The knife disliking spouse...

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JTmisterknifeguy

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Any forumites out there whose better halves think your knife interest/obsession is at best a waste of energy and money, and at worst a psychosis? I carry usually 2 folders (usually CS) for utility and sd as I'm not "allowed" to carry a G21 or something similar.
How do you guys deal with it???
Cheers
JT.
 
I always find this topic somewhat sad and amusing at the same time. Being an adult, it's always sad to see when another adult in this case a spouse "prohibits" any activity which the other spouse might find enjoyable. I'm not talking illegal, immoral, or anything regarding those lines. But simply carrying, collecting, and use of a knife. It's mostly unreasonable and considered a controlling behavior, which in and of itself a deeper issue.

So long as the bills are paid, food on the table, and other responsibilities are taken care of why would there be a problem? Again in my case, as an adult I don't need to ask anyone for permission or approval to put something I own in my pocket or on my belt. I don't think I could handle being in a relationship like that, being treated like a kid instead of like a man isn't cool. Buy what you want, carry what you want, you're a grown man. By the way, does she know you are on the computer? ;)
 
Well said Rev!

My fiancé is ok with my addiction.... heck, shes even starting to like it herself.
 
SideTracked said:
Well said Rev!

My fiancé is ok with my addiction.... heck, shes even starting to like it herself.
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THAT'S the answer. Find out BEFORE the marriage if she's gonna wail about things you enjoy.

For those who have taken up knives AFTER marriage, well guys..... you got what you picked. Sorry bout dat. :(
 
my wife knows how much joy I receive from my knives.she even threw knives with me yesterday before she went away on a planned trip.she is super supportive of my knife lifestyle.i am very lucky and I know this.
I think it all comes down to balance.
best of luck!!!
 
Hello!

Rev, well there is one thing I had to think about when I read your post - one of the funniest lines amongst watch collectors:

"When I'm dead, tell my wife to sell my watches at their real price, not the price I told her."

Regards,
Alex
 
+1 Rev. My better half carries knives and guns, most of which I have bought her. It she refused to try to enjoy the same things I do and made up rules for what I can and can not do we certainly would not have been together for 20+ years. I can see in some cases where rules of behavior are needed. In cases of drug or alcohol addictions, severe mental or health problems, legal problems, dire money problems or other things of those natures. Will she at least try to cut you some slack? Have you tried buying her some good kitchen cutlery and kept them very sharp for her? Mine loves very sharp kitchen knives. Try taking her to the range to make a little noise? All you can do is make your best effort. If she doesn't like it or refuses to that's fine, but she should leave it at that and not restrict your life. Happy relationships are based on co-operation and partnership. I am happy when she is happy and vis verse. The best of luck to both of you.
 
My GF supports my hobby as well, shes not into knives, but loves my spyderco southard and stole it from me.

she wasnt even mad when I bought 3 chris reeves in a month.
 
My wife (then girlfriend) thought it was strange at first. She then started catching herself daily wanting to use my knives. She now carries a Spyderco Ambitious daily and is even wanting to upgrade to a mini-grip. Life is good on my end!
 
A.l.e.x. said:
Hello!

Rev, well there is one thing I had to think about when I read your post - one of the funniest lines amongst watch collectors:

"When I'm dead, tell my wife to sell my watches at their real price, not the price I told her."

Regards,
Alex
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That is truly funny Alex, and sometimes ue. My wife has bought me several knives as gifts so she knows where to go to look up prices. :eek:
 
A.l.e.x. said:
Hello!

Rev, well there is one thing I had to think about when I read your post - one of the funniest lines amongst watch collectors:

"When I'm dead, tell my wife to sell my watches at their real price, not the price I told her."

Regards,
Alex
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I'm not sure I know what you're talking about, but if I did I'm pretty sure it's really funny.. ;)
 
when I receive knife/gun stuff in the mail or from ups my wife just rolls her eyes and goes back into the kitchen...
 
JTmisterknifeguy said:
Any forumites out there whose better halves think your knife interest/obsession is at best a waste of energy and money, and at worst a psychosis? I carry usually 2 folders (usually CS) for utility and sd as I'm not "allowed" to carry a G21 or something similar.
How do you guys deal with it???
Cheers
JT.
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I don't think anyone here(other than you) has to deal with it, so I doubt you'll get an answer that will help much.

Maybe try going to a marriage counselor. Other than that I have nothing.
And I'm not trying to be disrespecful to you or your wife, and hope you don't take it that way. I just think when one isn't "allowed" to do normal things there could be larger problems down the road if not addressed.
 
What the hell is a G-21.

My wife thinks I am crazy more or less.
But does understand that is just me.
With a few kids I don't buy anything anymore. So she has nothing to complain about other than my time wasted on here.

The other day I was walking outside to leave with my daughter, she ran outside and said dont leave without your knife. My only EDC , ZT 561. What a sweety pie. Mostly im just happy she lets my get away with long meditative sharpening sessions.
 
My wife sees no reason I need more...but doesn't care if I buy more. I use my money, not the family money.
 
RevDevil said:
I always find this topic somewhat sad and amusing at the same time. Being an adult, it's always sad to see when another adult in this case a spouse "prohibits" any activity which the other spouse might find enjoyable. I'm not talking illegal, immoral, or anything regarding those lines. But simply carrying, collecting, and use of a knife. It's mostly unreasonable and considered a controlling behavior, which in and of itself a deeper issue.

So long as the bills are paid, food on the table, and other responsibilities are taken care of why would there be a problem? Again in my case, as an adult I don't need to ask anyone for permission or approval to put something I own in my pocket or on my belt. I don't think I could handle being in a relationship like that, being treated like a kid instead of like a man isn't cool. Buy what you want, carry what you want, you're a grown man. By the way, does she know you are on the computer? ;)
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This! Couldn't say it any better myself. Mine doesn't want to sit around & talk about them or admire them just like how I dont want to sit around & talk about clothes. :) She never discourages me from enjoying my hobby though & will even attempt to act like she cares from time to time lol.
 
My wife may not like it, but she doesn't stop me from doing what I want with my own money, and she knows she wouldn't stand a chance telling me what I can and can not carry.

She actually stopped complaining about knives when I started buying firearms, which she was completely against but only because she wasn't raised around them. Since being offered safety courses she has warmed up to the idea of owning and using knives and firearms.

She now carries a knife in her purse and we just went shopping for a nice subcompact 9mm for her.
 
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Ken44 said:
I don't think anyone here(other than you) has to deal with it, so I doubt you'll get an answer that will help much.

Maybe try going to a marriage counselor. Other than that I have nothing.
And I'm not trying to be disrespecful to you or your wife, and hope you don't take it that way. I just think when one isn't "allowed" to do normal things there could be larger problems down the road if not addressed.
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Thing is, she's grown up with a very anti-self defense and anti firearm mindset. There is little I can do to unindoctrinate her as far as what she's learned and heard. I knew his before I got involved with her, and for the most part she tolerates my fondness for cutlery, I just keep my Ruger and Marlin in the safe along with my versions of "safe queen" knives and not strapped to my hip.
Which I get to a point, she's a 4th year med student who has heard so much that pit bulls, pistols, and scary looking tactical knives are hazardous to own...?
I grew up in a "tactical" family getting machetes, buck knives and BB guns since I was 7.
We used a cold steel hand and a half to cut our wedding cake.
She just thinks it's ridiculous to spend money (and not 6.99 on a "made in China" at the gas station) on a new knife when I have +30 knives. To her knives, are SAKs on your keychain or in the knife block, or else what psychos or CIA agents use on victims...


I figured that the majority of guys on here are the "tough luck Honey!!!" crowd (no disrespect gentlemen), so I wasn't expecting a chorus of advice, but I like reading your responses. :)
 
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