Deker, you have nothing to apologize for. I hope you didn't take offense at the way I approached this. I wanted a non-confrontational way of trying to tell you, though, that you have no real way of knowing whether your mineral oil is good stuff for quenching just because something with that generic name worked for someone else. Sincerely, I knew you would see this and was only trying to help in my own awkward way. I hope you got it that the
only thing I was trying to say is that not all mineral oil is created the same. I am not looking to pick a fight with anyone, or cast aspersions.
Your problem may be the vet grade mineral oil, or it may be you have burned too much carbon out of your billet. (Make sure you are far enough through the oxide layer to know for sure you are testing "clean" steel with the file.) Nick said it best about eliminating variables. By eliminating the variable that your oil may be the problem, you thus can do better troubleshooting. One thing I would suggest is to take a small tab of your damascus, heat it to critical, and swish it around in warm water. If that's still softer than expected, you have a problem with the steel or temps. If it's hard, then you have a quenching problem. If it blows apart, smile, grab a shard and put the file to it. (You can also go back and test your starting steels in your mineral oil and see if they harden using your typical procedure.) It's a good thing to test hardenability on a scrap of every billet before you proceed to make sure something bad hasn't happened.
If your billet and/or starting steel hardens in water, it's time to change something.
On to quench oils. I will state this at the onset:
Kevin Cashen or mete are the best to discuss this with.Definitely not me. For your mix of steels you want "medium fast to fast" quench speed.
There's a list of quench speeds on this thread but Kevin has pointed out that the speeds may not be accurate because of varying test methods.
http://www.bladeforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=402054
Nonetheless, if you pick from the upper middle to top of the list you should be ok if you're shooting for pure martensite in the edge and minimize fine pearlite. I have Park 50 for my 1084/15N20 damascus. I also don't edge quench.
Some of those are very tough to get in small quantities. You might call your local Heatbath rep (Parks 50)and see what they can do for you.
Brownell ToughQuench will get into a decent speed range if heated warm enough. Expensive. Also, get quench oil too hot and it starts to lose efficacy. I think there are better choices in this instance.
K&G in AZ sells high speed quench nowadays, and may be worth a shot if you want to spend that much for the juice+shipping across country.
Personally, in order to get it in smaller quantities from a decent "local" source, I would get a gallon from Mcmaster Carr of their faster oil and test it for your method.
3202K4
Quenching Oil 11-Second Quench Time, 1-Gallon Container
In stock at $13.63 Each
That's my recommendation. Don't trust my recommendation any more than I trust others.

I make mistakes, too.