what do i do now, im very sad

Sounds like you are on the right road now mate:thumbup: Shooting guns has always been medicine to me. When I'm feeling stressed out, firing a few hundred rounds seems to really help lift your spirit.

Nick:)
 
JT , keep your chin up Bro !
I think most folks on here have been thru this or similiar and can relate that hollow , empty feeling.
So , you know what one of my best friends told me years ago to do in situations like this ? It may sound funny but I promise it works... next time you feel yourself getting really bummed , just picture her using the bathroom. This breaks down any 'princess' images and immediatly puts her in your mind as just another person. :D

I promise you , this works ! no calories , no hangover and does not coast a dime. :)
( plus it will probably make you chuckle ) :D
 
JT,

I know you don't know me, but I went through the same thing a very short time ago. I feel your pain. I would like to share a few thoughts on the subject that truly helped me through the tough times.

Remember that you will get through this and the pain and hurt does pass. Look at being with your wife as your preference not a need to exist. When you start to view it this way you understand that you can go on and it starts to make sense.

Try to stay out of your thoughts, at this time in your life most of your thoughts are negative. Be in the moment, Doesn't matter what you are doing.

This is where I think making knives could be a huge benefit for you. If you are at the grinder or at the forge. Lose yourself in that moment, focus all your energy on that piece of steel and nothing else. There are no other thoughts in your mind. That's what it means to be in the moment. I know that these may be hard concepts to understand but I will bet that if you try it will make this time easier. The reason shooting that new pistol feels so good is because when you are looking downrange at the target you are completely in the moment, focused. Nothing negative thoughts. I am sorry if I rambled on the subject but my thoughts are with you. Take care of yourself.

Paul
 
we talked today (text messages) and want each to be happy. we both want to be frends. that is what it was like anyway for the last year.
 
JTknives said:
well i woke up saterday morning and my wife was standing at the end of the bed. she says she has decided to move out. she is now gone and i have been staying at a frends house till to day. but now im home and it starting to hit me and i dont feel very good. i have knife orders i need to finish but i dont think i can today. i just dont know what to do and am very depresed. thank you for all your help and suport over the years.
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My hearts with you man.I too had a girlfriend who I loved more than anything walk out on me.I remember feeling I'd rather get beat with a baseball bat within inches of my life,than to go through that pain.I know it's easy to say,but it's true "Time heals all wounds".It took a good two years to finally get over it,but a day doesn't go by that I don't think about her & what could've been.Hang in there buddy.It will get easier with time.A good tip is to engross yourself in your work.It'll keep your hands & your mind busy.It's better than sitting around do nothing.:(
 
The best thing you can do is leave the past where it is and be friends (or at least not enemies). My ex-wife, whom I have a daughter with so I have to deal with her on a regular basis, is bent on revenge. She would love nothing better than to know I had nothing and can't accept the fact that I am happier without her. I love my daughter so I deal with it, but it still bothers me. Try to keep your spirits as high as you can and look to the future...
 
Dont lose hope buddy, I went through a few of them, and FINALLY at the age of 38 have wound up with the RIGHT woman.

Take some time to get your thoughts right, turn that depression into energy and you will crank out the best knives of your life.
 
RMLamey said:
Dont lose hope buddy, I went through a few of them, and FINALLY at the age of 38 have wound up with the RIGHT woman.

Take some time to get your thoughts right, turn that depression into energy and you will crank out the best knives of your life.
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Lamey, that's hilarious, I was going to say the same thing. I got divorced twice and now at the age of almost 39 am with the greatest lady on the planet. It couldn't be better, her father is a blacksmith, she understands and wants to be part of the craft with me and fully supports me. Ex just wanted the check, my fiance asked me the other day "you've been making knives, where are you getting supplies from, don't you need to take some of that money to buy more supplies?" wow, a lady that understands steel and belts don't just magically appear.
 
I met my wife when I was 35 (she had been apparently scorekeeping fencing matches and hoping to catch my attention for a couple years previous but I hadn't noticed her) she lived in Syracuse, I lived in Rochester, my shop was at my mother's in Ithaca, I had work to do on weekends, so we would meet in Ithaca, and she would keep me company in the shop while I worked, then we would go out (sometimes) sometimes she would just keep me company in the shop. The first time she went there some photo students were supposed to photograph me making a knife, she thought I was crazy forging and machining up a part for the garden tractor, (it was apart all over the lawn when she showed up and she thought it would never go back together) and it completely broke her head that I forged a bottle opener and then a knife out of a crowbar.
She doesn't mind me working, she pays for me to go to hammer-ins when we can't afford it, once I proved to her that when I buy a tool it generally pays for itself and then some she has not questioned any of my tool purchases, and even encouraged me to use the tax refund to buy casting equipment. She didn't mind that when I had my photo studio before we got married I was sometimes making money photographing strippers (once she was confident that I wasn't cheating on her with them) She encourages me to play music when I have time (even though the time I spend playing music is not generally profitable) and she has been very supportive when I have been laid off fom te day jobs and we have had to try to make it on my business and her paycheck.

If you can remain friends with your wife, if you are meant to be together you will work out whatever was wrong (Don't count on it though) if things do not go that way you will probably be better off in the long run. I was engaged to 4 women when I was younger, none of them would have been good long term wives for me, I am very happy I did not get stuck with them (although the lessons I learned from those breakups prepared me for my current happiness although they desroyed me at the time) as i was available when the right wife came along.

-Page
 
Jt! I know how ya feel! I came home from work at midnight a long time ago and found boxes piled up by the door. She told me she was leaving cause i didn't love her anymore! Not true at all! After crying and banging my head against the wall,(literally) I came to the conclution that I needed to forget about her and did. Sad part was i skipped conservation school and got a job to support her and have kids. Never had the balls to go back to school and lost the career i always dreamed of. women! Carry on the best you can and just tell the clients you have the truth! If they can't understand that they don't deserve a knife you made! JW
 
Hang in there bro. Focus on yourself for a while, just like you've been doing. Sounds like it's long overdue. It'll all work out in the end, you'll see.

Take care,
Brook
 
stay positive - Maybe you wil be better off. Finding out sonner than later is always better IMHO. Crank the tunes and makes knives bro. Seeing you stay on a positive path is always good to see looking from her side of the fence anyways.
 
Life has its toll's

how have you been treating her? are knives more important than her?

only you know



this may be for the best although your gonna feel it for awhile,

just rember everytime you go down hard you get back up stronger

pain is often what will drive you to become a better person all around

all things happen for a reason so just wait for that reason to come along
 
Troop said:
Blessing in disguise.:thumbup:
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When my ex left it broke my heart. I turned into a total piece of crap for a while. Took me years to realize she was doing me the favor of a lifetime. Don't waste those years like I did.
 
Year and a half ago my girlfriend left me. I was in hell. But backthere I started making knives:jerkit: , training filipino martial arts, tracking in nature for weeks. I was free to know myself better. When we met this year I thank to her for giving me all that freedom, that I was in need, but I didn't realize. She told me that I'm crazy. :D

God puts you in that kind of situation for a reason. Don't spend this time in sadness. I realize that when you are living with a woman - you somehow forget what you have been before that. And when she left - you need time to get back to yourself. Have a nice trip back to yourself, man :).

I realy enjoy your grinding tutorials and file testing films. Thanks for the free sharing of your skills. :thumbup:
 
ib2v4u said:
When my ex left it broke my heart. I turned into a total piece of crap for a while. Took me years to realize she was doing me the favor of a lifetime. Don't waste those years like I did.
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Exactly what ib2v4u said... I'm on the second divorce and it doesn't hurt near as much as the first one, because this time I kept myself intact and did not become co-dependant. (Plus, she went through money like poop through a goose!) Now I can afford to buy the tools and toys I never expected to have. I hope to have a good woman sometime in the future, but I'm not going to go hunting. Good women don't need to be hunted, just recognized when they come along.

And if you do have that awful robotic feeling, and nothing gives you pleasure or has meaning at this time, rest assured it will come back and you will be happy again. No B.S.

Take care,

Dave
 
Hang in there, something better will come along. My second wife loves and supports me, not only in my knifemaking but with my career and family. My ex would just berate me. My ex- told me all I was good for was working in a factory. My second wife encouraged me to apply for other jobs and now I am doing better in a new town with a new job as an NDE inspector.

Our ex'es think that by leaving us they are punishing us. In fact, they are doing us a huge favor.
 
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