I got my knives confiscated..

GB wrote :
I tried the boy scout page earlier. She was like, stop trying to prove knives are good, but I think I got her thinking...
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(Depending on your mother's temperament) , Hide all the kitchen knives and you wont have to prove anything ;) .

In all seriousness , just be very calm and civil when you discuss this . If you get hot , you will lose and you will never get your stuff back .
 
Good Ideas, I still need to convince her they're not weapons. She pissed because they were sharp. I know I shouldn't have hidden them, but, I was desperate.
 
garageboy, you have had good advice above, I don't think I can add anything to that. but I hope you have taken the time to show concern about your mum's cut finger. Wait for things to simmer down a bit (the dad shouting bit), then later go up to your mum and ask about her finger. Make sure she didn't get a deep cut and such, as that calypso's a surgical blade. Also, "educate" her about the fact that you're a responsible person, that's why the knives are in the drawer etc. and not lying about where people who aren't familiar with the mechanics don't cut themselves.

Tell your mum that you're sorry she got cut (I don't think you should be sorry you got a good tool) and you're sorry you didn't share your hobby with her - you weren't sure how she'd react. But assure her that you're a responsible person and you're serious about using GOOD TOOLS, which is why you paid a good days' wage (a weeks' wage for a lot of people in developing countries) for the Calypso etc.

Tell her what they're used for. It may be that she had a bad experience involving knives, and maybe if her son took the time to "talk" to her, she could herself face up to her fears. No mother would ignore her son trying to reach out to her, at least that's what I think.

When I was growing up, I hid lots of stuff from my parents too....I would make secret compartments here and there. BUT TO THIS DAY, I believe that privacy is sacred, and I was damn pissed when my parents were going through my stuff. If they want to know something, they should just ask. Trust has to be earned both ways.

Good luck.
 
Thanks Spyken and the others. I assed the finger the first thing (she has diabetes which will make the cut a pain to heal, but it's a clean cut), that's the only reason I'm eating dinner tonight.
 
ok, same idea with my mother...

the best title for her 2yrs ago, would have been "queen sheeple". the only time she used a knife was in the kitchen...

we were out for supper, she had to cut food smaller for my neice, and used one of my knives. I got her a spydie ladybug after that... she used it. Her big factor in it was a wager I made her. I'd quit buying knives if she could go a day without using something that needed a cutting edge to form and made day to day life easier. She didn't get out of bed for 2 hrs because as soon as she opened her door she would have lost the bet.:D

now? She has a ladybug in her wallet, buck minitool on her keys, walmart cheapie multitool(4 tools and needlenose pliers) in her purse... and she carries the benchmade hook when they go on the goldwing.

my dad was never big on knives, though he had no problem using em. my grandfather gave me my first(5th bday!), and taught me how to sharpen. Dad is too hard on knives still, think 2-3 of the ones he has still have tips. I bought him a cheapie 2-3yrs ago for fathers day, he uses it for yard and housework...

just gave my folks a CRKT M16 in Carbon Fibre and plain edge on friday... they're fighting over who gets to carry it still.

Mom still doesn't like me buying knives, but would rather I spend 200+ on a knife than 200+ in the bar. At least this way I have something to show in the end, with resale value. I sharpen the kitchen knives, and both parents bring home a bag or box from work every month or so, of knives to sharpen(for profit on my end)...
 
Tell her that you read a lot about knife care and proper knife usage. Tell her everyone says a sharp knife is a safe knife because it takes less effort to cut something. Tell her if they weren't as sharp you'd have to use more force which could result in a much worse cut if you slip. Also a duller edge will result in a more serious cut as it will tear your flesh instead of slicing it.

If she won't listen to reason find at least 20-30 things a day that need cutting open and bring them to her. "Mom! Can you open this! I don't have anything to open this with!"
 
I gave her a copy of the safety pdf that someone uploaded. She just threw it aside. I hope she reads it, or at least look at it.
Should I have a I don't care about the knives attitude?
 
GarageBoy,

What do you mean you assed her finger? :eek:

Right now, I'd be eager to get the knives back, but less eager to convince Mom how responsible I am (of course, I'm not you and don't know your folkd). Sometimes the effort to convert someone pushes them further away no matter how truthful you are.

Lay low, it's how alligators grow to be over 20' long.
 
Originally posted by GarageBoy
Should I have a I don't care about the knives attitude?
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Yes, right now the more you push the more she will see you as being obsessed with them. She isn't being rational so any logic you use will be lost on her. Give it a while, a few days or weeks, play it cool and see what happens. It may be that you won't get her blessing to bring knives into her home again. But it isn't worth butting heads over, you'll just end up resenting her and she'll think you're dangerous.

Good luck
 
GarageBoy:

I hope you learned something from all of this. You need a better hiding place. :)
 
I guess you have to round up all the kitchen knives in the house and throw them in the trash...those thing are dangerous you know! Better throw away the oven too...you could shove someone's head in there and bake them to death...

Man, I'm glad my parents never cared about my knife collection when I was a kid...
 
A few years ago, I gave my father in law a really nice engraved spyderco copilot for his birthday. As soon as he opened the box my mother in law shouted "A knife!? Who needs to carry a knife? She grabbed it and nobody has seen it since.:mad: :mad: :mad:

--Dave
(still mad about it:mad: )
 
You can't expect a woman to understand these things. It's not her fault. Give her some time.
 
We've got women on Bladeforums who understand. My wife sure understood. She's gotten a few fixed blades as presents from me, and she knows how to use them outside the kitchen, too.
 
I'm not going to repeat things over and over again, but I support Hawaian and Sando's point of view: lay everything flat without trying to convince your mom of anything, no more hide anything then let her come at her own pace... :)
You'd be surprised how comprehensive your mother can get, because she loves you (and you love her, huh? ;) ).
Alright, keep us up to date with this, you see you have lots of people here you can talk to...
 
That sucks GarageBoy!:( I'm impressed though, being 15 and owning decent knives.

Your mother is trying to do what she thinks is right for you. She goes through one of your drawers and OH MY GOD :eek: my baby's got knives. What is he doing that he needs a knife for? She's in the shock and dismay phase now and the most reasonable thing that she can think of is to take those dangerous tools away. She might think that they're illegal and doesn't want to see you get into trouble.

The best thing you can do is let her cool down, try not to argue or get snippy with her(you can't fight fire with fire), and when she has calmed down ask to talk to her about this. Hopefully she comes to you first to talk.

Good luck and keep us updated.
 
btw, garageboy, how old are you? (not that it really matters but it may give a clearer perspective to the situation) do you live in an area with strong gang presence / activity etc (seeing as you are in NYC)?

the lie low bit is good advice, but you should also get yourself a locked box in the meantime...to keep your educational documents, passport, private journal etc. regardless of your age, everyone needs some private space.

I would just forget about the knives for the time being, purchase another calypso jr, then stash it away in the locked box. I have to admit I don't get your mom's "hysteria" over the knives, unless she equates them to illegal/illicit/gang activities (as sheeple sometimes do).

Are you involved with the wilderness / outdoors? I realise those who have been outdoors in the backcountry immediately recognise the importance of having a knife.
 
At the very least have you dad ask your mom to let him clean and close the knives. Let them sit too long and you won't want them back. Indeed, let her cool down. I know how moms worry about there kids. Being 17 my mom still worries when she see me "playing" with my Endura or any knife for that matter. The best thing you can hope for is that she finds you surfing here some night and has an open mind.

You're in my prayers GB. And that list is getting long. I'm gonna have to start writing all these down. Or get less friends........ :)
 
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