who actually have a GF can relate to this topic.

Beglitched
If you're able to take care of your economy then why not tell her? I mean, if you get your bills sorted every month and still have some over to spend on her, then there shouldn't be problem in my book.
If you've got money problems though, it might seem weird to a woman that your focus would be on a hobby and not on the rent, etc.
 
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Hardheart
Do you explode like that IRL too? Give the guy a break. It's an honest question and I'm sure most of the people on here who actually have a GF can relate to this topic.
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He answered a question that the OP asked. I sure didn't see an explosion there. He's not really the exploding on BF type guy. Perhaps you don't understand him. He's very honest, has a dry sense of humor and can be blunt at times but if what he says to another forumite bothers or offends you than perhaps you are too easily offended. Maybe just reread his posts again.

Joe
 
The Mastiff,
The OP merely wanted to know if people tell their partners about the knives they bought and said he's decided not to.
Hardheart jumps in telling him: "do your gf a favor and break up with her", "what is her future benefit" and so on.
 
I am able to take care of my bills, etc. The knife hobby isn't really a problem and I just posted this to make light of the topic and to see how other people deal with SO who doesn't understand knives and wonder why we need so many. My solution is to just not tell her. If she has no interest in knives, then no amount of my gushing over new knives is going to mean a thing to her other than that I am spending more money on an item that I already own several of. Yes, it is my money and I can do with it what I want. I will continue to buy knives whenever I want. I was just wondering if people deal with it the same way I plan on dealing with it which is to just keep the knives to myself.
 
stoffi said:
Hardheart
Do you explode like that IRL too? Give the guy a break. It's an honest question and I'm sure most of the people on here who actually have a GF can relate to this topic.
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That really was not an explosion. I posted a little more brusquely than I generally do on BF, but I have definitely been a bigger meanie at times on the internet. If the guy cannot be honest with his GF about this, then what is the point in them being together for much longer? I just don't see much happiness for either in that situation.

As well, having no money in the bank does not leave you in a place to pay all bills. What if one day he slips with a new knife and severs a couple connective tissues and nerves, as several have posted about? Auto accident, sudden illness, anything? What does he have in the bank to cover the expense, and how will he work to pay upcoming bills while he heals? Insurance will go so far, and then things start to pile up.

What agitates me about these threads is that they really aren't about knives, they are about relationships. I don't come to general knife discussion to read about dysfunctional relationships or about men so macho that instead of being honest with their women they hide their activities out of veiled fear. If I can't openly discuss what I do, then either I shouldn't be doing it, or I shouldn't be discussing anything with that person. If you don't want a woman to run your life, then she shouldn't be able to force you to hide things, change delivery addresses, or maintain silence about things.

If you have a GF, and she doesn't like what you like, and it gets to the point of argument - then how good of a GF is she, how good of a BF are you, and how long do you maintain the farce or genuinely face the issue. It's funny (wait, no it isn't) until guys start linking to the misandry videos again and go off on tangents.
 
I have a bunch of knives, camping gear, and a pair of motorcycles. My wife has a closet full of unnecessary shoes and clothes. As long as niether of us are being gruesomely irresponsible with the money (and we aren't), no problem. Her eyes glaze over if I talk about knives or bike accessories, mine glaze if she talks about shoes, but nobody hides anything. We generally mention it to each other if either of us are intending to buy anything that costs more than a hundred bucks.
 
Ankerson said:
Until you are married none of it should matter, what you spend your money on is your business and nobody elses.

GF's aren't wives so they really don't need to know everything.
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..and if they aren't into knives at all, they wouldn't know the diff anyway
 
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