I decided I'm just not going to tell my GF when I get a new knife

It seems some people take the stance of either "I'm in a nice honest relationship and if you are going to be with her forever then tell her everything" or on the side of "Yo money, yo business."

What gets overlooked is that 75% of the time relationships fall into grey areas.

For example, I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and we have a child. We just bought our first house about a year ago. We want to get married in time but not until we feel a little more ready and until our careers are a little more substantiated. She has a job also and she spends a lot of time raising our daughter but I make more money in my jobs (I have two and she has one, her job pays a little less than both of mine even though we work a similar amount of hours). Now, I am the primary bread maker in our household but still everything is a team effort and we need to work congruently. She has access to any of my money that she needs or wants and has the password to my account. That said, I buy maybe a knife every other month, every couple months, and I almost never tell her. If she found out she might be upset at first, and point out that there are other things we could spend our money on. But then I could counter that I make most of the money and I don't spend any of it on myself other than the occasional knife which I believe are useful tools that could benefit us in emergencies or every day life. I try to spare both of us the discussion and only buy what I believe is reasonable without sparing her the details. On the flip side of that I don't make her tell me how much her new boots cost or how much she spends on lunch when she meets up with girlfriends.

There is no answer that is correct to your specific situation unless it's on accident. Deep down you know if you're being a D-Bag or not.
 
You can always sell good knives for near what you paid, and sometimes more over time. You can't sell shoes, and handbags especially if they are used. Knives, guns, and lots of guy stuff are really "investments". :)
 
Yes, my Gf will usually roll her eyes or ask "you bought another one?" when I get a new knife I don't tell her about my expenses but I don't hide them either. It's the same when she buys her handbags and perfumes and what not. I just better not let her find the receipt to my sebenza or she might use it on me:p
 
I went and bought two Opinels the other day and showed them to my gf (I her got one too) and she had this look like: wtf another one?! Two?!
I didn't tell her what they cost, since she also got one, but I don't think that it would have helped anyway.
So, I figure there's no point in trying to explain the whole knifenut thing to someone who is completely uninterested and who also gets unsettled by it.
I've tried explaining the hobby to friends and family, but it really only makes it worse.
I leave it alone and keep my gf in the dark when it comes to my knives now. She hasn't seen my entire collection,
because it's not in one place and every time I've showed her one she has started fiddling with something else, uninterested.
Therefor, she'll never know what is new and what is old. It seems unfaithful in a sense, but it's for the greater good,
because if I occasionally buy a couple of cheap chinese knives, a few Moras or perhaps some Opinels it's not a problem.
I don't buy the expensive stuff anymore and the types of knives I buy only amount to pocket change anyway.
 
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Hello all, I'm new in the forum and new in the "buying more knifes than you might need" state of mind.

Well, firstly, of course we know different knives have different uses and therefor maybe 80-90% of the knives I'll own will have a definite purpose, but c'mon, a Katana? Or maybe some tactical ones?

I'll post later on a new thread showing my modest collection, mostly FUNCTIONAL blades(average price EDC's, Outdoor knikes) But how could I defend buying a FÄlkniven F1 over a 20-30 survival knife to my GF(or the Katana)?
We've been toghether now for 10 years and when she met me I already had 1 Katana and bought another one while we went on a trip. From there on I rarely bought a knife and everytime I did it was an specific blade for the ocasion(i.e. a mushroom knife when we went to hunt for mushrooms, a camping folder when we decided to go to the mountain, she even bought me a Victorinox one for a trip to Mexico where I bought another knife just because it was made there and was cheap, this time the excuse was we were shopping for "souvenirs", and same happened when we went to Greece and I bought one just because it had a ram's head in the pummel and she likes rams and most any other animal, really.)

What I'm trying to get to is, she doesn't like knives, she also dozes off when I talk to her about it or even gets anoyed, but in the right circumstances she will find they are usefull or even beautiful(showed her some Chris reeves, etc)

When I bought a Boker( a tactical one I cant find a name for it, i'll post it later) in an impulse and showed her, she didnt get it, was bored when I explained G-10 scales, jimping, etc... But once I carried it in a trip to Sicily, and she used it for LOTS of stuf like fish gutting, food prepairing, even cutting many strings, filaments from her blouse that came loose, bark to make fire, etc..., she loved it, but still cared 0 about jimping, steel grade, grind... She just liked the FUNCTIONALITY or even the looks.

Under the right circumstances SO will apreciate knives, just dont expect them to love them or understand you out of context. Its like I loved cotton candy and bought myself a machine to make my own anytime at any moment of the day. It is a bit out of context to be understood even if they know its a hobby and also enjoy cotton candy!

Hope this book helps, sorry for the lenghth.
 
It's either something you do or do not get. Everything in life is like that. I think Classical music and rock and roll are absolutely brilliant. I can't listen to rap / hip hop because I don't get it; I don't condemn it, I simply do not get it.

I've met many people over the last 10 years or so, who the second I start talking about any piece of fine cutlery, they just don't get it; they see 0 of the appeal, and that's completely fine.

You can't force yourself, or someone else to take interest in something; you either do or do not get it, and move on, it's as simple as that.
 
The Mastiff said:
What does a GF have to do with you buying knives or spending your money? I am correct in assuming it's your money, right? I could see a couple who pool all money but not a "I need permission from my GF"type thing. It makes no sense.
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from the gf? i wouldn't ask her for any kind of permission. The wife depends what time of the month.
 
Beglitched said:
To make this thread more flame worthy, what if i am a girl and she is my domestic partner only bcz we arent allowed to get "married"?
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I don't think that would matter when it comes down to the universal issues of any type of couple, such as how money is going to be spent in the household.

In grad school awhile back, I had a pair of good friends who were a female couple (they were recently legally married). Both of them were reckless spendthrifts, so it might have been good if at least one wanted to curb the spending! BTW, when we would all go camping, they brought along an impressive assortment of cutlery, including "hers & hers" Ka-Bars.
 
As far as I'm concerned, if you're sharing finances, or spending her money, you best talk about it. If you aren't, then you don't need to tell her. I personally went the route of buying my wife a nice knife for herself, and she periodically gets a new sharp object of her choice. Keeps us both happy.
 
I got my knife in the mail yesterday and was considering how to tell her that yes, a new one arrived. She walked in the door and I just held it up for her to see with a big grin. I'm not good at keeping secrets. She didn't even roll her eyes or anything :)
 
The Mastiff said:
What does a GF have to do with you buying knives or spending your money? I am correct in assuming it's your money, right? I could see a couple who pool all money but not a "I need permission from my GF"type thing. It makes no sense.
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New couple or fairly new, the lil lady is starting to gear up for a hostile takeover of some sort. I agree with you. ;)
 
I guess it all depends on your relationship.

My wife and I do a budget each month and stick to it. We both get a certain amount of blow money. If we don't use all of our blow money one month we can carry it over to the next month. We can spend our blow money on anything we want, I can not say anything when she saves up her blow money and buys a $500 purse nor can she say anything when I buy a $300 knife. We always tell each other about our purchases so that we can be excited for each other.

If you are just in a dating relationship I think that you should not keep joint finances. I have seen dating relationships with joint finances fail way to many times with bad consequences. If you are excited about buying a new knife you should tell your girlfriend. If she objects to your knife buying you might should look for a woman who shares your interest or at least does not mind.
 
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Bumgardnern said:
I guess it all depends on your relationship.

My wife and I do a budget each month and stick to it. We both get a certain amount of blow money. If we don't use all of our blow money one month we can carry it over to the next month. We can spend our blow money on anything we want, I can not say anything when she saves up her blow money and buys a $500 purse nor can she say anything when I buy a $300 knife. We always tell each other about our purchases so that we can be excited for each other.

If you are just in a dating relationship I think that you should not keep joint finances. I have seen dating relationships with joint finances fail way to many times with bad consequences. If you are excited about buying a new wife you should tell your girlfriend. If she objects to your knife buying you might should look for a woman who shares your interest or at least does not mind.
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lol is this a good idea? telling your girlfriend your buying a new wife?
 
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