I got my knives confiscated..

My argument would be. I use them for...and then come up with several things you would do with them at home (not out in the communtity like some sort of hoodlum). I open packages, I make things, I fix things, I cut out pictures for school reports. I would also say that I keep them in my desk drawer for use at home...(rather than carrying them around town like some sort of hoodlum). I am learning about metalurgy and mechanical design from using different kinds. These are not big knives like you see on the Home Shopping Network. You have learned to handle them carefully...(look no blood). No one is complaining from school or the neighborhood because you handle are so responsible. Note that your clothing, room and body do not show signs of irresponsible use of the knife.

I couldn't make most of these arguments when I was young since I always carried them and practiced throwing them around the yard and my bedroom.
 
Thanks Guys... She's gonna bring them to my martial arts instuctor, I said, fine by me. (He uses his BM 705 to cut branches, etc)I just hope the Calypso ends up in good hands and not in the NYC dump.
 
Originally posted by GarageBoy
Thanks Guys... She's gonna bring them to my martial arts instuctor, I said, fine by me. (He uses his BM 705 to cut branches, etc)I just hope the Calypso ends up in good hands and not in the NYC dump.
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Hmmmm....you'll never see them again, because if i were him, and i was handed those knifes, they would disapear.
 
GarageBoy,

Lots of good ideas you've gotten so far. Here's another angle (don't forget - I think boys should have knives, but I'm not your parent):

First off - Mom is Mom. No matter how you think she treats you, she is God's gift to you and loves you dearly. You'll understand that when you're 40. But for now trust me on this.

Second, if you've been hiding something, you've broken trust. It's now your job to restore the trust. If you can do that you're going to show her a whole new level of maturity. That's a positive step to getting those blades back. My suggestion here is to think it thru, then apologize (you knew she didn't like them or you wouldn't have hid them).

Third, treat her with the respect she is entitled to from this day forward. Maybe you don't think she's earned it --- that doesn't matter, she's entitled.

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If you take the steps to restore a proper relationship, mark my words, she'll want you to have your treasures back. Don't fake being a son - really be one. You'll be amazed how fast she'll respond. (Mothers are faster at that then dads.)

FWIW,

Steve

PS I was a kid once and have seven children of my own. Trust me on this.
 
My perspective is that knives in a desk drawer are not "hidden" they are only "put away". Knives that have not been noticed before are simply knives used in my room where they are not doing anyone any harm.

Now the knives that I kept buried in ammo boxes in the back yard could rightly be called "hidden". Those were in fact illegal knives and kept good company with the illegal teargas, guns, and explosives also in the boxes. I used to keep cover knives to obscure my illegal knives. I had Italian lockback knives that looked like Italian switchblades in case Mom ran across the real things. I had pellet guns that looked a lot like the real guns and the zip guns I had made.

My point is that you have not done anything that is conspicuously illegal, underhanded or dangerous. I would claim, rightly, that I was doing no harm and that these are legal tools like kitchen knives that are sold in places like Kmart and Walmart. An SAK is basically a Boy Scout Knife. If you check the right website you can find several kinds of knives with BSA logos. These are knives for "good" boys.
 
"Every cent i spend on a knife is a cent i wont be spending on crack, hookers, booze ...but if you insist i shouldnt spend money on knives anymore....":D :D
 
Mom is Mom, but Mom has a responsibility to be reasonable, too.

If I still had what my mother threw out of mine, I'd be rich. :rolleyes: Tarzan comics from the 50's, old science fiction books ... all of them went into the trash when I went off to college. She threw out every pocketknife I had when I was a kid. I didn't hide them, either, I'm talking about four-blade boy scout patterns, peanuts, fishing knives. My Dad replaced them as fast as she trashed them.

When he died, she threw out his pocket knives. It has poisoned the relationship.

Sometimes parents forget that kids will grow up and leave them some day. How far we go depends in part on the respect we get growing up.
 
Originally posted by Keith Montgomery
I hope your mom didn't cut herself too badly.

What kind of a relationship do you have have with your parents? Do they trust you and respect your ability to make good choices? Have you shown yourself to be responsible? Are your parents open to discussing things like this with you or are their minds closed?

Did they know that you had knives or is this something that you hid from them?
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Good question.

Just to show the other side of the coin: my late mother was the one who bought me my first knife, bought me my first rifle, and bought me my first issue of 'Playboy' (it was really a gag gift for a cousin who had just turned 21).

Mom - thanks for the memories. :)
 
I went through my mom's dresser drawer looking for a family momento when I was 13. I found about 5 pocket knives that she had confiscated from me over my earlier years. I think that they were mostly gifts from my grandfather since they were all pre-1940 models. Since I was grown up then (13) she gave them back (after she asked me what I was doing in her dresser drawer).
 
I tried the boy scout page earlier. She was like, stop trying to prove knives are good, but I think I got her thinking...
 
If someone cut themselves on a sharp knife at my house when I was a kid it was because of the way I learned to sharpen a knife in my Cub Scout Handbook. If you can find an old one it was either in the Wolf or Bear Handbook. It was really one of the first things that you were supposed to learn. If you found the right used bookstore you could show here just how much pocket knives are integral to a boy's developement. Clark boys are required to carry pocket knives.
 
I had the same problem when I was younger, but I always stole them back. The same knife went back and forth about 100 times and then she threw it in a pond down the road I fished it out with a magnet and some rope. It got to the point where she was blatant about going thru my stuff, found my playboys and hustlers (traded from an older neighbor for a copy of a computer game) and all the stuff that I got from the flea market like knives, machetes, axes and other items. It all stopped one day when my friend and I went with his brother to town and got footlockers and master locks. My friend was having the same problem with his mom she found some letters that he'd rather not have had her read. I took mine home grabbed all contraband that I had managed to save and locked it tight. I got yelled at but she never managed to toss my stuff again. I still use mine when I have stuff I dont want just anybody to mess with.
 
So I was talking to my boss one day and out of the blue he asks to see my pocket knife. I pull out a locking version of and SAK tinker. He says that it's one of the ways he tells if a man is a real engineer by what kind of pocket knife he carries. He had a lockback that was a little shorter and lighter than a Buck 110. My son who is now an engineering major usually carries a multitool and a Calypso Jr. These days I mostly carry an Adventurer model SAK.
 
Originally posted by GarageBoy
My dad is yelling at my mom for her stupidity.....
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OK, be cool, be cool. Don't get in the middle of it ... I know, how can you help it? Just let them sort things out. :cool:

If you do get the knives back, be very circumspect about where and what you do with them for a while.

Good luck! :)
 
her stupidity meaning, cuttng herself. He was like, if you don't know what you're doing, PUT IT DOWN! Only thing he said was, don't dring it to school, but he didnt back me up either... I'm waiting til I see my martial arts instructor sunday
 
Part of the reason she is upset is because you had them without her knowledge. She does not know your reason for having them or what your use or intended use is/was. I can understand her feelings. Finding them scared the heck out of her because she loves you. I had knives when I was young and the intended use had nothing to do with opening a package.

My son will be 14 next week. He has a very nice collection of balisongs and auto knives. The bali collection is better than most adults have. This is because I am knife collector. However, if he ever took one out of the house without my knowledge and permission, he would loose them all in a second and he knows this. He can carry when he is with me and we are off to the woods to shoot or fish.

Parents read about things like Columbine and it sends a chill up our spine. Even though I have immense trust in my son's judgement, values and training, I still bought a gun safe and only I and my wife know the combination. His guns are locked up with mine. This is not done out of not trusting our son, it is done for my and my wife's peace of mind and also to protect him.

Try and calmly discuss the situation with your Mom. Maybe if you promised her that the knives would never leave the house without her permission and she is welome to look in the drawer where they are kept she might give it a chance. If not, it is because she is still freaked out from finding them. Your first mistake was hidding them from her. Sorry.
 
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