I decided I'm just not going to tell my GF when I get a new knife

I've been telling my wife "I won it in a contest".That's getting kinda old though.I mean who wins 10-20 contests a year?So lately I've been saying "I traded into it".So far so good.:o
 
I just remind her that my "collection" is pretty much just like a savings account. Sure... I DO have (all things considered) several really expensive knives. I B/S/T fairly often, so they rotate. Even if not, how could it be bad if my "account" grows? I generally take a loss with B/S/Trading but that is because the most enjoyment I get out of my hobby is USING the knives. I probably spend $50-$75 (food, drink, gas, entrance fees, ect) a week on our various recreation together. I may "lose" 20% of what I have invested in my hobby. It is not "lost on another knife." I merely bought TIME with a fun hobby. Out of the 12 knives in my "collection" there are generally 3 that are "here to stay."
 
I think if really boils down to this;

If you have a girlfriend that you are serious about and plan to take it to the next level, then full disclosure is going to be your best avenue. If you don't, then you will have a rough road ahead.

If you are just dating with no intention of this going to the next level, then it probably doesn't matter one way or the other.

But if I were you, I would budget my pay and make sure that bills/savings/retirement/ and monthly expense money is set aside, and then you have play money to buy your knives with.

Good luck!:thumbup::)
 
foxx said:
Do you want to hear about her shoes, purse, new bra? I don't, and they don't want or need to hear you telling them about your new toys. Buy want you really want, not $30 here and there, and even then keep it to yourself, or talk to us about it, or your bros.
Once you are married or share bills, then I think each person should still have some of their own money to blow. But, what do I know, I'm not married.
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The best course of action IMO is 3 checking accounts. 1 for shared bills and 1 each so the individuals can buy what they want.

To the OP, don't lie to her or hide that you're buying knives. If it's a big enough issue then it'll come back to bite you in the bum eventually.
 
Meh, I don't tell my wife. If asked, I use the old "I've had this for awhile," or "I traded that one knife (random description)." Honestly though, she's vigilant enough to know when theirs a new clip in my pocket, and I always play with new knives like it's going out of style so she gets over it. Recently I've started trasfering $15,$20, $random ammounts of money in my paypal. She's not said anything about it yet so i'll keep doing it. I wait till I have enough for the knife I want, then I just start it all over again. I don't miss the $20 here and there, and it adds up fairly quickly. I tell her to buy what she wants and I buy what I want, as long as bills are paid and everyone is warm/fed, no harm no foul.
 
She'll know.
She might act like she doesn't, but she'll know.
You aren't James Bond.;)
 
Bad idea. Been there done that, over watches, not knives and not my current wife. When you feel the need to hide what you buy, your already headed for big problems. Honesty is best, and if she doesn't like it...she can get over it. Never ever feel the need to hide stuff from a wife/girlfriend. You'll start to stumble over the lies and create suspicion that will evolve and creep from her mind into all other areas. Plus because lying is easier in the beginning and these are harmless lies......eventually you'll do the same on other things......like when she asks who were you with last night, etc, etc. And you know she dislikes your buddy so and so and so you lie and say someone else and she finds out......she'll lose trust in you and......all bad will happen over the years. Which was all because you didn't want to admit you are buying knives.......I assume with your own money. Your call you're a big boy. You can make the right call for you. Since you asked though.
 
Based on my experience, not being able to be open with a gf, means you'll likely be even less open when/if married. If she can't handle it now, it will get worse later on, guaranteed.
 
ShooterMike66 said:
"This old thing, I've had it forever".
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this man speaks the truth but i have actually been asked "hey got a new knife" and it turned out to be my sog twitch II that was literally the first quality knife i ever purchased which was around 4th grade (and it has the wear, scratches, and well broken in action to prove it)
 
I'm an old, and old fashioned guy. Unless she's your wife, you owe her no explanation whatsoever. Period.
 
To make this thread more flame worthy, what if i am a girl and she is my domestic partner only bcz we arent allowed to get "married"?
 
I just buy whatever I want. She eventually gets over it. Then again she likes to eat out a lot.
 
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