what do i do now, im very sad

JTknives

JTknives

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well i woke up saterday morning and my wife was standing at the end of the bed. she says she has decided to move out. she is now gone and i have been staying at a frends house till to day. but now im home and it starting to hit me and i dont feel very good. i have knife orders i need to finish but i dont think i can today. i just dont know what to do and am very depresed. thank you for all your help and suport over the years.
 
Sorry to hear about your situation! I don't claim in any way to know how you are feeling, but hope you get through these upcoming days and weeks with the knowledge that time is a great healer. Theres nothing wrong with taking some time for yourself, people will understand.

Try to focus on a few things that make you happy, or even one thing, and do it. Nothing wrong with being a little selfish when times are hard. There will be plenty of time to reflect on things and think them out, but shortly after something bad happens, its hard to have the capacity to handle a situation and rationalize it.

If nothing else works, heat up a big bar of steel and smash it into oblivion until you are ready for bed, and fall asleep knowing the next day WILL be easier than the last. Hang in there!
 
You have some tallent with the knives you make. Something to be proud of. Work helps. I look forward to seeing much more of the knives you make.
 
I am sadly not good at giving advice but I will pray for you my friend. Hang in there and we are here to listen.

Pad
 
J, sorry to hear that man, been there done that, twice now. Only thing I would tell you is to do something that makes YOU happy.
 
J, I'm sorry to hear of the bad news. Try to stay busy and things always pass with time. It helps to have good friends around. This forum is a 24 hour help-line. Ive seen people get support here when times were tough for them. Ask if you need anything, anything at all, Prayer included.
 
Hang in there. I am new here but wish to offer my sympathy.

I have found that getting good and tired by hammering on a screaming hot piece of metal is wonderful therapy.
 
I think you're very talented. I really like the work that you do, and the creativity in your designs. I hope things work out.

Larry...
 
It's a bad feeling for a little while, but the way to get over it is to get busy with what you do best, instead of dwelling on it.
 
Ouch! Hang in there and take care of yourself. I lost way too much weight with my grief and mourning when that happened to me. It's OK to be sad. It's OK to take some time off. It's OK to try and figure things out...it's OK not to try and figure it out. Just hang lose friend. Sometimes you'll probably find you just want to be alone. That's OK. Sometimes it's a good time for a friend. If so, reach out and ask for some company. Women tend to be a lot better at doing that than men typically are. Glad you posted here with your friends and colleagues! Relax and breathe. You might want to connect with nature in whatever ways you do. The world is a large place. Sometimes its a gift when we have a chance to remember just what a mystery we are a part of. We're glad you're a part of it with us.

On another note, I'm making progress building my belt grinder. Thanks for posting the sketches and photos of your really cool swiveling tool head. I have a 8" Sunray wheel on its way and a box of skateboard wheel due in soon too. (I'm hoping to be able to use them as idler and contact wheels.) I'm trying to make my own wooden drive and tracking wheels. We'll see how it goes. Wish me luck, as I do you!
 
Damn man. That sounds like hell bro. I'm sorry to hear you're suffering like this.

I'll keep you in my prayers.
 
JT-

It might be a good time to seek help in your area, either from close friends, a support group, a church leader, or a professional counselor. There is hope, perhaps if not for the marriage--which there may still be--at least for you. I'll be praying for you.
 
JT,

My heart aches just to think about it. I wouldn't know what to do with myself if my fiance decided to leave me. I pray for you that God's peace and purpose will be evident in your life. It doesn't matter if you're a believer or not, I pray it the same. There's no easy way out of it. You've just gotta survive the pain and keep placing one foot in front of the other.

Something a friend told me that rings very true....the only thing that can help in these situations is: time, distance, and lack of communication.

Hang on to friends and family for help, keep as busy as you can, and don't turn to anything artificial (doesn't matter what it is) to "help" you through. I promise it will only make things worse. Keep everything real, keep moving, keep doing.

God bless you, my friend.

--nathan
 
thanks every one for all the great advice it means a lot to me. thank you for the prayers thay are welcomed.
 
Prayers and well wishes sent for you. You don't know me, but I'll extend the offer for you to email me or something if need someone to talk to. I haven't mentioned it around here, but I recently went through the same thing.
 
I got divorced a year and a half ago. It's a b*tch. My advice: Stay away from any potentially dangerous equipment for a while. It is way too easy to get distracted from emotions and hurt yourself (this may include driving!). Also talking to friends about or writing down your thoughts and feelings really helps in getting your head straightened out. Hang in there.

Cheers Rody
 
J.
Sorry to hear about this.
Hopefully you can find someone to talk to who can help you figure out your next move.
hang in there
 
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