what do i do now, im very sad

JT
Not much left to say after what has already been posted. All of it is true... Many here, myself included have been through the same. It's hard to believe but tomorrow really will be a better day and the day after better yet.... Time heals all wounds. Take a deep breath breath, and keep your chin held high, even when your eyes are watering for some strange reason.:D
Prayers sent
Matt Doyle
 
Sorry to hear that, after my wife left my world fell apart.All I did was work and hang out in the local bar.Then I met my present wife. She makes my world.I realize now that if the first one hadnt left I wouldn't have met this one.Now I realize how happy I really wasn't. My wife is my reason for liveing and I'm amazed every day that she loves me,and have been for 20 years now. As Garth Brooks said" sometimes I thank god for unanswered prayers," Hang in man it can get better than you imagine.
 
thank you all. you have no idea how much you have helped me. as for doing somthing for my self, did that. i went out and bought an XD45 4" with OD frame and put 300 rounds through it. my wife told me i would never own a gun, and i gave them up for her. i love shooting and find it very relaxing. also the mechene shop i was looking forward to working for that turned me down 2 months ago called me 2 days ago and want me to work for them :D.
 
good luck man, sorry for your loss. its good to get out and shoot things (Hunter thompson use to do it all the time) another fun thing is to go blow s**t up. (no illegal stuff, I'm not condoning that) great stress reliever and fun

my prays are with you friend.
 
I've been trying to find something to say since you told me, but I there aren't words wiser than those already given to you.

Those of us that have been there feel for you. Call on people as you need them, don't try to go it on your own. Take care of yourself.


David
 
JTknives said:
thank you all. you have no idea how much you have helped me. as for doing somthing for my self, did that. i went out and bought an XD45 4" with OD frame and put 300 rounds through it. my wife told me i would never own a gun, and i gave them up for her. i love shooting and find it very relaxing. also the mechene shop i was looking forward to working for that turned me down 2 months ago called me 2 days ago and want me to work for them :D.
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JT, hang in there. The .45 do help don't it :cool: My stress relief is a P220, so I know what you are talking about! Glad to hear about the job.
 
Sorry J, I hope this can help you, my history is a lot worst, because my fiancee actually died some years ago. We were on the road, a sleepy trucker hit me. When I woke up I just saw us scattered in the middle of this road, pieces of my F-250 and the darkness of a 4:00 AM morning. My family helped me a lot. After that, there were no way being the same person I was, don't remember exactly the way I started making knives, but were after that. Now I am really happy with my new fiancee and my knifemaker career. When I remember those days before that crash, I remember as another person.
I had to live another life to live well.
Hope I helped.
 
my wife told me i would never own a gun
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That right there is just wrong. Good for you going out and getting a new toy!

Glad to hear about the job offer too. Makes it easier to fund all that .45 ACP you'll go through :D :D :thumbup:
 
New toys are good. :D If you have trouble sleeping at night now, I always found reading to help me when I had trouble getting the break up off my mind. Reading yourself to sleep is probably healthier than the alternative.

..Hey, maybe now you'll have the cash to get a better shop :thumbup:

Good luck, I know how rough it can be.
 
Jarod,
In the current unit I am in we have an extremely large divorce rate (never home).
Having your life controled by someone is not a very good life in my opinion. Things happen for a reason and maybe it just wasn't ment to be? Either wayI'm sure things will work out for the best for you! Take the job if you want it and enjoy your firearms! I believe this is a blessing in disguise for you.
I wish you the best, and will keep you in my prayers!

Very Respectfully,
Stefan


BTW, be careful with the XD's. Double check the chamber prior to take down for cleaning since you have to drop the hammer on them to dissasemble which generaly results in negligent discharges if not done.
 
Sounds good that you are beating a positive drum. Keep on and prayers sent for you on my end.
 
here is my new toy :D

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looks nich hu :D
 
ya im carfull. i love life even when its sucky. every one on hear has helped me so much today. i feal much better talking about it.
 
Nice spool of 550 cord!!!
Good to see your keeping your head up!!!

I'm the one who should be depressed!!! Did you see the pictures I posted of my knife I'm working on????? Wow, I suck!!!

Get yourself a 1911 .45 acp and do your own customizing or get a shotgun and do some skeet shooting!!

Take care!
 
Hey, JT, sorry to hear about this. You have to look at the positives in the situation. At least you are not in over your head on a monster house with an impossible mortgage. You don't have a bunch of kids to make it way worse. My best friend told me he was planning on leaving his wife, and was looking for a place to move out. Then a little bit later he calls me and tells me that she is pregnant. They got divorced after the baby, and she immediately moved up to Utah with the kid, while his profession kept him down in Arizona. He missed a lot of his child's growing up. The situation was made more negative by him cheating on her before the divorce.

My advice would be to think about exactly what you want, and how you feel. Tell her honestly and try to keep it calm. Tell her what you want and how you feel. That is all you can do, and she will make what ever decision she decides. Just try not to do anything you will regret later. If it ends you will be better of if you aren't bothered by anything that you did.

Oh, and nice gun. Next time when I am down there we will have to go out and go shooting.

I will be thinking about you.
 
Sorry to hear you're going through a hard time. Plenty of great advice already written. Went through it myself almost 10 years ago. The best talk I had was actually with my father in law. (he'd done it himself a couple of times) He told me that no matter how much I wanted to blame her for everything take a long hard look at the whole picture. Nobody's perfect. Nobody does something for no reason at all. It may not be a good reason but they have a reason. If someone isn't happy in a relationship and doesn't want to make it work it won't work. The other person can't make it work on their own.
It took a little while but I realized that I loved her and I wanted her to be happy. At the time I wasn't the one that could make her happy. So I truly became happy for her for making the move to do what she had to do. Life is too short to be unhappy for even a day if possible. I became very happy living alone. :) We got along very well after we split up. Which was good for my son. Well enough that we actually got back together 4 years ago. Not sure if that makes me an optomist or an idiot. Time will tell. Sorry for the long rambling. Always look for the silver lining it's there.
 
Bro, I have gone through it too. I am here too, if you need someone to talk to. Just keep busy as you can and talk to someone if you feel that you need help.
My cell is 508 951 2719:thumbup:
 
JT I am sorry for what you are going through and I will be praying for you. I encourage you to find the way that you work through things and focus there. I liked to Drive at night to help me think when I was younger now I enjoy going to the garage and working with my car or my knife making. You have been around long enough to know how you deal with things, find that way. if you need to take a break from making knives (Not coming here to talk and visit) do it your customers should understand.

If I had any advice or things I would say to you it is this.
1. God is good and is there with us through our worst hours of life.
2. Good Friends will always stand up for us and with us, even if we push them away when were angry or grieving.
3. Forgiving someone even when they hurt us helps us to heal faster.
4. Tomorow is a new day.
 
Sorry to hear that. My advise would be to seek seek the support of friends and lean on God. I will be praying for you.

Allen
 
Dude
good luck. I don't know the particulars of why she decided to leave, that's between the two of you. 12 years ago my ex fiance dumped me for the mayor of my home town (she had also decided to become a stripper) I was destroyed. I decided that I needed to get out of town since the guy she left me for was on the front page of the local news every day (just rubbing salt in the wounds) so I reassesed my life, I had dropped out of college 10 years before I reapplied, got accepted and finished my degree, got a masters degree and moved on. It took a lot of years to let go of that one, but I am now married to a wonderful woman who encourages me to work with metal, used to keep me company in my machine shop as dates, and keeps me company in my jewelry studio when I work (my ex fiancee used to demand that all my time be focused on her, and saw my shop time as taking away from her)

This will probably hurt for a while. Focus on your work and friends. Do not get sucked into the abyss of alcohol and drugs or self destructive behavior, and it's hard to avoid anger, but anger and self pity will both eat you up if you let them.

Good luck, let's see some amazing blades!

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